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  • Hardcover: 352 pages
  • Publisher: Touchstone; First Edition edition (February 8, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1439192065
  • ISBN-13: 978-1439192061
  • Product Dimensions: 1.2 x 6.5 x 9.5 inches
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About the Author

Taboo is a rapper, singer and dancer and member of the Grammy award winning hip-hop group The Black Eyed Peas. He lives in Los Angeles with his family.

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LEAVING DOG TOWN

We all say we’re misfits in the Black Eyed Peas, and I really was born one. I’ve often imagined the looks on everyone’s faces when I arrived into the world on July 14, 1975, shortly after one o’clock on a baking Los Angeles afternoon. There I was waiting to burst onto life’s stage as this eagerly awaited, dark-skinned Mexican-American boy with Native American ancestry, and then I arrived . . . as light-skinned as could be.

“Oh look, he’s as white as a coconut!” were the first words that greeted my birth, spoken by my father, Jimmy.

With parents who were both dark and with Shoshone blood running thick on Mom’s side, this was not the shade of baby that had been ordered.

Uncle Louie, my mom’s brother, arrived in the room, took one look at me and said: “He looks like a long white rat!”

Mom said she was just grateful I came out fast.

I’m not saying I was a disappointment. I’m just saying that I was breaking the mold from the moment I came out of the gate. It should, therefore, have come as no surprise to anyone that a) I grew up feeling a bit of an outcast, and b) there was a good chance I’d follow through and be a nonconformist. From day one, it was clear that I wasn’t going to fulfill anyone’s expectations of me.

Nanny got it: she would later tell me that she knew I was going to be different from that first minute. But in her accepting eyes, “different” in a good way. I guess even then she could tell I wasn’t going to be your average pea in a pod.

I was born at East Los Angeles Doctors Hospital, directly off Whittier Boulevard—a seemingly never-ending street that today is crammed with markets and dollar stores but which was once a cruising capital for the young chavalos in their low-riders on the Eastside in the 60s, as immortalized by a seven-piece Chicano group called Thee Midniters. Not much came out of East L.A. back then beyond their 1965 hit “Whittier Boulevard,” which led to them being referred to as “the local Beatles,” though I doubt John Lennon and Paul McCartney sweated it too much.

At the baby shower a few weeks before my birth, my mom couldn’t stop dancing. She heard music and just had to start moving.

“Laura!!” everyone said—Laura was short for Aurora—“you’re going to have the baby if you’re not careful!”

“But I can’t stop dancing. I need to dance!” she told them.

And she danced and danced, and everyone laughed, for about two hours solid.

Mom says she knew I was going to be a handful then and there. It’s good to know that, even in the womb, I was injecting the Black Eyed Peas vibe, jumping around, rocking it, getting everyone on their feet. Mom said it was like that for the last three months of her pregnancy.

That’s why I like to think I started dancing even before my life truly began.

I also like to think that I gave Mom fair warning.

If you met me in the street and you knew nothing about the Black Eyed Peas and asked my name and where I was born, the reply could mislead you. I’d give you my birth name: Jaime Luis Gomez. I’d tell you where I first grew up: a Mexican-American community in East L.A. That would probably surprise you, because you might, as many do, mistake me for an Asian. If I told you the projects I grew up in and you knew the Eastside, I’d catch that look in your eye and I’d say, yeah, that’s right—the neighborhood nicknamed after a street gang called Dog Town. These are the stamps of my identity, about as informative as markings in a passport. They tell you nothing about who I am or what my story is, and what it further explains to me, looking back, is why I never felt I belonged from day one. Don’t get me wrong: no one is prouder than I am of my Mexican-American roots, but these are merely my roots and national identity. This information doesn’t completely define me.

Mr. Callaham, my sophomore English teacher, once said every story needs a good beginning, middle and end. I remember him saying that. It must have been one of the few times I was listening and not daydreaming my way through class.

The thing is, I didn’t much like the story that was laid out for me: the Latino who should understand his place in the world, stay loyal to the ’hood, get “a real job” and do the nine to five thing. I didn’t see a good beginning, middle or end in that.

