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10 Foolish Dating Mistakes That Men & Women Commit : And How to Avoid Them

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A bitter pill. No doubt this is all good advice--the authors are therapists and boy, does it show. Problem is, if you could do all the things they suggest you wouldn't need a book. Shy? Solution: Don't be. Not assertive or overly assertive? Solution: Don't be. And so it goes.

I can't imagine anyone who doesn't make some of the mistakes the authors describe--nor can I imagine anyone who could correct these just by reading this book. (I'm not even convinced years of therapy would necessarily work but I digress).

To be fair, the authors pretty much say that you're gonna have to have a lot of dates, its likely to be a long process. One thanks her family and friends for "helping me maintain my sanity through all those years of dating". Sounds like fun, doesn't it?

This book shows the reader how to be a better significant other by focusing on improving themselves. While that is the main focus of the book the rules applied to dating by Gruzen and Sperber are also very applicable to all relationships that people are in, friendships, roommates, etc. Humerous but poignant examples show the reader what he or she might be doing wrong, and often what he or she is doing right!

This book has everything you need to cure your dating dilemas, but the information is presented in such an "in your face" style that it may offend some dater's delicate sensibilities. Yeah, I'm flawed, but I don't need the good doctors to hit me over the head with it. Break it to me gently. Some of this stuff may be a revelation to the truly dating impaired, and we need a little more coaching to make it our own. Don't get me wrong, this quick reading book covers every dating mistake you are likely to make (many more than the 10 in the title), and gives you suggestions for improvement. However, if you would like to have the subject covered with more sensitivity, try reading John Gray's Mars and Venus on a Date, or Barbara DeAngelis' Are You the One For Me?

I thought this book was very enlightening. Some of the mistakes people make should be common sense, but just seeing them in writing helped to clarify my own mistakes and showed me that I'm not alone. I thought it was also a great book not only for relationships, but for relating to people in general.

I went through a very difficult relationship, and then broke up, it has taken me 21/2 years to sort of get back on my feet, everyone always said that my dating techniques were pretty bad and I guess I just didn't realize it,so I finally bought the book, and as I just went trhough the table contents, I felt like it was describing me EXACTLY!! I felt bad, so I read as fast as I could, and it has really made a difference, I now know what I shouldn't do and altough I would have liked more deepness in some topics I feel so much better that I finally caught up on all the things everyone kept telling me I was doing, and just couldn't realize until I read this book. IF YOU ARE SINGLE AND DATING PLEASE DO US ALL A FAVOR AND READ AND RECOMMEND THIS BOOK. Lila Gruzen and Rebeca Sperber, I think I can never be thankful enough, you guys are AMAZING.

I've read through piles of books on dating and relationships, and this book packs the most bang for the buck. Whenever a book makes a strong statement which is undoubtedly true, I highlight it in yellow. This book had a lot of yellow in it by the time I was done reading it. The tag-team authorship is well educated, and at the same time easy to read. I recommend it to anyone that has worried about issues in dating, relating, and mating.

This book has some very useful advice for anyone willing to look at their own dating habits and patterns. I found the examples of dialogue between men and women on dates, used to illustrate the dating "mistakes", to be of particular help. The substance of the book is delivered with an excellent blend of sound advice and humor. The book also reminded me of how important it is to just relax and have fun on dates before becoming too serious. I highly recommend it.

I was hoping for a bit more positive information from this book instead of it just telling me where I went wrong. I like THE ROMANTIC'S GUIDE because it gave a lot of positive, creative ideas on how to date well. This book needed a bit more of that.

I read this book after getting out of a 3 year relationship and it had some really helpful advice that I take with me now when meeting new people. Beware: this book will make you think. I found it to be enjoyable and also highly reccomend another book I read on dating called Stumbling Naked in the Dark by Bradley Fenon.

Which I didn't know or pay attention to. It is really basic and that means you are doomed if you are making these mistakes. I would love it if my date had read it before. Really, really good. Sometimes it gives extremely good hints to research further about possible origins of our mistakes. Not sexist, good for anyone trying to improve relationships.