You hold in your hands a guide to spiritual maturity and an opportunity to embrace God’s plan for you as a woman, a wife, a mentor, and a mother. In this book of instruction for women of all ages, Carolyn Mahaney explores seven virtues from Titus 2 that have transformed her life and the lives of countless other women. Learn how to live with true feminine appeal and become a woman who lives for God and helps others to do the same.
Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother
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"Carolyn's warm, practical, biblical, God-centered approach offers the mature mentoring that women of every age yearn for at times. For some, Feminine Appeal may be an excellent stand-in for the mentor they lack right now. For others, it will wonderfully complement the relationship they have with an older friend of the Titus 2 sort."
—John and Noël Piper, Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis
"We love this book! It's a godsend for both wives and their husbands. It gives women a clear vision of biblical femininity and shows men what to encourage their wives towards. Carolyn has been a friend and mentor to Shannon, and we're thrilled that through these pages she provides women of all ages the same honest, convicting, and hope-filled guidance."
—Joshua and Shannon Harris, Author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye
"We'll give this book our ultimate endorsement—we have given it to all our married daughters! Carolyn offers the kind of godly, seasoned counsel that is desperately needed by women today. She is practical, authentic, and biblically based. This book ought to be required reading for every woman—married or single!"
—Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Founders, FamilyLife Today
"Feminine Appeal has had a huge impact on the women of our church. Carolyn writes with a wonderful blend of soundness, encouragement, humility, and practicality that makes this book one of the best on the market for women desiring to please God in these most basic and crucial of life callings. Feminine Appeal has been the single most valuable book on Titus 2 living for women that I (Connie) have ever read."
—Mark and Connie Dever, Capitol Hill Baptist Church, Washington, D.C.
About the Author
Carolyn Mahaney is a wife, mother, homemaker, author, speaker, and editor-in-chief of girltalk, a blog focusing on biblical womanhood. With over 30 years ministry experience, Mahaney has spoken at churches and conferences, including those of Sovereign Grace Ministries, the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and FamilyLife. She has also contributed chapters to Crossway’s Biblical Womanhood in the Home.
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I do not always choose the books I review. Sometimes I am able to request specific titles from publishers but other times titles arrive unannounced. This provides me with the opportunity to review books that I would not, under most other circumstances, read. Such is the case with Feminine Appeal, written by Carolyn Mahaney. I left the book in my shelf for several weeks before I dared to open it up. I was gratified to see that it was endorsed by many men far more godly (and masculine) than myself, so if someone is going to laugh at me for reading it, they will also have to mock John Piper, Josh Harris, Mark Dever, Wayne Grudem, Dennis Rainey and Randy Alcorn. I feel that I am in good company, and so much so that I can even admit that I found the book tremendously enjoyable.
Feminine Appeal is, of course, written primarily for women. Having prepared several audio tapes which examined Titus 2, Mahaney was challenged (apparently by Mark Dever) to publish these presentations in book format. Nancy Leigh DeMoss says that as she listened to these tapes "my heart rejoiced at her evident love for the truth and her clear, compelling presentation of this passage that outlines the " curriculum" that should be at the heart of all ministry by and to women. I was delighted when Carolyn agreed to put that teaching in book form."
Mahaney extracts seven feminine virtues from verses 3 to 5 of Titus 2. The verses read as follows:
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
The seven virtues are:
* The delight of loving my husband
* The blessings of loving my children
* The safety of self-control
* The pleasure of purity
* The honor of working at home
* The rewards of kindness
* The beauty of submission
Each of these topics receives a single chapter in the book which concludes with a reflection on Mahaney's own mother, Margaret, who evidenced so many of these graces. Appended to the book is a study guide prepared by Nicole Mahaney Whitacre, daughter of C.J. and Carolyn.
There were at least two aspects of this book that stood out to me. First, in a book of this type it is always easy for an author to present herself as the example of all that is good and worthy. It is easy for an author to show how she has overcome the difficulties of life and now exemplifies the virtues of godliness. This is particularly prevalent in certain areas of the Christian world where Christian writers, speakers and singers feel they need to display the evidences of a type of anointing that transcends what the rest of us experience. I was glad to see that Mahaney is honest and humble. She humbly admits her own faults and her own shortcomings. She does not hold herself as the example of all that is good. At the same time she does not heap scorn upon herself. She is honest with those areas in which she has, by the power of the Holy Spirit, grown and developed. Yet she is also more than willing to admit where she still struggles and where her sinfulness has affected herself and her family.