What you’ve got to understand is that in my community, there was the story you were handed at birth—a carbon copy of the one issued to everyone else around you; a future of limitations that asks the dreamer that dares to be different: “What makes you think you’re so special?” I think that I was born with something of that Indian warrior spirit that Nanny talked about, providing me with a defiance that refused to respect pre-established boundaries. To me, you’ve got to be willing to smash your way out of any ice block that’s encased you. You’ve got to be willing to break out and be as original as you want to be, become the person you have the potential to be, as opposed to being the person others expect you should be. It is about ripping up the hopeless story and rewriting the dreamer’s script. Something innate within me knew this from being a boy.

There is a quote that me and my homie and best friend David Lara often remind each other of: “Those who abandoned their dreams will always discourage the dreams of others.”

I learned from an early age that few people tell you what is really possible, except for free spirits like Nanny. Because, if you become the one who does make it happen, then it reminds others of their own limitations and what they, maybe, could have done, but didn’t choose to. Find any tight community and then find the dreamer within it—and there’ll always be a gang of naysayers pissing on his or her parade.

That is why there is much more to me than where I come from. Because it is what was invisible—the determination, the belief, the perseverance—that shaped my story, and for those people who stonewalled me with doubt or never believed where I was headed, only one silent reply ran through my mind: Oh, you don’t think so? Okay, just watch me.

My mom, Aurora Sifuentes, and dad, Jimmy Gomez, met at a Mexican market on the Eastside. Mom was out shopping with Nanny, Aurora senior, when their paths crossed. It probably says a lot that I don’t know much more about the romantic part. Mom was a twenty-year-old student, securing qualifications that would ultimately get her a job as an official with the Los Angeles Unified School District, and Dad was a twenty-three-year-old mechanic. He’d previously had a relationship with a woman named Esther that produced a son—my half-brother Eddie who is four years older than me. I don’t know the details of that messy story other than Eddie ended up staying with Dad.

Mom and Dad fell in love, got married and she was pregnant with me at twenty-two, but the honeymoon period didn’t last long because, as Mom would tell me, there were two sides to my father. His better side was the kindhearted, affectionate gentleman. His bad side was the drinker, and, when this side kicked in, the good-looking charmer fell away and exposed the flawed man. He wasn’t a bad man, but alcohol sadly changed him. He would later get his act together, but not before it was too late as far as Mom was concerned.

Apparently, he performed a drunken dance called the “Pepe Stomp.” Basically, it involved nothing more technical than him stomping his feet on the spot, getting faster and faster. There was this one time when he lost his balance and fell backward into the playpen that was set up for my arrival. He crashed into it and was rolling around drunk. I wasn’t even born yet and Mom was already worried for my welfare. The final straw came during an argument when he picked up a bicycle and threw it at her when she was far into her pregnancy. The bike didn’t hit her, but almost flattened my half-brother Eddie who stood there wailing over his near-miss with this two-wheeled projectile. Mom was smart enough and strong enough to get out soon after.

That is why I don’t know my dad. He was at my birth and hovered around the edges for a bit, but he was one of those dads on paper and by blood, not by deed. He had next to nothing to do with raising me. Mom used to laugh that his favorite song was “Daddy’s Home” by Shep & The Limelites. Not bad for an absent dad.

I admire Mom for having the courage to make a new start and choose the life of a single parent. In many ways, it would have been easier to stay, but she took the tougher choice and a part-time job in a toy store near downtown L.A. She was no foreigner to hardship. In her childhood, home had once been a garage converted into a makeshift studio, shared with Uncle Louie and Nanny.

Nanny’s name was Aurora Acosta when she married Luis Sifuentes. I know nothing more about Granddad other than that he was always suited and booted, and he left her at an early stage of their marriage. I never have understood why I was named after the two most unreliable men in the lives of the two ladies who raised me: Jaime and Luis. Maybe I was intended to be the improved version of both men?

Mom always said I was handsome “like your father” but I personally thought he was on the ugly side, so I never thanked her for that. I had his nose, ears and name, but the similarities ended there. I’m tall, he is short. He is dark-skinned, I am light. I have ambition, he did not.

