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Not the best book for a reality-based look at violence - has some serious pitfalls
on September 16, 2015
Perhaps I'm being a little harsh with a 2-star review, but I honestly don't like this book. The author takes a very triumphant, aggressive, almost self-aggrandizing tone (going on about her karate experience and how she will NEVER BOW DOWN to an attacker and whatnot) which just rubs me the wrong way... especially considering the fact that she actually admits to never having been attacked. =P Pardon me for nitpicking, but I'd prefer to learn about self-defense from a woman who actually knows what it's like to be victimized. That changes things.
The other major complaint I have is that she seems to be a proponent of this very aggressive, fear-based, even paranoid form of women's self defense. She gives frequent examples of attacks which are simply extremely unlikely to ever occur, especially without ample warning signs. She ends up giving the impression that you might be attacked at any time, and must be constantly vigilant in order to protect yourself. I used to believe this... and trust me, it's not a fun way to live. Neither is it healthy or reality-based. The VAST majority of violence is PREDICTABLE and PREVENTABLE. It doesn't just happen randomly out of nowhere.
I recommend reading instead The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Bekker. This book gave a very rational and straightforward look at the realities of violence without being fear-mongering or overly emotional. It has already helped me a lot with dealing with my own paranoia issues. I am still working to educate myself and learn self-defense techniques, of course, but I no longer believe I need to be hypervigilant in order to protect myself.
I don't think that the author of Fight Like A Girl intends to encourage women to be paranoid... I just think that, as a clearly very strong-willed 'fighting' woman who has never actually experienced victimization, she doesn't understand the effect this kind of approach is likely to have on women who have not been so lucky. 'Self defense' is a tricky subject, where some people tend to unconsciously develop unhealthy obsessions. Be wary of approaches that appeal strongly to your emotions; nothing about self-defense should get you feeling excited, vengeful, or self-righteous. And you do NOT have to be hypervigilant in order to be safe.