This is one of the most compelling memoirs I have ever readk. I read it with my mouth hanging open. I could not put it down." --Cathy Smith Bowers, Poet Laureate of North Carolina, Author of "The Love that Ended Yesterday in Texas," and "The Candle I hold Up To See You"
"This book is an honest and transparent reflection on the spiritual journey of someone who traveled the long and difficult road from pain to growth, from profound hurt to forgiveness, from the agony and anxiety of living in a strange land to finding a home of fulfillment and a haven of peace.
It is a compelling story of relationships, broken and mended most especially between mother and daughter. This book can also be seen through psychological lens . . . seeking such elusive path towards wholeness and healing.
Ms. Lilia Lopez-Rahman has been most admirably transparent not only in her recollection of painful and traumatic events but also in sharing her deeply intimate reflections that have proven to be enormously cathartic." --Benoni Silva-Netto, Ph.D., Professor of Pastoral and Counseling, District Superintendent, Shasta District, The United Methodist Church
"Domestic abuse whether physcial or emotional, has long lasting effects on the spouse and children victims. Victims may seem to function well as we may not see the physical scars. Yet we do not realize the internal turmoil that continues long after they left an abusive environment. This is a story of a woman's triumphant journey as an immigrant battered woman who not only survived but thrived because of her courage, her tenacity, her faith, and her love for her daughter.
It is a must read story that gives hope and inspiration not only to immigrants and battered women but to everyone." --Lena Lorenzo, ACSW, LSW, Director. Victim/Witness Assistance Division, Dept. of the Prosecuting Attorney, Maui, Hawaii
About the Author
She was enjoying her career, but Chatham being a small town, Lilia started to miss the big city life of Toronto, especially when her friends there started to get married. Then she met Ron, an engineering student from Sri Lanka who seemed to have a promising future. She accepted his proposal thinking that he was going to be her rock. However, shortly after their wedding, Lilia realized that she made a mistake. She discovered that he was a philanderer, an abuser, and could not keep a job.
Lilia's 20-year saga began when Ron kidnapped their three year-old daughter Louise after he learned that she had hired a divorce lawyer. When Lilia discovered that both Ron and Louise were in Sri Lanka, she made up her mind that her daughter's life was worth risking everything she had, including her own life. She traveled to Sri Lanka to see Ron and her daughter. There Lilia realized that she could not be with Louise without reconciling with Ron. She decided to live in hell in order to rear and protect her.
One tumultuous event after another did not discourage Lilia from her purpose; not even when Ron used Louise's name to commit fraud. Louise turning 20 at that time was a third year university student. But without Lilia's unwavering faith, strength and willpower, Louise would have been incarcerated for this despicable act.
God's grace and Lilia's faith gave this story a happy ending. Lilia is now happily married to Mati Rahman, and both are living in Maui. Louise has a rewarding career with one of the well-known computer companies in the U.S. Lilia has a Bachelor's degree in Business Administration from the University of Windsor, Windsor, Ontario; a M.A. in Clinical Psychology from John F. Kennedy University in Orinda California. She also has a M.Div. from the Pacific School of Religion in Berkley, California and a Doctorate in Ministry from the Union Theological Seminary in Dayton, Ohio.
An ordained clergy of the United Methodist Church, she served in Fresno Christian Fellowship UMC in Fresno, California. Later she was appointed to St. Paul's United Methodist Church in Reno, Nevada. After that she served at Woodside Road United Methodist Church in Redwood City, California from where she retired in 2004.