Nanny remained on amicable terms with Granddad, but, back in her day, a single mother of two standing on her own two feet was as good as marooned, so it was a good thing she was a survivor.

Her first priority was getting a roof over their heads, and she knew some friends who had garage space.

“I don’t have much money, but I’ll rent it from you,” she offered.

“And do what with it?” they asked.

“Turn it into a home,” said Nanny. And so this spot—no bigger than a den—was where the family lived for a bit, complete with heaters, furniture, and a small portable television, and she made it as comfortable as she could afford.

When it came to “new” clothes, Nanny made them out of whatever fabrics she could beg, borrow or find. She struggled big-time to support her children, but she’d take no heroine’s credit. “All that matters is family,” she once told me, “and the rest will take care of itself.”

I don’t think she needed a man after Granddad because there was only one man she ever trusted after that—and His name was God. The fact that she ultimately managed to buy her own home when her kids had grown up and moved out speaks volumes for the faith she had, and the impossible situation she turned around.

With that definition of what struggle really feels like, it is easy to see why Mom thought it was no big deal going it alone. But she wasn’t alone. She had me. And those next five years were to be the happiest time we would share. It was just me and her versus the rest of the world.

I could not see horizons as a child.

Everywhere I looked, there were walls, fences and gates hemming us in, and the great concrete slab of L.A. County Jail stood six floors high and all ugly-looking in the distance, about a mile down the road. I lived within a concrete jungle within the concrete metropolis of Los Angeles; a part of the city that the tourist bureau doesn’t promote; a poor vicinity that is a world away from Sunset Boulevard, Melrose Avenue, Beverly Hills, and the beaches.

The neighborhood—el barrio—was one of government tract housing built in 1942 for low-income Mexican-American families. “The projects,” they called it. The official name was the William Mead Housing Project, and it housed four hundred fifty cookie-cutters that stood back to back in bleak uniformity; two- and three-story brick blocks painted tan-red with a thick white-painted band separating each floor. The number and color of the front door were the only marks that set each unit apart. I swear that even the palm trees and triangular washing lines were in the same spot outside each block.

It was not a place where dreams were made, and life was tough because of all the unemployment, drugs, and crime. People’s lives seemed as cookie-cuttered as the housing units, and options were limited. But however bleak life seemed to the outsider, there was a strong sense of family, community, and the value of sticking together.

Home was a first-floor corner unit at the end of one of the oblong blocks of small-ass apartments. It was nothing more than a studio apartment with a grilled front door, and Mom and I were two out of an estimated 1,500 residents on site, bounded by the county jail on one side and the Los Angeles River on the other. The river ultimately fed into the Pacific Ocean at Long Beach, but that’s the only idyllic-sounding fact I can bring from the ’hood.

This first home was a special place because it represented the world I shared exclusively with Mom. The walls were all white and there was enough room for one red floral-print sofa that clashed with the yellow hard-backed chairs at the round wooden dining table. We shared one bed and had one black-and-white television set. The front door opened onto a balcony that, when I was pretending to be a soldier or warrior, became my look-out post on the world, under the spotlight of the California sun.

Nanny Aurora was a constant visitor, coming over on the bus from her place in South Central L.A., and all three of us would sit outside on that balcony, eating Nutty Buddy ice-cream drumsticks that she brought as a regular treat. Not a week passed without Nanny visiting, or else we got on the bus to visit her. The mother-daughter bond was fierce, and I, as the favorite son and grandson, was the lucky kid who got all the love and attention in the middle.

One floor below the balcony, there was a worn and scorched patch of grass. Scorched by the sun and worn by the wheels of my red Big Wheel bike. This patch was both my playground and stage as Mom busied herself upstairs, keeping watch as she listened to her disco vinyl collection of the Bee Gees, Donna Summer, and Chic. She was a bit of a disco queen, and if ever I hear Chic’s “Le Freak” or Lipps Inc.’s “Funkytown,” it always sends me back to blazing hot days playing outside my first home.

