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Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life Hardcover – March 5, 2013

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 288 pages
  • Publisher: Basic Books (March 5, 2013)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0465025994
  • ISBN-13: 978-0465025992
  • Product Dimensions: 6.1 x 1 x 9.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (63 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #55,493 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews


Laurette Lynn, Unplugged
“[A] well written, well organized and beautifully stated piece of work….I emphatically recommend this book for any parent as well as any educator or anyone interested in improving education for our society.”
“[Free to Learn is] a powerful agent of transformation. I'd like to put a copy in the hands of every parent, teacher, and policy maker.”

Publishers Weekly
“[E]nergetic…Gray powerfully argues that schools inhibit learning…. [Gray’s] vivid illustrations of the ‘power of play’ to shape an individual are bound to provoke a renewed conversation about turning the tide in an educational system that fosters conformity and inhibits creative thinking.”

Frank Forencich, author of Exuberant Animal and Change Your Body, Change the World
Free to Learn is a courageous and profoundly important book. Peter Gray joins the likes of Richard Louv and Alfie Kohn in speaking out for a more humane, compassionate and effective approach to education.”

Steven Pinker, Harvard College Professor of Psychology, Harvard University, and author of How the Mind Works
“Peter Gray is one of the world’s experts on the evolution of childhood play, and applies his encyclopedic knowledge of psychology, and his humane voice, to the pressing issue of educational reform. Though I am not sure I agree with all of his recommendations, he forces us all to rethink our convictions on how schools should be designed to accommodate the ways that children learn.”

Lenore Skenazy, author of Free-Range Kids
“All kids love learning. Most don’t love school. That’s a disconnect we’ve avoided discussing—until this lightning bolt of a book. If you’ve ever wondered why your curious kid is turning into a sullen slug at school, Peter Gray’s Free to Learn has the answer. He also has the antidote.”

David Sloan Wilson, SUNY Distinguished Professor of Biology and Anthropology, Binghamton University, and author of Evolution for Everyone
“The modern educational system is like a wish made in a folk tale gone horribly wrong. Peter Gray’s Free to Learn leads us out of the maze of unforeseen consequences to a more natural way of letting children educate themselves. Gray’s message might seem too good to be true, but it rests upon a strong scientific foundation. Free to Learn can have an immediate impact on the children in your life.”

Roberta Michnick Golinkoff, author of Einstein Never Used Flash Cards and A Mandate for Playful Learning in Preschool
“A compelling and most enjoyable read. Gray illustrates how removing play from childhood, in combination with increasing the pressures of modern-day schooling, paradoxically reduces the very skills we want our children to learn. The decline of play is serious business.”

Stuart Brown, M.D., Founder and President, The National Institute for Play, and author of Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul
“Peter Gray’s Free to Learn is profoundly necessary as a fundamental illumination of the continuing tragedy and entrapment of both kids and their teachers in a generally failing and failed educational system. Gray demonstrates through science and evolutionary biology that the human species is designed to play, is built through play, and that for kids, play equals learning. Free to Learn is timely, paradigm shifting, and essential for our long term survival as adaptive humans.”

About the Author

Peter Gray is a research professor in the Department of Psychology at Boston College. The author of Psychology, a highly regarded college textbook, he writes a popular blog called Freedom to Learn for Psychology Today. He lives in Shrewsbury, Massachusetts.

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Peter Gray has conducted and published research in neuroendocrinology, developmental psychology, anthropology, and education. He is author of an internationally acclaimed introductory psychology textbook (Psychology, Worth Publishers, now in its 7th edition, with David Bjorklund as co-author), which views all of psychology from an evolutionary perspective. His recent research focuses on the role of play in human evolution and how children educate themselves, through play and exploration, when they are free to do so. He has expanded on these ideas in his book, "Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life" (Basic Books, 2013). He also authors a regular blog, called "Freedom to Learn," for Psychology Today magazine. His own current play life includes not only his research and writing, but also long-distance bicycling, backwoods skiing, kayaking, and backyard vegetable gardening.

Peter Gray grew up primarily in various small towns in Minnesota and Wisconsin, but his family moved to Vermont when he was 16, and he has been east ever since. He studied psychology and biology at Columbia College in New York City and then earned a doctorate in biological sciences at the Rockefeller University. Ever since then, the location of his work has been in the psychology department at Boston College, where he served for 30 years as a professor and now, though retired from teaching and administrative duties, retains the title of Research Professor.

