Finding a Lover for Life: A Gay Man's Guide to Finding a Lasting Relationship (Haworth Gay & Lesbian Studies) [Paperback]

John Dececco Phd (Author), David Price (Author)

Book Description

Series: Haworth Gay & Lesbian Studies | Publication Date: November 30, 2001

Develop healthy, lasting relationships!

Here is a terrific dating guide for single gay and bisexual men. This insightful book provides a proven strategy for creating a satisfying dating life and finding a partner who is right for you! It integrates theory and practice to help you create and develop healthy relationships, guiding you through the process of dating and relationship formation. Finding a Lover for Life comes complete with thought-provoking worksheets that challenge myths, false beliefs, and incorrect assumptions about gay/bi men, dating, and relationships.

Finding a Lover for Life will save you a great deal of time and frustration in developing dating skills. Its rational, skills-based strategic approach to dating will help you plan, organize, and focus your efforts in that part of your life.

Finding a Lover for Life is the tool you need to plan and implement strategies that will:

• attract available dating partners
• eliminate problems by identifying compatible and noncompatible partners
• create a healthy relationship

It also takes you through an individual preparation routine for dating that will help you to:

• challenge societal views of romance
• uncover self-defeating beliefs
• resolve past conflicts
• create affirming and self-enabling beliefs

This book will help you learn to date in a healthy and efficient way. But more than that, Finding a Lover for Life will help you develop a more positive self-concept, create a healthy community of friends, and help you move your life in a new, more constructive direction.

Product Details

• Paperback: 160 pages
• Publisher: Routledge; 1 edition (November 30, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1560233575
• ISBN-13: 978-1560233572
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 6 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,541,814 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Finding a Lver for Life, March 29, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: Finding a Lover for Life: A Gay Man's Guide to Finding a Lasting Relationship (Haworth Gay & Lesbian Studies) (Paperback)

I struggled as a single person to develop healthy sexual and intimate relationships. I later discovered as I talked with my friends that they had the same problem. I began to read dating books, but most of them were directed at single females. This book is aimed at single gay and bisexual men and really offers an alternative to the usual bar and cruising scene. I would highly recommend it to anyone who is serious about developing a lasting relationship.

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Sound Advice, October 29, 2002

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Marc James (Arlington, VA, USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Finding a Lover for Life: A Gay Man's Guide to Finding a Lasting Relationship (Haworth Gay & Lesbian Studies) (Paperback)

David Price has drawn a map to a healthy, long-term relationship. His extensive counseling and personal relationship experience strengthen the book's credibility. When any of us really admits it, we want a monogomous long-term relationship. We know this usually is not founded in a bar, as David points out, but in other places, and he gives several examples. Through a calm and rational approach, he takes us through the steps in finding that special guy. Especially memorable are his emphasis on shared values and his note that monogamy, while not for everyone, is the most realistic long-term model. He recognizes the challenges of gay dating and provides encouragement without condescending. One example of his practicality is suggesting we keep notes on the different people we're dating. Of course we would otherwise forget! It's not clinical as some might say but practical. His notion of getting to know several people on a gradual basis seems valid and hopefully something I will succeed in doing. He gives examples of when to be subtle and when to be direct. You'll finish the book thinking these ideas were very familiar but almost forgotten at a time when much do-what-feels-good-now advice is floating around. Of the several books I've read on building a gay relationship, this is the best.