I spent my earliest years running around kicking a football and riding my Big Wheel on the surrounding paths, feet in the air, pretending to be “CHiPS” on highway patrol. Mom often sent me out in costume: as a warrior, a pirate, or a bad-ass luchador—a masked Mexican wrestler. She stuffed my shirt with padding and gave me a towel for a cape, and I pulled off some killer moves to win the campeonato—the championship—by nailing key matches with imaginary opponents. I was always pretending to be someone or something on that grassy “stage” because there was no affording the hi-tech Atari console and its alluring game cartridges.

I look back now and see how basic life was, but we didn’t grow up wanting or grasping for anything. We were the have-nots who didn’t know what it was to have. It was the same for all of the lower-income families, and we killed the hours by playing ball and making our own fun inside pretend worlds.

I played alone a lot of the time. I saw Eddie now and again, as Dad drifted in and out for the first two years of my life, fighting to be allowed back in, but always coming up against Mom’s wise blockade.

As boys, there was one thing our young eyes couldn’t miss: the monster-sized graffiti on every wall. I grew up reading the words DOGTOWN on the end of each block, on stone walls and garages. These black-sprayed letters stood taller than me, and this one phrase became the adopted name for the housing project. I didn’t grow up saying I lived at William Mead. I grew up saying I lived at “Dog Town,” without first knowing what it meant. Until one day, my curiosity got the better of me as I walked back from preschool, called Head-Start, with Mom.

“What is Dog Town?” I asked.

She stopped and made me take a good, hard look at a group of young men hanging in the parking lot. Their car engines were idling with sunroofs open and music blaring; the distant sound of the Miracles, Smokey Robinson, and the Originals.

These dudes leaned against the rear bumpers or sat on the hoods, smoking. They wore plain tees or wife-beaters with perfectly creased pants, and some wore bandanas wrapped around their mouths like surgical masks. But if one thing stood out, it was their bald heads with necks covered in tattoos that also covered their backs and arms. Now and again, you’d see an older person sporting tattooed teardrops running from one eye. Like a crying clown. I didn’t know until later in life that each “tear” equaled a life taken, marking out these dudes as killers.

“Those people over there,” Mom started to explain, with her head next to mine, her hands on both my shoulders. “You must always steer clear, Jaime. Never be in that area.”

Another time she told me, “That is not our life . . . that is not us.”

That was my introduction to the cholos—Mexican gangsters—and the street gang culture of L.A., issued as a steer-clear warning.

“Dog Town” is the name and calling card of one of the countless criminal street gangs that give Los Angeles the unwanted label of “gang capital of America.” The slogans and graffiti are tagged everywhere to remind everyone whose turf they are on—not to be confused with a stretch of beach in Venice known as skateboarders’ Dogtown. Each morning, I was confronted with this street-gang reminder when I came out the front door, walked down the center steps between units and stepped into the courtyard. There, screaming in my face from another unit’s gable-end, was DOGTOWN.

Street legend says this gang name came into play in the 1940s, so called because of an old dog pound in nearby Ann Street. Stray dogs used to run wild and attack people, so a price was put on stray dogs’ heads, leading to the area’s teens capturing these snarling dogs and claiming the reward. But this also led to family pets being kidnapped for the bounty money, and these kids earned notoriety as local hoodlums. In response, they set up the Dog Town gang.

So the story goes.

Things had progressed beyond prices on dogs’ heads by the time I was a boy. Now, there was a price on people’s heads, and gang members were packing it with blades and guns. If my childhood was an album cover, you’d paint the picture of me in the foreground as a boy running around and getting grass stains on my knees by playing football or riding my Big Wheel. But, in the background, something sinister and dark was always going down.

Mom kept instilling her fear-loaded warnings because she knew—more than I did at the time—that the law of averages said there was a 95% probability that I’d grow up to be a cholo, one of them. Each child in my community was so susceptible, given life’s disillusionment. Gang life was in the DNA of the community, and Mom feared those outside influences.

Mom never let me forget what the life of a cholo represented. Her constant warnings must have seeped in on some level because I grew wary of these people hanging around on the streets. It was like she’d planted a bad dream in my head with images of jails, people dying, and people crying.

My uncle Cate, Dad’s brother, was murdered, and my aunt Minnie, Dad’s sister, was the first person to die in the family from a drug overdose. Too much heroin, I was told. One murder and one drug overdose, minus the gory detail, is the sum total of my knowledge about the horrors that no one really spoke about.

