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Everything in life comes down to two problems - you know what you want but don't know how to get it or you don't know what you want. There are plenty of books to help you with the first problem but I wrote this one to help you with working out what you really want. Use this guide to find both your inner compass and the confidence to go after what you want.
From the Inside Flap
Who should read this book?
If any of these statements sound familiar, this is for you:
You know what you don't want but struggle to be clear about what you do want.
You could do almost anything but you end up doing almost nothing because you lack the certainty to pick something.
You don't like where you are but can't figure out where you should be.
You know you are holding yourself back but you are not sure from what.
You have let others make the bigger decisions about your life; you suspect you might be coasting.
You carry a vague but pressing feeling that there is something else for you, if only you could know what it is.
When asked what you want, your mind goes blank or your heart starts racing.
You're facing a big decision and you don't know what to do or you have a feeling you might know but are afraid of the answer.
You're scared of making the changes that you know you could be making.
Somehow, you know that your life would be different if only you could work out what you wanted.
Andrew Halfacre is a working coach with years of experience helping people discover what they really want. He is in demand as a speaker and trainer who specialises in working with people who want to leave their job to start their own business. He is the author of "The Red Stuff Handbook: Everything You Wanted To Know About The Mechanics Of Starting A Small Business In The UK" and "First, Know What You Want - why goals don't work and how to make them".
Andrew is married and lives in Essex, UK with three daughters, three chickens and two noisy gerbils.
This is a great book. It is helpful- it will help you come to know exactly what you want. It does this by a mixture of showing and telling. It's also honest about the human condition-and our flaws, and our mixture of reasons and excuses we use to justify to pretending to act rather than doing. The book is both frank and understanding, provoking and challenging- but always with compassion and purpose behind them. It doesn't just talk about goals, it helps you really define what goals you want to follow. I can recommend this book to all of of us who need to clarify our goals and purposes in life. I suspect even those already set on one purpose would find it helpful to them to understand why they want their goal so strongly, and to help them close down distractions. This book is really about helping readers with deciding exactly what they want to direct their attention towards.
There are some specific gems in it that I'll highlight here.
1. Most people do not know exactly what they want. Many more have a vague inkling, but cannot put it into words, or a defined project. 2. Anxiety, frustration, anger signal energy going to waste, not to purpose. It's hard to stay in a bear state if you are working towards a purpose. 3. For many people goals need to be defined against something we want to avoid or get away from. Many people struggle to articulate a positive vision of anything. For these people questions such as "How could we make this worse?" and "What would you want instead?" can open the way to a positive goal. 4. We overestimate how much we can do in a day, we underestimate how much we can work up to over a year. 5.Read more ›
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Really appalling book. Not only full of middle-management aphorisms but also enough spelling mistakes to seriously discredit the quality of the publication and the author. I'm highly suspicious of the other "reviews" of this book and I advise you not to waste your money. This is one of the first books I've deleted off my kindle and if I could get my money back, I would.
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This is a book full of useful tools, which most everyone could use. It's written in an informal way, similar to someone telling us in person with the information. It's easy to understand, giving the reader valuable information quickly.
The book also contains several analogies to illustrate the author's messages in a way to help the reader fully understand his ideas. These included a fly hitting the glass window, Adam and Eve failing to take responsibility for their decisions, bus drivers instead of passengers controlling the bus, and a polar bear acting poorly in captivity. The author implies that people perform better if they have sustained focused attention, instead of believing in the multi-tasking illusion.
He also believes that most people are "sheep looking for a shepherd." The shepherd is a person who knows what he wants. Identifying what he wants is hard, mainly because he could be looking in the wrong way or is scared. To help us know what we want, this book describes twelve rules, which is a good step-by-step process for doing this. The book also provides us a link to the author's website which contains additional resources and downloads (such as a journal). It also provides us a link to his Facebook page. These Internet resources complement the information provided in the book. The tools, such as questions, within the book were very valuable. I really liked the "what do you want instead" question to help transform blame into solutions.
A concern I had with this book, though, was the author's lack of sources, such as the source of the statistics involving 95% of people not knowing what they want.Read more ›