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Men Fake Foreplay ... And Other Lies That Are True

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The problem with 99% of all relationship advice books is that they are written for women because women read them and women buy them. Most guys aren't buying books about how to have better relationships. Consequently, all the advice is some variation of what women need to change about themselves in order to land the right man and be happy.

Many of the Amazon Reader reviews of "He's Just Not That Into You" seemed to say, "Okay. We'll raise our expectations because we deserve better. THEN what? Where are the books asking men to change THEIR behavior? "

This is that book. Mike Dugan writes about all of the obstacles men face in trying to become decent men in a "boys will be boys" world. It's about men learning to be accountable for the results of their behavior. Dugan looks at the importance of treating women with respect - and he slams the absence of that attitude in popular culture.

The world isn't designed to help men do the right thing. The world is designed to help men do the easy thing. Unfortunately, the right thing and the easy thing are rarely the same thing. Dugan bucks the status quo and slams Howard Stern, Tom Leykis, and other "terminally adolescent" men who think it's cute and funny to diminish women to their sexual and physical attributes. This isn't some "men don't put the toilet seat down, and women get PMS" look at the difference between men and women.

This is a thought provoking and very funny book. For any woman who has ever wondered, "WHAT... is he thinking??" or any man with a sincere desire to better understand the forces that drive him, this is one of the funniest and best written books you'll find.

My husband insists that since most books of this nature are written by women, that he's just "misunderstood". I can't believe how relieved I was to read one written by a MAN, and a REAL man, that happens to agree with everything I've been trying to explain for years. I'm sure his book isn't popular with the male segment of society...he's ratted them out. But for those of us who were beginning to believe that we might actually be frigid, unemotional, and bordering on insane, this book was a welcome relief. I laughed out loud many times, and ended one chapter in tears. Way to go Mike Dugan, you just might be the only REAL man on earth!

I wish all men would read this book. It helped my relationship so much. In fact, I put it peacefully by my husband's nightstand and the next thing I know we were having a spirited dialogue about our relationship and yes, good sex. Thanks Mike Dugan. Good for you.

This is a beautiful little book that delivers great wisdom with humor. It's really entertaining, but before you know it it sneaks up on you and reminds you that you know in your heart what's right - you've always known what was right - but somewhere along the line you lost your way and you're having trouble finding your way home. This is NOT a joke book. It's funny as hell all the way through and the humor is great and sucks you in, but soon you're on a ride taking a look at all of the good and bad "influences that shape a man's character."

Dugan reminds men that the easier, softer way is rarely the route to the kind of character that they should be bringing to their relationships. He talks about men taking more responsibility for the effect they have on the world. He talks about "gentle strength" and describes it beautifully. And he gently nudges men and women towards an ideal that might just work for all of us. I agree with the reviewer who called him a philosopher. The fact that he gets a powerful and compassionate message across without preaching, or shaming men, and it's funny and he accomplished it all in 118 pages, makes me really admire his writing ability.

Men Fake Foreplay is a fun ride, full of insight, and when I finished it I immediately wanted to read it again. It's that good. Read it. Then send it to your ex-boyfriend and help make the world a better place.

My mom gave me this book. I'm 15. This book talks about alot of things I need to deal with. I grew up without a dad, so alot of the things the author talks about are things I sure don't learn from other guys my age. It's funny and smart. I would recommend it.

I remember seeing Mike Dugan perform in San Francisco back in the late 80's, and was so excited to find his wonderful intelligent observations about relationships in book form. He's a comedic philosopher -- really insightful and deep, but hilarious at the same time. Every man needs to read this book.

The author presents the subject of men and women's relationships with warmth, compassion, intellect and witty humor. It is an easy read on a serious issue that will make you want to read it several times to make sure you didn't miss a point. You will want to call your girlfriends to discuss it with them. Women will hand it to their boyfriends or husband and say "read this, HE gets it!" Moms will want to give it to their older teenage sons or older teenage daughters. This book is full of practical information spiced with a fantastic sense of humor that adds a light air to a serious subject matter. Mike Dugan shows through his writing how women should be treated by men...it's NOT men bashing..he's just sharing some insight that might help you with your journey towards a successful loving relationship.

This tale is short, sweet, funny, humble, and serious all at the same time. I think men and women equally should read it. The other positive reviews were on target and there's not much more I can add. Enjoy!

I was listening to the radio on the way to work, and Mike Dugan was on the radio, talking about his book, he sounded like a male basher, but he was telling the truth on how men act and how they should act and how it effects this world. There are alot of Supermen, but it is a matter if they choose to change out of their normal everyday suit to be one. but just don't let the phone booth be the only place to do it and reason to change. Cause the world won't wait for you to save it.

I read this book after it was recommended by another Amazon reader and am so grateful I took the advice. In an entertaining yet very concise manner, Dugan explains how our culture has lost it's way in what it means to be a real man. He then narrates his own evolution from a typical All-American guy who refers to women as "B-----s and Ho's" to someone more evolved and rewarded. His transformation has nothing to do with changing just to please women - that's the beauty of this book. Dugan's evolution is motivated by wanting his OWN rewards. And in the process of finding the deep satisfaction in life that has eluded him in the past, he earns the admiration of the women in his life. And he make it seem so simple - just learn to question one or two things that our culture values but maybe shouldn't, or open your eyes to the fact that men and women really do want some of the same crucial things. While I still remain somewhat skeptical that every Ho-lovin', B-slappin', red-blooded American man can undergo the same evolution that Dugan has, I would love nothing more than to be proven wrong. Guys, give this one a try! It's a short book, a really fast read - can easily be done in a day. Then you'll want to read it again! And then give it to all your friends who don't seem to "get" women. Because it's not about getting women - it's about getting yourself. The reviewers who say that's it's changed their lives are not kidding. You'll never see yourself the same way again, and imagine what doorways to incredible places will suddenly begin to open.