Then there was my Aunt China. She wasn’t a gangster but she had huge respect in East L.A. neighborhoods because she was a stand-up, no-nonsense, boisterous woman who took no shit from anyone.

The name Gomez had an element of notoriety attached because of the family’s toughness.

My impression is that Dad thought he was tougher than he was: there was the image he had of himself, and there was the sad truth exposed when he was drinking. As a result, I grew up regarding him as a bit of a joke, to be honest.

What was no laughing matter was the Primera Flatz gang, which ruled the ’hood. In its heyday, it had an estimated 350 members who’d leave their calling card on walls with the giant initials “PF from AV” for Aliso Village. The one hundred twenty–strong Dog Town gang was one of its affiliated subgroups, just two out of around seven hundred twenty gangs and a total of 39,000 members spread throughout the whole city, according to estimated figures issued by the LAPD in 2007.

I would say about 60% of our ’hood was gangsters.

Street gangs in the 70s were not as organized as they are today. Back then, there were a lot of turf battles, gang fights and rumbles between members armed with knives, chains and bats, and only the odd handgun. Today, the profits and weapons have escalated into some serious shit, where the gangsters on the streets are equipped with semi-automatic weapons and their bosses—the Mexican Mafia—are running empires from inside prison.

These days, L.A.’s judges are giving city attorneys the power to set curfews and put gang members in jail if they are found loitering in the streets, or possessing weapons and tools for spraying graffiti. Dog Town was covered by one of these injunctions in 2007 as part of a campaign to clean up the northeast of L.A. But back in the day, gangs pretty much had the run of the streets with their own form of martial law. It was the law of the neighborhood that came first, and federal laws came second. It was lawless in many ways, even if the cops would disagree. Kids grew up learning to be streetwise from an early age. The first lessons in life were pretty simple: never rat anyone out, never snitch, and never backstab your neighbor. Hold your head high, stare everyone down, stand your ground. Understand that, and the neighborhood will have your back. Know where you belong, and you’ll always be protected. Everyone looked after everyone in a tribal sense, and I think Mom felt both comfortable and uncomfortable within this environment. She accepted that gangs were part of our community but she didn’t want me getting sucked in.

I often went to sleep hearing bedlam in the parking lot, and the sound of sirens wailing. And there was always one ever-present but weird smell that hung in the air. This scent of childhood was everywhere—morning, noon and night—and I now know that it was the constant clouds of smoked weed, wafting out of homes. That same heavy scent that wafts around music festivals or backstage at concert venues.

The whole gang scene was not my thing. I never was enticed by it.

Mom did everything in her power and limited income to keep our heads above water. I wouldn’t say that we lived below the poverty line, but we lived basic, hand to mouth. I helped where I could, running up to the store with our weekly food stamps to get groceries, and, in the summer, lining up for the government-issued “summer lunches” in the projects. For these lunches, each unit received a weekly book of tickets. Each stub was good for one brown paper bag that contained a sandwich, one carton of milk, a bag of potato chips, and an apple. It was our government-issued gourmet meal, as far as I was concerned.

Mom worked her ass off as a student and at the toy store, putting in as many hours as possible to provide for us and afford the best toys—at discount—for Christmas. She always wanted to better our lives, she said.

Discounted toys were a perk of her job, and she got me some incredible stuff. I remember the typewriter, the new bike, the “CHiPS” uniform with helmet, handcuffs, and police badge, the GI Joe, the telephone, the board games. You name it, she got it. I saw how hard she worked and how I was the center of her world. It sounds selfish, but, as a kid, that’s all I wanted. It is because of her self-sacrifices back then that I love her to death today.

These toys kept me entertained a lot of the time. In fact, I only really had one playmate, and that was a sweet girl called Penny, the daughter of my babysitter Lola who lived in the unit opposite. Whenever Mom studied or worked, Lola took me under her wing. I’ll never forget Penny’s high-pitched voice and dark pigtails. She stuck to me like glue.

“JIMMY!!!!” she’d scream from below the balcony, calling me to the railing. “You coming out to play?”

