An encounter at a party changed Gay Hendricks forever. A stranger asked him to imagine himself on his deathbed and to consider this question: 'Was your life a complete success?' If not, then 'What would be the things you'd wish had happened that would have made it a success?' Hendricks said his deepest wish was for a loving, lasting relationship with a woman. The stranger said, 'turn that wish into a goal, and put it in the present tense.' On the spot, Hendricks came up with this goal, 'I enjoy a happy marriage with a woman I adore and who adores me.' This goal helped him create his marriage to Kathlyn, and during the past 27 years they've become well-known relationship experts and co-authors of nine books together. This short, focused book shows readers how to discover their own five wishes for a fulfilled life. Neale Donald Walsch's thoughtful foreword explores the power of this approach and explains why he insisted Hendricks share it with others.
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“With brilliance and clarity, Gay Hendricks shares this inspirational story from the heart. Five Wishes can help anyone find the power within to change their life.” — John Gray, PhD author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
“It is time to make all your wishes come true. Gay Hendricks’s brilliant, easy-to-understand five questions will take you the distance to happy wish-fulfillment. I wish everyone would read, absorb, and apply the wisdom of this great and inspiring book.” — Mark Victor Hansen, coauthor of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series
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"With brilliance and clarity, Gay Hendricks shares this inspirational story from the heart. Five Wishes can help anyone find the power within to change their life." -- John Gray, PhD, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"It is time to make all your wishes come true. Gay Hendricks's brilliant, easy-to-understand five questions will take you the distance to happy wish-fulfillment. I wish everyone would read, absorb, and apply the wisdom of this great and inspiring book." -- Mark Victor Hansen, coauthor of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series
Gay Hendricks has served for more than thirty years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies. Throughout his career, Dr. Hendricks has coached more than eight hundred executives, including the top management at firms such as Dell, Hewlett-Packard, Motorola, and KLM. Along with his wife, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks, he has coauthored many books including Conscious Loving, The Corporate Mystic, and his latest, the New York Times bestseller Five Wishes, which has been translated into seventeen languages. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford University. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at the University of Colorado, he founded the Hendricks Institute, which offers seminars in North America, Asia, and Europe. He is also the founder of a new virtual learning center for transformation, www.gaiailluminationuniversity.com, and The Spiritual Cinema Circle.
Jack Canfield recommended this book to his email list, and I bought it. I find this strategy of looking back on your life many years from now on your deathbed, and asking the right questions about your life to be instructive and valuable.
Using the future to discern now, what if anything is missing from your life that would make it worthwhile, and take the necessary action to attain those important goals.
The author shows how he discovered five important wishes for his life following a chance encounter at a party. Pursuing these wishes helped him resolve lifelong issues which were holding him back, particularly in love relationships. If it worked for him it could work for you. Particularly valuable is the idea of completing, described in chapter 2, and I particularly liked that he shares his sticking points and breakthroughs, and I could relate his experiences to my own dilemmas.
You are probably wondering what value you can derive from this book, and what ideas it might give you that you can apply. How much would learning what would make your life satisfying be worth? If you are like me, the answer is worth a lot more than what Amazon is asking.
This small book offers fresh insight and clarity in the process of creation, especially in the first step of knowing what you want. From the perspective of your deathbed, look at your life - is it a complete success? If not, what do you wish you have accomplished?
I realize I am often so wrapped up in the current situation that I lose sight of the big picture. It is like running a business from day to day without the mission and vision. I may make my end meet (highly unlikely in a poorly planned business, but I may get lucky . . .) but will I have the contentment and the sense of success?
When I think about life from the perspective of death, small things like having a nice car and house just fall off the picture. It is not like I don't want them - I do intend to have a good life and be wealthy - but there are far more important things, and I know small things will come along when I work on the big things. As the character in the book points out, we tend to aim too low. I was living to make a living and have some good time along the way. He was "merely wishing for a meaningful life." He continues saying "Why not wish for a magnificent life of complete fulfillment?"
Big wishes I embrace wholeheartedly and feel enthusiastic about ignite the magic power of creation. They send out strong messages to the Universe. Petty wishes, on the other hand, fail to inspire us and just don't summon the magic energy within us.
The book describes the author's five wishes and how they have manifested. Even if his wishes are different from yours, I strongly recommend reading it through because he presents great spiritual guides in a simple easy-to-understand manner. For example, do you identify with his anxiety of wanting to do something else while doing one thing, never really savoring the thing you are doing?
I devoured the book in a day and wrote and re-wrote my five wishes in my journal. Then I read my wishes aloud many times until I really got the hung of them. Try it for yourself and feel what energetic difference it brings!
(I must warn you this book is only good if you actually take the question seriously and write down your wishes. It is a very practical book for spiritual growth.)
The central idea in this book is to get you to view your own life from the perspective of your deathbed, and from there you'd be better abled to really determine what's important in life. The idea is good, and the four questions that the author presents in order to deepen your perspective work well enough, but this by all means is anything but new or groundbreaking. These ideas have been around for ages.
I agree with the reviewer that said this book could have been easily condensed into a chapter and the main idea would be illustrated just as well. I regret paying $18 dollars for this. If you are still curious please check this out at the library or buy it used.
