Growing up a child of conflict and divorce,
I would never in a million years have imagined myself working with families of divorce. As I began to put this book together, I felt some mixed emotions: sadness as I recalled the pain and conflict I experienced as a child, yet excitement for the hope and help I planned to share through the book. As I was writing my business plan for the coming year, I asked myself, "Is this type of work truly my passion? I am 36 years old, single and have never been married. So why in the world would I want to focus my energy on writing this book?" The truth is that I want to assist you in shielding your children from pain, hurt, and heartache. I know I cannot save the world, but I do know I am here for a purpose, which is to assist in creating healthier families
so we can have healthier and happier children. So obviously I made the decision to write this book and I am clear in my heart that I was meant to write it. It has been a complete honor to share my knowledge and to assist families.
When I reach my divorce-education class and see the light go on for parents when they realize how their behavior is impacting their children, my heart is happy. If I help just one child have less anxiety, have better social relationships, be a better partner and parent or just enjoy their childhood more, I can be satisfied that I have done my work. My mind used to want to go to the big picture of impacting, now I just focus on the present, one child at a time.
I have a huge heart for children and I know I have been given this vision around children, families and divorce. I make a difference in children's lives, one child at a time.
I am writing this book for you, parents who are divorced, going through a divorce, or considering a divorce
. You may also be a co-parent who has never been married to your child's other parent, you too will find this book helpful. It is time for me to share the knowledge that I have gained from my own parents' divorce and conflict, from the parents I have trained, from the children I have counseled, and from the divorces of friends and family. My wish for you and your family is healing, health, and love
. My deepest hope is that this book will bring you and your family one step closer to these goals. If what I am sharing assists you in any way to positively impact your family, I know I have done my work here and I am deeply satisfied.
I want to take this time to honor you for picking up this book. In picking up and reading this book, you also want to positively contribute during your time here. You are interested in creating a better society through your own actions. I know this time can feel so painful and that you are making a step to move beyond your pain for the greater good of your children. You want what is best for your children and you are willing to at least explore taking positive action.
I thank you for that because you don't have to read this book. You are special. I promise you, if you take action on even some of the suggestions in this book, you will raise children who will be emotionally and physically healthier than they otherwise would have been. They will have an easier life due to your decision to take action in your own life. This is truly the greatest gift you can give to your children
. Your children will thank you. Truly, your children do not want material gifts, they want healthy parents and families who love them. I would return every gift my parents ever gave me in return for less conflict and more love in our family.
This book is written from in-depth knowledge and experience with the subject matter. It is also written from my heart. I have no other motive in writing about this topic except the best interests of my readers. May you receive everything you are meant to receive from this book to allow you and your family to heal and move forward in the best way possible for your children. From my heart to yours, I thank you for who you are and for the parent you are for your children.
You know they deserve the best parent possible through this event (divorce) that they did not choose. I thank you for being that parent.