It’s fair to say that she probably was my first crush, because we were inseparable for a spell. In our pretend worlds on that grassy stage, she’d be the princess to my prince, or the parade girl in the wrestler’s ring when I was the luchador. Without Penny—and my soft toy dog Cleto—it would have been a pretty lonely childhood.

There was a man called “Roadie” who lived in the same block as Penny. He was this big, heavy-set black man, a rare sight in our Mexican community, and he was the kindest, gentlest soul. He hoarded baskets full of candy. That’s why we called him “The Candyman.”

Whatever other deals might have been going down in the projects, there was only one supplier that mattered, and that was Roadie with his candy and Bazooka gum. Apparently, he bought candy in bulk, then sold it off to parents and us kids for ten cents a bag, much cheaper than the stores. It was like having Willy Wonka on our doorstep. You name it, he had it. I was too young to comprehend matters of race at the time, but it somehow registered with me that he was different-looking. But he was like the friendliest of uncles, all smiles, warm and embracing. At some level, that imprinted me with the message that all black people were cool like Roadie.

His candy was almost as good as the “chip-chips” Mom made most mornings for breakfast. We used to invent names for different meals, and “chip-chips” was the random label for her specialty: fried tortilla shells with eggs. When I smelled that dish frying, I’d race to the table and sit there, knife and fork at the ready. I looked forward to these breakfasts because it was the one time in the day that I got to sit down with Mom and have her undivided attention. Then, at the end of the day, she’d always read me a bedtime story, holding me in her arms. Or, sometimes, she’d take my action figures or stuffed animals and make up voices in their character, using role-play to wish me goodnight. The start of a day and the end of a day were my happiest times, and there was nothing more comforting than feeling the bed dip when she climbed into bed.

“Mom’s here . . . I can sleep now,” I would tell myself.

“Love you, Jaime,” she’d say, thinking I was asleep.

Life was perfect then. Nothing and no one could come between us.

At least, that’s what my innocence told me.

Shortly before my sixth birthday, this man called “El Amigo” walked into our life, and he picked up my world in both hands and turned it upside down.

I was too young to figure that Mom maybe needed attention and love from a source other than me, so I never saw this thunderbolt coming. I suspect she felt guilty, too, because when Julio Arevalo walked through the door, she played down his importance by always using the el amigo reference—nothing more than a friend.

So El Amigo is a friend, I accepted at first. Okay.

Wow, he’s here a lot for a friend, I thought over the coming weeks.

Oh, now you’re going out at night with him more and more, I soon realized.

Mom never used the word “boyfriend” or bothered to have one of those mother-son chats that explained everything. He just walked into our life and was invited to stay, and I was left to figure out the rest.

It was all very black and white to me: I wanted to be with Mom but this strange man, who seemed a bit weird and false around me, had stolen time and attention that was mine.

Then everyone started mentioning how happy Mom looked.

So, okay, this man makes her happy, I thought.

She was smiling. She was laughing.

That’s a good thing, I thought.

But I still stared at Julio and wished he’d disappear into a cloud of smoke. I imagined having magic powers that would zap him away, and return things to how they used to be.

Julio worked in the airplane manufacturing industry. “Julio helps build planes!” Mom said, as if that would impress me. It didn’t.

He was your average-looking dude: slim, with big black hair and matching moustache. I can see him now, slouched in that armchair, cracking open a beer.

I guess he tried his best with me, playing at the role of surrogate dad, but I wasn’t feeling it. I was resistant for a long time. I just looked at him and thought: Who is this guy? He’s not my dad. He’s not my uncle. So why’s he here?

It didn’t take long before dramatic changes happened.

Nanny started arriving in the late afternoon to be babysitter for the evening. Then the announcement was made that we were moving in with Nanny, and that is when we left Dog Town. We left behind the projects and moved the few miles to South Central L.A. I said good-bye to Penny and Roadie, and was transplanted to what felt like a whole new world.

At first, I thought it was meant to be a temporary stay, but as things turned out, South Central became my home from the ages of five to seven. And even after then, I would still return to Nanny’s and spend three months living with her every summer, without fail.