The second aspect of this book that stood out to me was how closely Carolyn's life and ministry parallels that of her husband. The final words of the book could just as easily have been drawn from C.J.'s later book, Humility. Carolyn writes of her mother, "Although it's true, by worldly standards, that Margaret never accomplished anything great, in God's eyes she has achieved true greatness. Her life can be summed up by the words of our Lord: 'Whoever would be great among you must be your servant...even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many' (Matt. 20:26,28)." This tells me that Carolyn and C.J. are not merely building a facade - a fictitious persona which they present to the public while in private they are far different. It is clear that they truly do walk together and minister to each other. It is clear that they first apply what they learn to their own lives before sharing with others.
Not too long ago I expressed my belief that men do not mentor one another in the way the Bible encourages us to. I am sure that the same is true of women. A book like this can allow a woman to receive some encouraging, biblical mentorship. As John and Noel Piper express in their endorsement, "Feminine Appeal may be an excellent stand-in for the mentor they lack right now. For others, it will wonderfully complement the relationship they have with an older friend of the Titus 2 sort."
This book was a valuable read, even to one who has no feminine appeal! As I read I was challenged in the ways I understand my wife and was provided with much wisdom which I can share with her and even apply to my own life. I was given a greater appreciation for the precious gift God has given me in my wife. I give this book my unreserved recommendation for men or women.
Feminine Appeal is, of course, written primarily for women. Having prepared several audio tapes which examined Titus 2, Mahaney was challenged (apparently by Mark Dever) to publish these presentations in book format. Nancy Leigh DeMoss says that as she listened to these tapes "my heart rejoiced at her evident love for the truth and her clear, compelling presentation of this passage that outlines the " curriculum" that should be at the heart of all ministry by and to women. I was delighted when Carolyn agreed to put that teaching in book form."
Mahaney extracts seven feminine virtues from verses 3 to 5 of Titus 2. The verses read as follows:
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
The seven virtues are:
* The delight of loving my husband
* The blessings of loving my children
* The safety of self-control
* The pleasure of purity
* The honor of working at home
* The rewards of kindness
* The beauty of submission
Each of these topics receives a single chapter in the book which concludes with a reflection on Mahaney's own mother, Margaret, who evidenced so many of these graces. Appended to the book is a study guide prepared by Nicole Mahaney Whitacre, daughter of C.J. and Carolyn.
There were at least two aspects of this book that stood out to me. First, in a book of this type it is always easy for an author to present herself as the example of all that is good and worthy. It is easy for an author to show how she has overcome the difficulties of life and now exemplifies the virtues of godliness. This is particularly prevalent in certain areas of the Christian world where Christian writers, speakers and singers feel they need to display the evidences of a type of anointing that transcends what the rest of us experience. I was glad to see that Mahaney is honest and humble. She humbly admits her own faults and her own shortcomings. She does not hold herself as the example of all that is good. At the same time she does not heap scorn upon herself. She is honest with those areas in which she has, by the power of the Holy Spirit, grown and developed. Yet she is also more than willing to admit where she still struggles and where her sinfulness has affected herself and her family.
The second aspect of this book that stood out to me was how closely Carolyn's life and ministry parallels that of her husband. The final words of the book could just as easily have been drawn from C.J.'s later book, Humility. Carolyn writes of her mother, "Although it's true, by worldly standards, that Margaret never accomplished anything great, in God's eyes she has achieved true greatness. Her life can be summed up by the words of our Lord: 'Whoever would be great among you must be your servant...even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many' (Matt. 20:26,28)." This tells me that Carolyn and C.J. are not merely building a facade - a fictitious persona which they present to the public while in private they are far different. It is clear that they truly do walk together and minister to each other. It is clear that they first apply what they learn to their own lives before sharing with others.
Not too long ago I expressed my belief that men do not mentor one another in the way the Bible encourages us to. I am sure that the same is true of women. A book like this can allow a woman to receive some encouraging, biblical mentorship. As John and Noel Piper express in their endorsement, "Feminine Appeal may be an excellent stand-in for the mentor they lack right now. For others, it will wonderfully complement the relationship they have with an older friend of the Titus 2 sort."
This book was a valuable read, even to one who has no feminine appeal! As I read I was challenged in the ways I understand my wife and was provided with much wisdom which I can share with her and even apply to my own life. I was given a greater appreciation for the precious gift God has given me in my wife. I give this book my unreserved recommendation for men or women.
46 of 47 people found the following review helpful
By Donna
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This is one of the best books I have ever read in the realm of being a Godly wife and mother. It is like having a godly mother who has raised children from infanthood to adulthood and had a happy marriage sit down and share what are the most important ways you can be a blessing to your family and husband. It really emphasizes the importance of family relations over worldly success and materialism. I would highly recommend it to anyone struggling in these roles or a new wife and mother.
