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Female Domination

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I am a woman that is more submissive but who likes on occassion to switch. I bought this book hoping it would illuminate a bit of the male submissive mind and perhaps offer more of the psychological drives of the BDSM lifestyle in general. Unfortunately, Elise Sutton presents a very rigid world, in which all women are inherently dominant and all men have an inherent need to be dominated. One could speculate from where that want of seeing men and women eminates, but suffice to say that the world is far more varied and richer than what Elise Sutton is failing to appreciate.

Moreover, there is definitely an unsaid undercurrent in the book that women *should* be dominant and to be otherwise is weakness. Rubish. I find that sentiment insulting to us many women who enjoy having a man take charge and "ravish" us on occassion. If anything, a submissive is very psychologically strong and dominant in most respects. The fact that the powerful like to be dominanted from time to time is because they are powerful enough to indulge in it and as an escapism--and not because of the at times geuninely preposterous supposed underlying psychological reasons that Elise Sutton is proferring on her readers.

In summary, the book is trite and overly simplistic in analyzing this otherwise complex subject and there is also a heavy tendentious take on this matter. We human beings are far more varied and our motives never clear-cut or fixed as this author seems genuinely believing.

I'm being generous and giving this book three stars for effort. The author tries hard to give a psychological basis for the supposed reasons for the male desire to be dominated. There are serious errors with her reasoning and claims however. My own research in sexual submissive desires reveals a high correlation with success and stress in men and women. That is, men and women in more stress-filled positions with more responsibilities tend to favor their mate being more sexually dominant. Other research too shows the same result.

This is an important book that delves into the fascinating and misunderstood world of Female Domination. Written by a practising psychologist, this work provides crucial insights into the mentality and attitudes that drive this alternative lifestyle. The author arrives at several key conclusions of the origins, development and long-term practice of why and how significant numbers of men yearn then continue to worship a dominant woman, as well as what goes on within these special women themselves. She cites little known truths of Christianity whereby Female Domination is quite compatible with scripture, as well as identifying contemporary trigger points for men who wake up to their own deep stirrings of wanting to submit to a woman.

Her literary references to back up her opinion of women as the superior sex are ample and solid. But this is not a feminist diatribe. Elise Sutton is clearly influenced by a deep love for men and a desire to see them at their best. Indeed the sub-title of the book is `An exploration of the male desire for Loving Female Authority'. She makes it clear that a submissive male must not see himself as a wimp. The male has every right, duty even, to be strong in his affairs and strong for his Lady. The author eloquently and, yes, romantically states: `The man should be his Queen's friend, partner, lover, servant and slave. A woman needs all of this in a man'.

The author uses some 40 case studies to back up her work. Every major strand of the lifestyle is examined including role reversal, leather sex, cuckcolding, feminization, disciplining versus punishment, strap-on play, humiliation play, age regression, male chastity, and fetishes. The author emphasizes that Female Domination is a big tent: There are many practices that find a home here but there is no obligation to undertake all of them. This is a well thought out piece of work that will offer reassurance and direction to those who need help to work out their inner most thoughts and feelings. It will hopefully go on to be a gound breaking philosophy for revitalizing relationships between men and women, and offer a sound foundation for the rejuvenation of family life.

How I've waited for someone to write an intelligent book about FemDom which would explain the submissive sexual desires of a man to the novice female, without freaking her out. This is the book I've been waiting for my entire adult life.

My only complaint is that the cover placed my wife in a defensive posture but once she began to thumb through the pages, she was hooked. She was fascinated by this book and it opened the door for us to have a wonderful conversation about my formerly hidden longing to be dominated by a woman.

The subtitle says it all. This book is an exploration into the male desire for loving female authority and that is what I've been seeking my whole life. Thanks to this book, my wife and I are beginning our journey together.