In moving to South Central, I went from a 100% Mexican-American community to one that was mixed, where Mexican-Americans were the minority. It was 70% African-American, 30% Mexican. I was vaguely aware of this difference from visiting Nanny, but it was only through living there that I fully appreciated what that meant. One very good thing was that it was in South Central L.A. that my ears first started hearing the distant sounds of hip-hop. And it seemed ideal that I was now living with my two favorite ladies. But then Mom started to spend more time staying over at Julio’s place in South Gate. That meant fewer shared breakfasts and fewer bedtime stories.

Then I saw suitcases being packed—Mom’s, not mine.

Then she left for Mexico on a vacation. What she didn’t say was how long she’d be gone. When she left, the wrench hit me as an ache. Nanny tried to reassure me.

“It’s just you and me now!” she said. “We’ll have fun together!”

Mom disappeared to Julio’s hometown of Morelia, the capital of the state of Michoacán to visit his family. Each hour she was gone felt like a day, and each day felt like a week. By the end of week one, I was crying myself to sleep. I guess these inexplicable absences always feel like a catastrophe when you’re a kid; and hours always seem longer in childhood than they ever do in adulthood. But this wrench was understandable: she had never before traveled outside the United States and we had never before been separated. With Mom gone from my side, it honestly felt like the end of the world, especially because I felt that this new man in her life was supplanting me.

In the end, she was only gone about three weeks, but that is a lifetime when you are a kid. Her eventual return was treated as no big deal, and things soon returned to as they were before she left.

Until she sat me down and told me she was pregnant.

As she broke this news, with Nanny looking on, I pretended to listen, but all I was thinking was “You want another kid? Why? What’s wrong with me?”

At that age, I guess you really do think the world revolves around you, and I think every child is jealous of anyone cutting in on him and his mother. It steals attention. As I saw it, in comes this guy and stands between me and Mom, and now I’ve got to contend with another one of me arriving on the scene? If I couldn’t have Eddie as a brother, I didn’t want anyone else.

Mom seemed to spend most of the pregnancy bedridden at Nanny’s. It really took a toll on her body, and she was constantly weak and fatigued. I kept asking why this thing in her stomach was making her so sick. There was always some adult explanation, but all I could focus on was her cries and groans. I’d sit on the edge of her bed, unable to leave her side, willing her to get better.

Her misery ended when my new sister, Celeste, was finally born on November 15, 1981. I was seven years old.

Our sibling relations didn’t get off to the best of starts when I took my first look at her, wrapped in a bundle in Mom’s arms in the hospital, and observed: “Why is our baby so ugly?”

“Jaime! That’s your sister—she’s beautiful!” Mom laughed.

“But, Mom! She’s ugly . . . can’t you get another one?”

I will never forget that sharp dig of jealousy, and I think that’s when I started sticking even closer to Nanny.

Please understand, no one worked harder, or gave me more love, than Mom. But these big changes in our life were tough for me. And this was my first hard lesson: that when things are going great, it won’t last, that when someone loves you, they can leave without you—don’t count on them always being there. These were the mental imprints.

But even at a young age, I had a flair for keeping it positive. And one very positive outcome of these otherwise unhappy changes was being with Nanny—the single person most responsible for redirecting the course of my life.

