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Product Details

  • Series: Chapman, Gary
  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Northfield Publishing; New Edition edition (September 1, 2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1881273989
  • ISBN-13: 978-1881273981
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.7 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (325 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #218,841 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews


"Christian author Gary Chapman applies his groundbreaking thinking on love to single people. In an immensely satisfying lesson, he explains that the love languages are not just skills but expressions of a deep human need to give ourselves fully to another person—even after the initial bliss ends. Offering many sophisticated insights and suggestions along the way, he explains the five languages, shows how they play out for single people at various life stages, and extends the lesson to friendships, work relationships, and personal success. Chris Fabry's reading is natural and appealing. His gentle authority and desire to help are obvious from the opening sentence and will motivate many singles to begin working on life's most important challenge." 
T.W. © AudioFile Portland, Maine
--This text refers to the Audio CD edition.

From the Back Cover

You can know the joy of unconditional love!
Dr. Gary Chapman believes you have a God-given yearning for complete and unconditional love.  But you’ll never be able to express it – or receive it – until you learn to speak the right “love” language.  The Five Love Languages for Singles reveals how different personalities express love in different ways.  In fact, there are five specific languages of love:
Quality time
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Gary Chapman’s first best-selling book, The Five Love Languages, has already connected with more than 3 million readers.  How he tailors that message to meet the unique needs of singles, using real-life examples and anecdotes taken from his 30 years of interaction with single adults.
Whether you are young or old: widowed, divorced, separated or never married, these proven principles of communicating and receiving unconditional love can apply in all your relationships, including friends, coworkers, classmates or roommates.
Singles – Discover the joy of expressing love, and feeling truly loved in return!
Gary Chapman is the author of the best-selling Five Love Languages Series and the director of Marriage and Family Luke Consultants, Inc.  Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio program airs on more than 100 stations.

Customer Reviews

GREAT BOOK....Easy read!
Carlene P
It really helped us both to not only understand our own Love Language but how to better communicate to each other in our love languages!
in love
I haven't read the book yet but I'm really looking forward to it!!!!

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

245 of 278 people found the following review helpful By on August 3, 2005
Format: Paperback
I read the original THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Dr. Gary Chapman when I was a single freshman in college. I don't remember what inspired me to pick up the book, given that the tagline was "How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate," but I couldn't put it down. I read it in one all-night sitting, crying my way through the sections that illuminated and explained tension I'd had in specific relationships with family and friends. It was dark outside but light bulbs were going off inside my head all night.

"Aha! His primary love language is Acts of Service! No wonder he gets so frustrated when we kids don't help around the house."

"Quality time! That's what she values, not my professions of appreciation and friendship."

Based on its applicability to my own life, I immediately determined that Chapman's ideas about there being five love languages were spot-on. And so did about a zillion other people since he has sold approximately that number of books. If you're one of the few people who has no clue what I'm talking about when I say the five love languages, let me explain.

In Chapman's theory, there are five ways in which people express and understand love. These five "languages" are Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Chapman believes that while some people can often express and understand love in any number of these languages, we all have a primary love language through which we are most comfortable expressing and receiving love. He goes on to say that tension in relationships often stems from not understanding the other person's primary love language --- not understanding how the other person is communicating their love and how that person needs to be communicated to in order to understand they are loved.
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126 of 148 people found the following review helpful By Robert Riley on May 18, 2005
Format: Paperback
Readers of this book, you will have an unfair advantage.

But we all know what they say; all is fair in love and war.

If so, this book is a nuke with a big bang. I have read 3 of his books and this one drove the nail home.

At first it was hard to understand what makes me feel loved is not what makes others feel loved. I thought love was the same for everyone, boy was I wrong.

If you are looking to connect with someone new, this will definitely help you.

If you want to improve a situation at work, school, or at home, here is your answer.

If you want to understand your parents and some of the things they have said to you, again here is your answer.

I was surprised at my test results in the back of this book. When I looked at the results I found out why my mom and I were so far apart for so many years, and why she said some of the things she said that bugged me so much. Her love language was the lowest on my list.

Why my Dad had such a profound effect on me was that he spoke my love languages fluently.

What drove me into bad environments when I was troubled, why I drove around in my car going nowhere; it was because I was just trying to return to a place I felt loved. Knowing this has definitely saved me on gas.

I figured out why so many of my past relationships were so shallow and others were so wonderful and special.

The best thing of all is, I know what my love language is now and how to let others know what it is. This makes me happier in all of my relationships.

It is all about making life better, you can express to others what makes you feel better, help others in your life to figure out what their love language is, or figure out their love language on your own.

It takes so little effort to make someone feel good.

So why not?
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120 of 146 people found the following review helpful By Jennifer Presley on April 11, 2006
Format: Paperback
The original Five Love Languages was insightful, had a variety of examples and provided a good amount of psychological and Christian theory and application. This book is supposed to be for singles, but almost every example has to do with dating couples--people I don't really consider single. Rarely does it talk about regular friendship--and when it does, it's guy-girl friendships. I was hoping to get some insight into my same-sex friendships, family relationships and guy-girl non-romantic friendships, but this book falls horribly short of that. Get the original copy and just use a little imagination and brain-power to apply it to your single life. You'll save the time, money and frustration.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By M. Reyne on September 4, 2009
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I am not a religious person, spiritual is more of what I would call myself. I was a bit leery at first to read THe 5 love languages book because it is classified as a "Christian" marriage/ self-help book. I have to say that is part of the book, but NOT to the point where it over-rides the core message- learning how you love and how to love others. My husband and I have been married for 13 years and I was ready to leave...this was our last chance to see if there was anything left. I started reading and within a week, he was reading it, too. If you really love someone, but are having a hard time understanding them, or don't feel as loved as you should- read this book. Our marriage shifted in ways I NEVER thought possible. Just knowing each others Love Language has made a huge difference! We actually talk, share, and have a common vocabulary in which to live. I think it is so important for all adults, I bought my sister (who is single and just turning 20) a copy of this book. I think that ANYONE who wants to start a healthy relationship should read this book.
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More About the Author

Married more than 45 years to Karolyn, Dr. Gary Chapman is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over thirty-five years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Millions of readers credit this continual New York Times bestseller with saving their marriages by showing them simple and practical ways to communicate their love to their partner.
Since the success of his first book, Dr. Chapman has expanded his Five Love Languages series to specifically reach out to teens, singles, men, and children (co-authored with Dr. Ross Campbell).
He is the author of numerous other books published by Moody Publishers/Northfield Publishing, including The World's Easiest Guide to Family Relationships, Anger, The Family You've Always Wanted, The Marriage You've Always Wanted, Desperate Marriages, God Speaks Your Love Language (Jan 09), Parenting Your Adult Child, and Hope for the Separated. He co-authored The Five Languages of Apology with Dr. Jennifer Thomas.
Chapman speaks to thousands of couples nationwide through his weekend marriage conferences. He hosts a nationally syndicated radio program, Love Language Minute, and a Saturday morning program, Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, that air on more than 100 stations. Dr. Chapman also serves as senior associate pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.
Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University.
Dr. Chapman and his wife have two adult children and two grandchildren, and currently live in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.

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