The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man [Paperback]

John Lee (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 1, 1989

"Why Men Run From Relationships", Changes magazine

The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man is a record of one man's journey to find his "true masculinity" and his way out of co-dependent and addictive relationships. It's a book for all men and women who grew up in dysfunctional families and are now ready for some fresh insights into their past and their pain.

The Flying Boy is a story about feelings - losing them, finding them and finally expressing them. Here you will find people you know; will discover a way out of the pain and see that it really is OK to express yourself without fear.

The book is about grieving, a very misunderstood process often confused with self-pity. The Flying Boy opens doors to understanding - men will understand themselves and each other, and women will more deeply understand men, learn how to be with wounded men and still take care of themselves.

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About the Author

John Lee has taught Religious Studies at Austin Community College and Literature, Humanities and American Studies at the University of Texas and the University of Alabama. With a private counseling practice specializing in masculine psychology and men's issues, co-dependency and adult children of alcoholics, he also is the director of the Austin Men's Center.

Product Details

• Paperback: 111 pages
• Publisher: HCI; 2nd edition (February 1, 1989)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1558740066
• ISBN-13: 978-1558740068
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.6 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #480,969 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

For most of my career I've been writing self-help and psychology books (22 published), but I have also written fiction.


I have two books coming out this year: The Half-Lived Life (Dec 2011) and Emotional Intelligence For Couples (July 2011).


In addition to writing I'm also a public speaker, teacher, consultant and life coach. My areas of expertise are passivity, emotional regression, anger management, recovery, relationships, men's issues, spirituality and creativity.


I've been fortunate enough to have been featured on Oprah 3 times and have also appeared on 20/20, Dr. Oz radio program, The View, CNN, PBS, and NPR.


As a consultant and trainer I've worked with The Betty Ford Clinic, Cleveland Clinic, Hanley Center, Guy's Hospital (London, England), The New York Open Center, South Pacific Hospital (Sydney, Australia), Mountain Area Health and Education Center (North Carolina) and numerous others.


Before becoming a writer I was a professor at the University of Texas and Alabama. I live in McKinney, TX with my wife, Susan, and an ever-growing group of animals. We also have a home in Mentone, AL.


If you want more info, please visit my site at www.johnleebooks.com or visit my facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/jleemain

Customer Reviews

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30 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Engaging retelling of the search for self., September 26, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man (Paperback)

John Lee, well known in the men's movement and the recovery movement, sets out to share with us his growth through his own troubles based on his prior relationships. His insights are well worth the read, as he shares with us the enlightenment he experiences as he tries to deal with the weight of his parents, his early rejections, and his inability to express the rage he feels in an appropriate way. His story is sometimes almost too personal: we don't really want to be there through ALL of it, somehow. And yet, we are transfixed even on the most basic responses he feels. His progress is steady and we are rewarded by the goals he achieves. Alas, like real life, there is no happy ending with the girl, the horse and the sunset. Still, the changes he feels, the inner pains he quells, these are all worth the pain he still carries, the fights he still has to fight. An enduring volume, and a must for the man still struggling with his father, struggling with his pain, or not sure why he struggles, only that he does.

23 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful for survivors of toxic families., September 21, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man (Paperback)

I found this book helpful, hopeful and comforting for both my own pain from childhood traumas and for understanding the person I love so much who has his own demons from his childhood raised in an alcoholic family. Lee's book is probably most helpful to those who are ready and willing to face their problems and find professional help to guide them in confronting and neutralizing the pain so destructive to successful and meaningful adult relationships. A short read, an inexpensive book, but very useful!

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Flying Boy Retains Altitude, August 17, 2007

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This review is from: The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man (Paperback)

I'm told this could have been a little more specific inasfar as guidance; however, it's based on the author's experiences and one soon understands that it's necessary to apply the information to one's own life. Once that light bulb goes on, it's a good read and a helpful work. It's also very short, and that helps a lot with motivation. :o)