© 2011 Tab Magnetic

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The book is very well written and while it was not an easy breezy read for me, I still loved every minute of it.
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Overall however a very good autobiography, I've read a fair few and this one will be great if you're interested in the peas or the music industry in general.
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It will give you the direction you seek in your life and it would question you about your willingness to keep your passion for music alive.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Fred Memner on February 25, 2011
Format: Hardcover
An amazing read. Honest, touching and inspiring. I strongly recommend this book. Taboo writes frankly about his rise, fall and recovery with quiet, humble and forceful dignity... I think that this book could and will save a life or two....and for that I say thank you from the bottom of my heart!
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Book Lover on April 23, 2011
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While I was reading this, I kept thinking of a SNL skit featuring "Taboo" and "Apl" loudly insisting "We are too in the Black-Eyed Peas!" I took this book out of the library because I wasn't going to spend my money on the autobiography of the least-known member of the group. But I'll tell you, this is a great book. From his humble beginnings as a Mexican-American in Dog Town (a culture I knew little about) to his rise, there was a lot of hard work. This success did not happen by accident -- Will.i.am started studying what makes a hit record from he was a teen and spends a lot of those early years networking and taking meetings in addition to perfecting his music and rapping. In fact he shows Taboo a trick for becoming a better rapper -- practice with a pencil between your teeth. Taboo also talks about the dark side of fame, his drug abuse, early fatherhood, and so on but not just for salacious reading but to show what he learned from his mistakes. Easy to read and you'll want to keep finding out what happens next. I liked it better than Keith Richards' "Life." Speaking of Keith, the Peas opened for the Rolling Stones on tour. While the Stones kept to themselves, Taboo did learn something from observing Keith. "He was reptile looking, with all that sagging skin, clearly ravaged by years of partying....I went back to my hotel room and examined every flaw, bag and shadow under my eyes and across my skin, wondering if my comparable apprenticeship in drugs and drink had caused any damage yet... Dude, you've got to stop, I said to myself in the mirror."
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By smichal on March 20, 2011
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Before reading this book, all I knew is that Taboo was one of the Black Eyed Peas. I liked reading about Taboo learning to dance as a youngster in Dog Town and East LA and later the formation of the group.. and descriptions of his band mates and family members and meeting all kinds of celebrities and musicians. What bored & disappointed me - the drug use. It's definitely worth a read despite the slow start. I'd read more than one chapter at a time. (The first few chapters seem to be written by a different author than the rest of the book.)
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Tamara J. Hufford-Wong on October 16, 2011
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When I read the reviews, it seems as most of us, "got it." However, I had to write to reverse the one comment - when I read what this review said, "Wait until it is on the bottom rack for $2.99)because it wasn't worth it. What a flippant comment from someone who "seriously", does not get it. Perhaps they are afraid to truly see what a struggle it is to come up from the depths of dispair, where shame and abuse run rampant, where day after day is met with slurs, dirty looks, and just plain meanness - a home life that constantly reinforces, "What makes you so special?" or "Who do you think YOU ARE? A place where dreams are dashed in moments played out over and over again. Thank God for his grandmother who believed in him every step of the way. His connection to his grandmother was his saving grace.

You can't take a life of drugs and drink and put it into one short, sweet chapter. You need to hear the words and breathe along with him of how hard it was to stop the madness, especially when you don't believe in yourself that you are NOT good enough, and that you DO NOT deserve this. That message takes years to overcome after it has played in your head constantly, from a very early age.

Frankly I was not expecting too much when I first began reading it and after the first few pages I found myself thinking, "Boy, this kid can write!" Yes he can, and with so much honesty, you go right along with him. I thank his grandmother for believing in her "Jimmy", because she was right all along, long after she had passed to Heaven. The love he has for his family, expecially his first born, and the lessons he learned along the way made this a remarkable book.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Susan on June 19, 2011
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I have been a fan of BEP ever since I first heard Where is the Love? . Taboo has always been my favorite member. He seemed different from the other Peas, fresher maybe. I got a Kindle and noticed this book in the Suggestions for you box, so I decided to purchase it. I read the book quickly, in one big gulp. As I read the preface, I despaired. But I'm glad to say that the book is fresh and comedic, as well as inspiring. I live in a small town with it's own drug issues, and I felt I could relate to it. It felt like I was sitting in the same room, drinking soda as he brought me through the story of him as a B-Boying Latino 6 year old, to a boy shunned by his peers until he forms his own group, to a meager pizza & Pepsi salary, to the excitement of a $250 paycheck. I felt reborn as a peabody- and a person. My only regret is you can only give it 5 stars. Of course, I felt ashamed at certain parts. The part where he describes a house party where he pops an Ecstasy pill, I actually screamed. Of course, I could afford at him describing himself at his own expense : "Oh, ****, I am beautiful! Look at my hands!" When he describes the closeness he feels to his son Joshua, I think I cried. This whole book is something I'd recommend to anyone who was a BEP fan, anyone who's in a rough situation, anyone who likes to read- or anyone who has ever read a book. If you fall into one of these categories, buy it. I hope you enjoy it like I did.
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