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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
Not Quite Flawless...But Pretty Good, October 30, 2000
This review is from: Flawless! The Ten Most Common Character Flaws and What You Can Do about Them (Paperback)
After reading the first two chapters of Tartaglia's book, I thought the information was given in somewhat of a shotgun approach: a little bit of everything was coming at me. It seemed that the information was good, but I didn't think the organization (or perhaps the flow) of the material was helpful. Either Tartaglia changed or I got a better handle on his style. Starting with the third chapter, my interest increased all the way until the final chapter. Tartaglia has submitted ten character flaws for discussion. There's a little something for everyone. The chapter titles are: 1 - Addicted to Being Right, 2 - Raging Indignation, 3 - Fixing Blame and Nurturing Resentments, 4 - The Dread Seekers - Worry and Fear, 5 - Intolerance, 6 - The Poor Me or Martyr Syndrome, 7 - Self-Regard Run Riot, 8 - The Excuse for Everything-Inadequacy, 9 - Hypercritical Fault Finders, 10 - Chronic Dishonesty - The Trap At the very least, I can assure you that if you read the book honestly, you will learn some things about yourself that you won't like. But Tartaglia gives some good advice on what you can do about these character flaws. He often relates the remedies to Biblical principles, which I appreciated, although I'm not sure that I agree with some of his interpretations. If you are honest with yourself, you'll learn something about yourself and your worldview after reading Flawless.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
chockfull of good horsesense., June 23, 2002
This review is from: Flawless! The Ten Most Common Character Flaws and What You Can Do about Them (Paperback)
We all have character flaws, it is an unavoidable fact. We all have idiosyncracies that hinder us at times, and sometimes downright debilitate us! Not only do these flaws make our own lives disappointing, but they make those around us wish that we were not around them! Dr. Tartaglia shows us that these flaws tend to travel in clusters. They spin out of control and perpetuate themselves... "You only need to get one flaw going and the others automatically join. When they are all working in combination you are out of control. When they are out of YOUR control, your life becomes unmanageable." The "flaws" he examines in this book are very... commonplace. If you honestly ask yourself the 19 questions he places at the beginning of each chapter (why 19? I don't know), you will SURELY find yourself saying "Wow, hey, I do that all the time!" Or, conversely, you will say, "No, I have a lot of problems, but this is not one of them." Make a list. Take notes. It's terribly interesting what you find out about yourself as you read this book. And it's so educationally beneficial and satisfying to place other people in those places that don't apply to you. "Oh, I know someone that is SO EXACTLY LIKE THAT!" etc. etc. You can photocopy those chapters and send anonymous letters! The chapters conclude with good practical pointers on how to overcome flawed behaviour patterns. The author is witty and has definitely been around the block a few times in his observations about human behaviour. Flawless did not strike me as being notably PROFOUND though... it was just a lot of well-organized common sense, and toward the end it was starting to bore me. But it is always good to be reminded of the importance of common sense, and this book is worth the time.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Too much explaination, not enough tools..., October 26, 1999
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This book is not really bad, it just doesn't say much. You don't really walk away with good, solid tools you can use to improve your life. You finish the book thinking, "That was interesting." Big deal! If I spend money on a book, I want a little more than something interesting. It suffers from the same defect most therapists suffer from: Too much emphasis on explaining the problem, not enough emphasis on what can be effectively done about it. Too much emphasis on the past, not enough emphasis on the future. Better tools can be found in books like How to Win Friends, and a new one I just bought by Adam Khan called Self-Help Stuff That Works (Youme Works; ISBN: 0962465674)
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