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Newspaper columnist, writer and NPR commentator Patricia Raybon admits that she hated whites for years. She even tried unsuccessfully to whip up a similar rage in her parents. But anger got her nowhere. Eventually, in the philosophies of Martin Luther King Jr. and Mahatma Gandhi, she found an alternative: forgiveness. The first part of the book is a series of essays on the life experiences of herself and her father, and the racial history of the country; it ends with "Letter to My First White Friend," a grateful acknowledgment of a white girl at her mostly white high school. In part two of the book, further essays explore the process of moving beyond hate, and the new world it has opened up for Raybon. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Reared in suburban Denver, a black woman of middle age, an associate professor of journalism at the University of Colorado, Raybon decided to challenge her demons and "trace [her] journey from rage to racial reasoning." This diaristic mix of anecdote and meditation shows her embracing complexity, trying to treat people as individuals while recognizing how race still matters. She writes of her father, an auditor, born poor in Mississippi, who willed himself to be a success in the white world but could never relax. She explores the specter of interracial sex, laden with taboo, and suggests that love would mean a healing, quotidian remedy. She has learned from Gandhi and King, flawed men who found inner peace in larger struggle. Marrying a light-skinned black man had forced Raybon to confront her own color prejudice, while her classroom experience has prompted students and professor alike to challenge their stereotypical attitudes. Raybon's terrain here is not all new, but her confessional has the intimate voice of hard-won honesty.
Copyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 272 pages
  • Publisher: Penguin Books; Reprint edition (June 1, 1997)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0140244360
  • ISBN-13: 978-0140244366
  • Product Dimensions: 5.1 x 0.6 x 7.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #932,863 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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LEADING GOD'S PEOPLE TO LOVE

Patricia Raybon is the award-winning author of "My First White Friend," her racial forgiveness memoir (winner of the prestigious Christopher Award) and "I Told the Mountain to Move," her prayer memoir and a 2006 Book of the Year Finalist in Christianity Today Magazine's annual book awards. She also authored a top-rated One Year® devotional on daily Bible blessings ("God's Great Blessings") published by Tyndale House and is co-author of a tribute to African American spirituals called "Bound for Glory."

Patricia's latest book with her youngest daughter Alana explores their mother-daughter struggle for interfaith peace. The title is "Undivided: A Muslim Daughter, Her Christian Mother, Their Path to Peace." The publisher is HarperCollins Christian Publishing (Thomas Nelson and W Publishing Group). Release date is April 28, 2015. (Support the pre-launch! Pre-order now.)

A LITTLE MORE ABOUT PATRICIA:
A journalist by training, Patricia earned a B.A. in journalism from Ohio State University and an M.A. in journalism from the University of Colorado at Boulder.

Patricia worked for a dozen years in Denver as a newspaper journalist at The Denver Post and the Rocky Mountain News. Mid-career she joined the journalism faculty at the University of Colorado at Boulder where she taught print journalism for 15 years.

Patricia's courageous personal essays on family and faith have been published in The New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, USA Today, USA Weekend, Country Living Magazine, Chicago Tribune, The Denver Post, Guideposts, In Touch Magazine of Charles Stanley Ministries, and aired on National Public Radio.

Patricia now writes full-time on matters of faith. She is also mom to two grown daughters, a "Grammy" to five grandchildren, mother-in-law to one "son," and the wife of 38 years to her husband Dan. She and Dan make their home in Colorado where she grew up. In all of this, Patricia seeks to live in the spirit of her favorite Scripture: "For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes." (Romans 1:16 NIV

WHAT DO PEOPLE SAY?
"Glorious...Raybon can tell a story to be sure."-- Publishers Weekly
"Packed with powerful moments."--Kirkus Reviews
"Artistic excellence affirming the highest values of the human spirit."--The Christopher Awards
"Powerful. Inspiring. Masterful."-- Good Girl Reviews
"A real gem...(her) writing is fluid and substantial."-- FaithfulReader.Com
"Lush prose...eminently readable."--Christianity Today Magazine
"Wonderfully written." Forbes Book Club
"Raybon is an award-winning writer. This book shows why."--NAPRA Review

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Her writing exemplifies what it means to "lay your soul bare."
C. Carlson-Thies
I must admit, I have a few other pages to read before I'm finished, but I want to buy a copy for several of my friends for a Kwanzaa gift, so came online to order.
Ruth Collins
Helpful to also understand the significance of forgiveness and the rewards forgiving brings to one's life.
Edouble