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Peter Gray is absolutely brilliant.
Gina M. Riley
Whether or not you read Free to Learn, all of us who have children or work in education need to do more to promote the importance of increased freedom in education.
Oliver Demille
Always remember to take everything with a grain of salt though !
Jim Long

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Format: Hardcover
According to Peter Gray. he wrote this book in response to the implications and consequences of a school-centric model for childhood development: "The school system has directly and indirectly, often unintentionally, fostered an attitude in society that children learn and progress primarily by doing tasks that are directed and evaluated by adults, and that children's own [informal, self-directed] activities are wasted time...Related to this anti-play attitude is an ever-increasing focus on children's [begin italics] performance [end italics], which can be measured, and decreasing concern for true learning, which is difficult or even impossible to measure. What matters in today's educational world is performance that can be scored and compared across students, across schools, and even across nations to see who is better [who scores higher] and who is worse [who scores lower]. Knowledge that is not part of the school curriculum, even deep knowledge, doesn't count."

Credit Gray with brilliant use of sequences to explain the development of a key concept or the steps/stages of a key process. For example, seven reasons why children don't like school; lessons to be learned from exemplary schools (e.g. Sudbury Valley School); universal types of children's play; five of the most valuable lessons to be learned from children's informal, self-directed ways of playing games such as baseball that formal, adult-directed games do not; three primary styles of parenting (i.e. trustful, directive domineering, and directive-protective; reasons for the decline in trustful parenting; and how to become a more trustful parent.
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59 of 66 people found the following review helpful By Heike Larson on March 11, 2013
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Some books you read and think "Yes! Yes! Yes!" Some others, "No, No, No." This one, for me, had parts of both.

The "Yes!" parts:

1) A very insightful critique of traditional education. Peter Gray offers a rare, poignant critique of what is fundamentally wrong with public education in his outline of the seven sins of forced education. As he states, children generally don't like school, and for many good reasons, the paramount of which is that government schools are forced education:

"A prison, according to the common, general definition, is any place of involuntary confinement and restriction of liberty. In school, as in adult prisons, the inmates are told exactly what they must do and are punished for failure to comply. Actually, students in school must spend more time doing exactly what they are told to do than is true of adults in penal institutions. Another difference, of course, is that we put adults in prison, because they have committed a crime, while we put children in school because of their age."

Beyond the denial of liberty, Gray also identifies many other real problems of schools:
- They interfere with the development of personal responsibility and self-direction.
- They undermine intrinsic motivation to learn, and turn learning into work.
- They judge students in ways that foster shame, hubris, cynicism, and cheating.
- They interfere with the development of cooperation, and encourage bullying (in large part by their forced nature and their strict age-segregation.)
- They inhibit critical thinking, because of their focus on getting high marks on very simplistic multiple-choice tests.

2) An insightful analysis why and how play and playfulness can foster real learning.
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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By Hans Arp on March 5, 2013
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Anyone who follows Peter Gray's articles online can expect a thought-provoking, passionate, and evidenced-based approach to approaches for supporting children. This text builds on much of his previous work and presents a unified vision. Each chapter develops in a manner where the conclusions seem almost self-evident, but that is due in large part to the elegance of the writing and the coherency of his arguments. The text presents a wholly constructive alternative model for both education and childhood. It is a very important work that will endure even as others (hopefully) build upon this foundation.
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31 of 39 people found the following review helpful By Dg. Batt on March 31, 2013
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It's great to find a boldly interdisciplinary book questioning compulsory schooling which recognizes the profound wisdom of hunting & gathering societies.

The book focuses on the "negative reinforcement" side of power over children coming mainly from the state and parents, which I agree stunts their natural development. He doesn't seem bothered by the other way to have power over a child(or adult), "positive reinforcement" (controlling something they want (e.g., a candy bar) and giving it to them when they do what you want (e.g., pestering their parents to buy it)). The hunting and gathering societies I've read about (e.g.,in "Semai A Non-Violent People of Malaya"(swiddeners who also hunt and gather)) are very permissive but vigilantly teach their children "stranger-danger". Modern parents who like this book would do well to also learn from such societies in this respect when it comes to predatory, at times down-right psychopathic, corporations that purvey "positive-reinforcement" for profit; junk food, video games, cinematography, facebook, all things children love like a junkie loves his heroin. Such a message might not get much air-play in our corp-ocracy of course, perhaps the author knows this, perhaps not.

My only other beef is Gray's tendency to divide play from work. I'd go more along with the (I think Great) Ivan Illich, author of "Deschooling Society" (1971) and seek conviviality, what I'd call the merging of play and practicality (or perhaps more appropriate for serious occasions; merging the beautiful & the true). Or as anthropologist Gould put it in describing an Australian nomadic society(Yiwara) "there is no distinction made between work and play". I actually find our aimless, competitive, hedonistic, trivial weekend play even more pathetic than our immoral, competitive, boring, ugly weekday work....seems Gray doesn't... judge for yourself...definitely worth a read.
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