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The Fatherstyle Advantage: Surefire Techniques Every Parent Can Use to Raise Confident and Caring Kids

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"The Fatherstyle Advantage" is an extraordinary treat. First, it is well-written, an easy read, couched in clearly understandable language and sprinkled with just enough humor and anecdote to avoid any risk of it becoming a dry. Second, the skills and tools addressed in the content are solidly grounded in good research and science. Third, the strategies presented are eminently workable. Finally, this book speaks to both fathers and mothers in a way that clearly communicates, "Been there. Done that. Made those mistakes," and lays no guilt trips anywhere. The book does not lift up fathers on the backs of mothers made to feel less than adequate. On the contrary, it marvelously celebrates the gifts fathers bring to parenting and the absolute joy that can come from recognizing and properly positioning those gifts cooperatively in whatever parenting structure exists in each family. Bravo, O'Shea and Windell. Five stars!

Because I am a stay-at-home father, the title, Fatherstyle Advantage, caught my eye. When I discovered one of the authors, Kevin O'Shea, was also a stay-at-home dad, I decided to read the book.

Having a dad who didn't have a clue about how to raise children, I have always felt the role of the father is critical. And that is not to take anything away from moms. I found the book full of good suggestions. It's made me think critically about my fathering skills, and I think improve them.

Men, fortunately, are spending more time with their children. The authors' advice makes that time more meaningful and enjoyable.

Thank you James Windell and Kevin O'Shea for taking the time to share your ideas with others.

I found "The Fathersyle Advantage" to be an informative, insightful, and unique approach to parenting. Based on research, and including anecdotes and examples, O'Shea and Windell have created an easy-to-read and understand prescription for raising confident and caring kids that would benefit the entire family and their quality of life. I believe that mothers, fathers, grandparents and any member of a family will find techniques in this book that can be used to improve their family's quality of life.

I don't know who paid these people off to write good reviews, but this book is horrible. My wife got it for me when we had our first child. I'll give you a summary of EVERY SINGLE EXAMPLE in the book... "Mothers/Wives do ___ wrong, this is how men do ___ right." I was looking forward to some helpful hints, but this book is all about mother bashing and telling you everything mothers do wrong that fathers do right. I'm sorry, but neither one are always right, and quite frankly I'm VERY DISAPPOINTED with what I got from this book. I was looking for a way to help connect and get advice on being a good father, not an ego boost of how my wife "screws everything up" and how I somehow manage to do everything the right way because I'm the hardnose father. DO NOT WASTE YOUR MONEY ON THIS BOOK.

I think they have a good general idea however the lumping of most mothers into the group made me think they are clueless. I know very few women who are the consistant example of "mothers". I do know many men who want to father but aren't sure how and women are the same. From this aspect the book is valuable although their angle is skewed. The biggest thing I see is that parents are not on the same page in parenting or they are stuck in the typical views of what they should do which divides them and causes relationship stress. This alone lets the child take this into their life, moms do this-dads do this, including the stereotypical negatives of such.

If you were brought up in a family where your parents let go of role assignments (ie, not mom/dad but your parents might as well be different versions of the same book when it comes to children) then this will just be a good reminder of how together you can create good parenting skills.

Perhaps they'll do a rewrite because the title alone leads us to believe the father is an advantage over the mother. Parenting does take teamwork but perhaps they were trying to target a certain demographic.

Picked this up while looking for a book that would be fun to read in a public setting like airports, arrivals and departures and such like restaurants.

The book makes a case for the stay at home dad but can work equally well with a female household. Works for the dad who has a job and just wants to be the best parent he can be while at home.

It's overall sense is that of one which is offering considerate advice, with very helpful side notes that are a true help when attempting to learn the precepts here.

I am getting the bff into this book as well, some ideas may seem outdated in the book, but it really gave me a better sense of what to expect. Case in point: the quizzes, of which there are a few are very helpful in teaching the right typr of technique or strategy to respond with in any scenario.

There is a quiz, for example on what to say if the child says they want to skip school and go to Mexico, it isn't pass or fail it detects your parenting style based on the lettered responses you gave, as an example answer D, take care and take your girlfriend with you means you're a liberal parent and such.

This is a nice book that makes a great guide for any parent.

Aryan Somers