43 of 47 people found the following review helpful
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Feminine Appeal is a very Biblically sound book with good advice for Christian women seeking to become more Godly in their roles as mothers and wives. It is encouraging and inspiring.
Mahaney categorizes seven important virtues that are important to us as wives and mothers if we are to fulfill our roles as God intends us to: loving our husbands, loving our children, self-control, purity, working at home, kindness and submission. She devotes a chapter to each of these virtues. She also includes are remarkably inspiring picture of a woman at the end of the book who excelled at these virtues, and the impact her life made on all those who encountered her. She shares in true Titus 2 style: an experienced mother and wife counseling younger women based on her own experience and dedication to God.
I really believe this book will be best appreciated by married women with children. Yes, for any Christian woman who forsees these roles in her life at sometime in the future this type of advice is also helpful, but I would be hesistant to recommend Feminine Appeal to anyone not already in both roles.
There are study questions at the end of the book for group discussions, which was a draw for me when selecting this book as a study for my book club. Please don't select the book because of those questions. Most truly don't lend to very good group discussion. Many of them are tasks for the reader to complete on their own to help apply each chapter, with not so many questions targeted for chapter discussion with others.
All the above said, I felt this book was only OK. It just didn't stand out to me amongst all the other books on the market on how to mature in your role as wife and mother. Most of the book was a compilation of other works and others' ideas. The quotes and resources sited are appropriate and insightful to be sure. There just wasn't much original information from the author, in my opinion. Most of the talk in between the quotes from others' works seemed to be just discussion about the others' ideas. Also, none of the discussions were very in depth, but kept mostly on the surface. Examples and stories were given for each virtue, but mostly they were shared as "what not to do." I felt that if the author would have given some appropriate solutions to the examples they would have been more helpful.
In a nutshell, I won't recommend this book as a "must read" to any of my friends. However, it is certainly Biblically sound. It is not at all misleading from God's truth, and it is encouraging. It just didn't stand out to me as different than other books that someone can pick up off the shelf, and didn't offer any insight that one can't get from multiple other resources.
Mahaney categorizes seven important virtues that are important to us as wives and mothers if we are to fulfill our roles as God intends us to: loving our husbands, loving our children, self-control, purity, working at home, kindness and submission. She devotes a chapter to each of these virtues. She also includes are remarkably inspiring picture of a woman at the end of the book who excelled at these virtues, and the impact her life made on all those who encountered her. She shares in true Titus 2 style: an experienced mother and wife counseling younger women based on her own experience and dedication to God.
I really believe this book will be best appreciated by married women with children. Yes, for any Christian woman who forsees these roles in her life at sometime in the future this type of advice is also helpful, but I would be hesistant to recommend Feminine Appeal to anyone not already in both roles.
There are study questions at the end of the book for group discussions, which was a draw for me when selecting this book as a study for my book club. Please don't select the book because of those questions. Most truly don't lend to very good group discussion. Many of them are tasks for the reader to complete on their own to help apply each chapter, with not so many questions targeted for chapter discussion with others.
All the above said, I felt this book was only OK. It just didn't stand out to me amongst all the other books on the market on how to mature in your role as wife and mother. Most of the book was a compilation of other works and others' ideas. The quotes and resources sited are appropriate and insightful to be sure. There just wasn't much original information from the author, in my opinion. Most of the talk in between the quotes from others' works seemed to be just discussion about the others' ideas. Also, none of the discussions were very in depth, but kept mostly on the surface. Examples and stories were given for each virtue, but mostly they were shared as "what not to do." I felt that if the author would have given some appropriate solutions to the examples they would have been more helpful.
In a nutshell, I won't recommend this book as a "must read" to any of my friends. However, it is certainly Biblically sound. It is not at all misleading from God's truth, and it is encouraging. It just didn't stand out to me as different than other books that someone can pick up off the shelf, and didn't offer any insight that one can't get from multiple other resources.
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Best Christian book for women
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For this mom of three, extremely encouraging!
Not only did I find this book encouraging, but also sound. If you're looking for a concise, but deep study, pick this one!
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bible study book
This is a great book! We used it as book club book :-) for the ladies of my church. We had some really good conversations..
Published 9 months ago by spunky
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Instead of telling us how it's s'posed to be. . .
Carolyn, We would have gotten MORE out of a book if you had shared your own struggles, brokenness and suffering and how God's grace transformed them or how you are going... Read more
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