Bringing her expertise as not only a psychologist, but also a dominant female, Elise Sutton has written what I consider to be the best non-fiction book on female domination. Rather than going into the quality of writing here, as well as Ms. Sutton's insight into the subject matter (the other reviewers have done a terrific job with that), I'd just like to touch on some of the different chapters that delve into the vast area of female domination and how many couples choose to apply this growing trend to their own lifestyles. At the beginning of the book, Ms. Sutton carefully explores her own unique experiences in this field and the psychology behind man's desire to be controlled in the bedroom and outside of the bedroom by a strong, dominant woman. The author examines the history of female domination and the masochistic desires of the male, mostly from the mid-Eighteen Hundreds to the present. She then goes on to show how modern-day couples use female domination within their own marriages, incorporating discipline, English corporal punishment, cross-dressing, orgasm denial, cuckoldry, mental and verbal humiliation, water sports, and leather to add spice and variety to their lives. Ms. Sutton is the first to say that each couple is different and therefore must find what best works for them. The author also stresses that for any of this to work, there must be love, intimacy, communication, and trust between the man and woman. With honesty and open communication, the couple is able to experiment and thus find the things that bring excitement and a stronger sense of love and devotion into the marriage. One thing that certainly stands out is the growing phenomenon of female domination. As time goes by and the female species becomes more powerful in the work place and in less need of a male counterpart, the urge to incorporate female domination into one's marriage increases. During the next hundred years, the balance of power may very well shift to the female and man may find himself on his knees before his lovely Goddess, desiring nothing more than to please her in whatever way she desires.

Female Domination is an underground sexuality that is gaining in popularity. What was once a topic reserved for fantasy literature is now making its way into the mainstream of society. Elise Sutton may very well bring Female Domination all the way into the mainstream of society with this book.

The book captured me from the preface and introduction all the way through the final chapter. The introduction is worth the price of this book alone. The author grabbed my attention and I thought she was reading my life story as she described the internal sexual desires of the male gender. Once she had my full attention, Ms Elise Sutton took me on a journey into the reality that is Female Domination; past, present and future.

What the reader will discover is that the reality is even more fascinating than fantasy. The reader will learn of such secret clubs and organizations as The SM society, the Alice Kerr-Sutherland society, The Eulenspiegel society, ClubFEM, and People Exchanging Power. These are all real organizations that practice Female Domination but these are merely small components in the big picture of the world of FemDom. Most FemDom is practiced in private, within the marriage relationship by normal, ordinary people that one would never suspect. Elise Sutton takes the reader into the private lives of these people and behind the closed doors of their bedrooms.

Do women really spank and whip their husbands? Do women really deny their spouses intercourse while demanding they be pleasured and denied nothing in the sexual domain? Are some husbands feminized and expected to do the bulk of the housework? Do women really utilize humiliation techniques in order to train their husbands to be better servants? Do some men really view themselves as slaves and their wives as their Mistress, Queen or Goddess?

Elise Sutton takes the reader on a fascinating ride into the real lives of real couples and reveals that the answer to the above questions is "affirmative". Yet, the reader will come to admire and even respect these couples because it is obvious that the lifestyle they have chosen to live is mutual and based on love and trust. It is the man that wants this lifestyle and in most cases, yearns for it. Elise Sutton reveals that Female Domination and male submission is a lifestyle based on the male desire for Loving Female Authority and that serving a woman is a blessing and an honor. The male desire for FemDom has existed since the dawn of human history but what is different today is that women are coming into power and are beginning to desire to rule the men in their lives with female authority. Thus Female Domination has moved from being a male fantasy over into becoming an ever-present reality for many couples.

This book is a fascinating read and a real education into a growing alternative lifestyle. Like Ms Sutton poetically states in her book, "society is changing one female/male relationship at a time".

The author gives the man that desires to be sexually dominated by a woman a practical blueprint on how to successfully introduce FemDom to his wife or girlfriend. She draws upon her many years of study and participation in this alternative lifestyle and she draws upon the experiences of others as she interviews forty couples and dozens of individuals who practice FemDom to varying degrees.

My husband and I were fortunate enough to have been interviewed and our story is just one of many stories in this book. I have had the honor of meeting Elise Sutton and only she could have written this book. This book is well organized from the cover design to the chapter titles to the appendixes. It is entertaining to read but also informative. It is a must resource for FemDom enthusiasts.

So gentlemen, it is time to quit fantasizing and time to make your dreams a reality. As you will discover in this book, many men have done just that. For if you will follow the example of the men in this book and if you will follow Elise's advice, you just might find yourself being dominated by the woman you love. But be careful because once you open that door to your wife or girlfriend, there will be no turning back.

