How to Forgive When You Can't Forget: Healing Our Personal Relationships [Hardcover]

Charles Klein (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: November 1994

This book, written by a rabbi, teaches us how to shift our perception--moving beyond the pain and mistrust and allowing ourselves to say with honesty and an open heart, "I want you to be a part of my life again". "A beautiful book that every person on this planet needs to read".--Bernie S. Siegel, M.D.

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About the Author

Charles Klein has served as Rabbi of the Merrick Jewish Centre in Merrick, New York, for the past 16 years. He is a graduate of Brandeis University and was ordained by the Jewish Theological Seminary of America. He also studied at Columbia University School of Social Work and received his Masters degree from that institution.

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 130 pages
• Publisher: Liebling Pr Inc; 1 edition (November 1994)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0964287404
• ISBN-13: 978-0964287402
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,278,874 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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49 of 49 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Not quite what I was looking for, January 1, 2002

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This review is from: How to Forgive When You Can't Forget (Paperback)

This book talks of forgiveness more in terms of estranged relationships. It discusses how to forgive (or seek forgiveness for) one defined hurtful event from a long time ago. However, it does not discuss how to forgive someone who you still maintain a relationship with, but who continually hurts you. When people see no problem with their ongoing hurtful behavior, they will not seek forgiveness. So then you can't have any kind of reconciliation. And forgiving without that reconciliation is far more difficult. It would be nice if the wrongdoer would confront you and say "I know I hurt you, I know I was wrong, and I ask for your forgiveness". But it just doesn't always work out that nicely and neatly. You have to forgive when people "know not what they do", and you have to forgive when there will be no reconciliation. But how? The book presumes the one seeking reconciliation is the one who has done wrong, and it doesn't tell you how to get that without the other party's invovlement. And although the book DOES admit that reconciliation is not possible with some people, it gives no direction on how to forgive them anyway for your own inner peace.

23 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Better books on the topic are available, January 19, 2003

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This review is from: How to Forgive When You Can't Forget (Paperback)

I ordered this because Klein is a rabbi and I figured that the book might provide some extra meaning for this nice Jewish girl, but I found it rather weak in terms of content and offering little in the way of practical advice. ...Robert enright's book, "forgiveness is a choice", is much much better
and very practical.

21 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Disappointed.., June 5, 2002

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This review is from: How to Forgive When You Can't Forget (Paperback)

This book assumes that the person who have wronged us does have good intention which we might have overlooked, in which case, it would be easy to forgive. But I think readers are looking for more than that, and I definitely agree with Rachel's view. Sometimes, you just want to forgive, but you might not necessarily want to reconcile with that person, especially if that person is still continuing his hurtful behaviour. There are many other books about forgiveness that have this information. However, if you are just looking for ways to forgive someone who has wronged you and they now feel sorry about it and are seeking for your forgiveness, then this might be a book for you.