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

28 of 28 people found the following review helpful By Lisa S Harper on February 18, 2000
Format: Paperback
I finished the prologue and I cried. Ms. Raybon ends her introduction with a simple statement... "Let the rains fall down on me." In that moment, I knew that by reading this book I was not only going to witness one Black woman's healing process from the pain of racism. I, myself, was committing to enter in and let the rains fall down on me. Miss Raybon's story was my Great grandmother's story, my grandmother's story, my mother's story and my story. I couldn't believe how many of her experiences were not just the random experiences of one Black family. They truly were the recollections of a Black family caught in a tide of Black experience. Ms. Raybon put words to experiences most of us only intuit. She named it and naming it is among the first steps in the healing process. She also "went there". She went places and was gut-level-real about things most Black people know about but never speak of. What courage. In addition to her gut-level honesty, Ms. Raybon is surprisingly well researched. She speaks not only from the gut, but also from a rare place which takes into account historical, psychological and sociological realities which may have influenced her development, as she diligently pursues her own healing. Most of all, I appreciate the acknowlegement that it is her faith alone that gives her the strength - the motivation - even the ability to complete the healing process and be reconciled. Her's is a rare process and one truly born of wisdom and honesty. Her book is a rare kind of book as it chronicles a seldom seen side of racial reconciliation, that of a Black woman. What a breath of fresh air. It was a healing journey to read this book.Read more ›
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20 of 20 people found the following review helpful By Linda Adams on December 16, 2000
Format: Paperback
I've belatedly begun studying African-American culture and history, and stumbled across this marvelous book. It's not a fast read, because you savor her language--each phrase, each paragraph is rich. But it is a compelling, raw, and honest look at race relations in America, and a very well-written book with beautiful, poignant prose. It should be on _everyone's_ required reading list. I'll try to explain why I feel this way, as this book moved me very deeply.
As a white but "color-blind" American, I feel my life has been vastly enriched by reading this book. I feel I understand so much better what it means to be Black in America from reading Ms. Raybon's words and her heart-wrenching life experiences. I never quite understood racial hatred, posessing none of my own, and through her eyes I began to comprehend the pain many individuals go through every day in this country. I was so unaware, so oblivious to this. My lack of awareness has been a crime. I will never again look at life the same way as I did before reading this book, and for that I am extremely grateful.
As an author myself, and a critical reader, I don't hand out such high praise easily. This book is an absolute must-read for _all_ Americans. Her theme of forgiveness is truly the only way to heal the terrible scars of not only the evils of racism but all human wounds. I would like to thank Ms. Raybon for having the courage to publish this book, and encourage everyone, of all backgrounds, to read it.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on August 4, 1997
Format: Hardcover
Within this simple text I found a wisdom for our age which still struggles with race, gender and religious diversity. In the unencumbered style of an honest journal, she weaves the stories of growing up "black", from the pain of "degrees of blackness" to the constant dance that unconsciously coreographed relations with "white folks". And then over and above the telling of the story, or perhaps because of it, the sweet experience of compassion, forgiveness and love begins to manifest itself...this book will stay on my nightstand for a very long time
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful By Neel Aroon on March 24, 2002
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My first white friend tells the life of Patricia Raybon, an African American women growing up in Colorado. Through her life, she felt on the outside because of her race and did not fully trust Caucassions and held a lot of hostility towards them. However, as she grows and matures, Raybon begins to become friends with a white women in high school. Through her life, she is faced with challenges dealing with her race like people questioning her credential when she teachs college. Through her life, Raybon is able to reflect and come with a better understanding of race relations. She begins to realize that the racial hostility she had can be overcome and that we can all get along.
This book is a great book to read regardless of your race or experiences with other races. We can all gain from a book like this.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Diana Hart on January 1, 2002
Format: Paperback
At first, I wasn't sure I wanted to read this book because of the title. But, I had an occasion to interview the author so I decided I should read the book before I went. I found the book to be exceptional in both the writing and keeping my interest.
This book also helped me in some of my own healing because I related to so many challenges that Patricia speaks about that were directly related to her family. The book was about forgiveness and how one woman decided it was time to move on with her life.
Because I work with women regularly who are attempting to do the same, I will recommend this book to many.
Diana Hart, MA, Career and Life Coach, Hart to Heart Communications, Inc.
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