Unlike a lot of reviewers here, I didn't feel as if I had to buy into all of Elise Sutton's views to enjoy her book. Some have complained that she has a narrow view of men/women due to her comments that all women are Dominant and all men naturally submissive. That didn't bother me. I just took it as her opinion, one she is entitled to, and one that told me that she has strong conviction about the FemDom lifestyle. I've met FemDom's like her - some women are so deeply involved in their world that they want to share the power of their experience with women everywhere, nor do they seem to understand why other women don't unlock their Domme power and take control of their relationships.

I was given this book to read by a Dominant woman i know that is extremely intelligent - an IQ of 171. I found it quite fascinating as a glimpse into the mind of the Female Domme. I liked a lot of what I read, but some parts - like the chapter on cuckholding - seem to go a bit too far, but that's just my opinion on the subject.

I like the way each chapter was presented and enjoyed reading the case studies of different couples. One of the best things about the book is Sutton's advice for submissive men who want to bring their wife/girlfriend into the FemDom lifestyle. I liked the common sense approach suggestions she made about easing the woman into it.

Overall I found this book quite interesting, and have passed it along to a female friend. Am curious to hear what she thinks about it...

While most people equate Female Domination as a male sexual fantasy, Ms Sutton takes the reader into the real world of FemDom. It is a world where women rule their marriages, both inside and outside the bedroom, but it is a rule based on love and romance.

While the fantasy of FemDom can be extreme within the mind of a male who desires to be sexually dominated by a woman, the reality of FemDom is a lifestyle that benefits both partners in a loving relationship. As a woman who now practices FemDom I can testify that the benefits of a FemDom relationship are limited only by the limits a woman chooses to set. The rewards of the FemDom lifestyle are plentiful and Ms Sutton does a masterful job of showing a woman those rewards by sharing the real life experiences of couples who live the FemDom lifestyle.

This book is a must read for the woman who is trying to understand why a man wants to be dominated sexually by a woman. Likewise, this book is a must read for the man who is trying to come to terms with his desire to be dominated by women. There are reasons so many men have the fantasy of being sexually dominated by women and Ms Sutton draws from her twenty plus years of experience with this topic to enlighten the reader.

Elise Sutton covers this topic from every conceivable angle. She examines FemDom from the psychological, the social, the spiritual, the societal and of course the sexual. Ms Sutton has a gift in taking the complex and making it simple to understand. She takes on societal and religious traditions in a way that respects those traditions but yet points to the future. Ms Sutton makes a strong case using mainstream research to support her conclusion that society is evolving toward female dominance and female rule. As a woman, I found her research to be exciting and liberating.

Ms Sutton devotes an entire chapter to societal evolution, an entire chapter to religion and an entire chapter to the psychological aspects of FemDom. However, the majority of the book is devoted to the sexual. Once she lays the foundation of what FemDom is and why men crave it, she takes the reader into the personal and sexual lives of forty couples. It is at this point that the book becomes not only smart but also erotic and sexy.

The reader will learn of alternative sexual practices such as loving discipline, forced feminization of the male, enforced chastity of the male, cuckolding, age play, and leather sex (just to name some of the topics). It is a fascinating read that just may open up possibilites for couples who are seeking to spice up their sex lives or who want to explore the many avenues of the FemDom lifestyle.

Ms Sutton closes the sale by reminding the readers the importance of staying rooted in reality as they explore the deepest desires of their souls. FemDom is truly a win/win relationship and one would be hard fought to find a more fulfilling and exciting lifestyle for a woman.

Get this book. It just might change your life or at the very least improve your relationship with the man you love.

Having read far too many average to disappointing books about FemDom and BDSM, I finally found the crown jewell. Female Domination by Elise Sutton is a wonderful piece of literature. It is informative, uplifting, factual, erotic, and romantic.

It is practical and a wild ride at the same time. It will shock but it will also encourage. Elise's love for people comes across in her words as she explores a controversial topic. Her research is thorough and her conclusions are persuasive.

Elise communicates that a woman in charge of her marriage and her bedroom is not perverse but is in fact mainstream in the twenty-first century of western civilization. Some may view the sexual practices discussed in this book as being kinky but if kinky adds spice to sex and if sex builds intimacy and if intimacy makes for a strong relationship, then perhaps we all should be kinky.