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Finding Hope When a Child Dies: What Other Cultures Can Teach Us

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My son died 15 years ago and although I have gone on to live my life, I have never been free of the grief of this loss. Dr. Miller's book has helped create a context in which I feel a sense of hope possibility, and healing. I felt comforted by the ideas in the book and reccommend it highly to anyone who has lost a child or knows someone who has.

I found this one to be very interesting. We tend to stay within our culture's views, and Miller enlightens our thinking. Some of it is a little strange compared to our culture's thinking. All the same, very interesting. I did not, however, read any of Miller's other books for the simple reason she has never had children. Her views are from a "textbook" point of view, very professional and well written. She speaks from the point of her patients, and people she has met throughout the world who have lost children. Textbook theories or not, a person cannot grasp how this truly feels unless they have had a child of their own die.

By learning about other cultures and their traditions, sometimes we can gain an insight into why we act the way we do. This book shows us that other cultures are more prepared for and accepting of death. When someone dies, the family is prepared which is more than we can say for North American culture and its inexperience with death.

My son died at the age of 31 in a snowmobiling accident that devastated me and changed my life forever. This book was a turn-around for me and gave me great comfort and even understanding on how to live this new life I am forced to live4 - giving words and thoughts to what seems like a secret soceity of parents wo lose children, I would highly recommend it to any parent suffering through the same loss.