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Finding the Love of Your Life

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I read this book several times and reviewed it while in three different dating relationships, and sometimes wondered if the right person was out there for me. But, the book was a great help to me, in understanding why my relationships were not working out and in some that I had to end, and when the right one came along I knew it!! So many people say that opposites attract and that may be true at first, but the greatest thing I learned from this book was that every area that you are different from your partner will be a potential conflict, so finding a mate that has the most similarities is key to a happy marriage. I just celebrated my 4th anniversary, and I can say that we did not have the struggles many couples have in getting adjusted as newlyweds because of how much we have in common. Everything needs to be discussed before marriage to determine compatability and much prayer needs to be put into it as well, so you keep a level head, and don't base your relationship on feelings, but make sure you are at peace with God in choosing your mate! (Proverbs 16:9) I was 28 when I got married, and let me say it was worth the long wait, the many relationships, and the many times of reading this book and learning patience and learning to be content single first.

My wife and I used this book extensively while we were dating. She had found it years before and introduced me to it. The questions and exercises helped us to get beyond our puppy love and to evaluate the potential of our lives together. This book is essential for all who are dating, and I would say it could be useful for a lot of married people, too. We give it to our single friends.

I am happily married for three years and when I was single this book helped me immensely . I realized early on who wasn't compatible with me as a lifelong partner. A lot of people make the mistake of not getting past the infatuation stage. Warren's book makes a strong point that certain areas (Money issues...children...etc) should be the same for both partners in the relationship. This book also points out when to know if somebody is worth pursuing..in general and specifically for you. There's somebody for everyone. He also points out where you, the reader, need to be emotionally to become somebody else's potential partner. Great book indeed.

Finding the Love of your Life is filling with many good ideas. My wife and I read this book while we were still dating, and it helped us deal with issues that might have become conflicts in our marriage. Dr. Warren's years of experience gives him insight that would take the average person years of hard lessons to obtain.

This book helped us to deal with issues such as communication, arguments, money, and sex before they became a problem. Is my marriage perfect? No , but we are very happy and because we dealt with many issues before marriage the transition from single to married has not been hard.

Furthermore, Dr. Warren point out the relationships need to be thought out, and the love is more than just a feeling. This book will help others to evaluate their relationships and determine whether they should continue with them or not.

I highly recommend this book.

I read this book more than 10 years ago when I was 21 years old and dating my first boyfriend (I was picky). My boyfriend and I read it together and found it very helpful. In fact, we realized that we weren't for each other!

This book has you picture your ideal mate and to list the top essential things that you must have in a spouse and the top things you definately don't want in a spouse. I'm so glad I followed his advice! I had very few things on my "must have" list and a reasonable amount of things on my "must not have". I also had a bunch of things on my "optional" list. I did not date again for 7 years! I just figured that such a man must not exist and told everyone I wouldn't get married. I figured that I'd rather not marry and still retain the choice than to get marry and regret it.

I finally met a wonderful man and because of the work I'd done with this book so long ago I knew he was what I was looking for. In fact, one evening after having a long prayer time with him I realized that he not only had everything on my "essential list" and nothing on my "must not have list", but he had everything on my optional list!!! ...plus some things I hadn't hoped to ask for. I can't say this will happen this way for everyone, but if I hadn't been encouraged by this book to wait I most certainly have married someone who didn't fit me nearly as well.

Now I've been married for 5 1/2 years and am in love with my husband as I was when I first met him. Because I'd learned in this book what to look for and what to becareful of I knew what I was getting into and have not had any dreadful surprises along the way. We are very happily married and celebrated the birth of our first child last fall.

I've read all kinds of books on marriage and most of them say exactly the same things in differnt words, but this one offers things other books don't. This is the one I give to all my friends who are looking for a spouse and feel uncertain. I highly recommend it!

I found this book very helpful when my 'then-boyfriend' and I were first considering engagement. A lot of the concepts you've probably heard before, so feel free to skim the chapter material. However, the part of this book that was most valuable to us was the list of 50 (or was it 100?) helpful similarities/topics to discuss with your soon-to-be-spouse. We spent hours and hours going through the bullet points. A lot of things came up that we would not have even thought to discuss, and we learned alot about each other. So buy the book, skim the chapters, and tarry on the list. HE even enjoyed it!

Perhaps the most striking aspect of this practical book is Warren's diagnosis for the high divorce rate of recent decades. Warren suggests that, before 1950, most people lived in the same neighborhood through their lives, and parents of newlyweds had known each other since the childhoods of those to be married. This means that most newlyweds had come from very similar backgrounds. This all changed with the high mobility rates of recent decades, which meant that potential mates are likely to be very different from oneself. And each difference leads to stress in a relationship. Warren provides a useful 50-item checklist of compatibilities in potential mates. He also gives helpful advice on conflict resolution.

My fiance and I purchased our first copy of this book four years ago; before Dr. Warren was popularized by the TV commercials. We found it to be so helpful in our relatioship, that we recently purchased several more copies as gifts for our grown children (from previous marriages). If you're not currently in a relationship, the book has a great section to help you determine the type of person you would be compatible with. For those already in relationships, it helps you determine how compatible you are. There is a wonderful list of 50 items to discuss with your relationship partner. These items will help determine your compatibility on a wide range of issues, from finances and parenting to the temperature setting of your home. We highly recommend the book to everyone seeking or currently in a relationship.

I felt that this book gave me direction and insight about finding a mate in the times when I needed it most. It helped me to realize that one person was not meant for me, and two years later, that another one was. I buy the book now for friends who struggle with these decisions. An excellent book, and well worth your time.

I really liked how well this book is put together as a whole. It made me realize that good marriages will require putting in some hard work before and during a successful marriage.

The essential point in this book is to "love smarter" and save youself from making an uninformed decision. To me, one should read this book before making a leap of faith that is founded on potential and not based on facts. Also, do not forget to pray as you read this book.