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Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs Hardcover – June 29, 2009
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Unfortunately, about half the book consist of her responses to letters or e-mails she has received, a transcript of a lengthy interview, and what appears to be an autobiographical letter to her daughter and her own mother. - The author had my full attention for the first half of the book but she lost me in the second part.
To sum it up: If you are looking for a "ten steps" kind of book, this is not it. "Free From Lies" will give you an overview of Ms. Miller's views on how deeply childhood abuse affects us as adults. It will encourage you to seek an "empathic therapist" rather than a therapist who confirms the patient's deep-seated conviction that somehow the treatment she/he received from her parents as a child was normal or her/his fault or even deserved. The book will also give you some basic tips as to how to find a suitable therapist.
Save your money and get it from the local library!
It is time to wake up, stop repeating what was done to us, discover new loving ways to treat our children, admit our parents did it wrong and not feel the need in the very same breath to excuse that.
We all have choices in life, we do not have to spank/beat our kids just because it was done to us. We can think for ourselves and realize that hitting a child can NeVeR be right or justified. Alice Miller suggests we think of a giant coming over to us and hitting us over and over... How would you feel? Scared, petrified, humiliated? Yes, all of these things plus more unwanted feelings. Talking and teaching with kindness is so much better in every way. Wouldn't it be great to live in a world where all the people were brought up with love, hugs and kisses, and kindness and when that person did something that was perceived as wrong, that instead of punishment and spanking, got a gentle explanation. The prisons would be empty.
I have most of Alice Millers books and my gratitude to her for her 'expose of this human phenomonon' is the most important piece of my search for meaning in my life.
I do not cease to be amazed at the human pschye. It's protection against the ''blows' of ignorance, it's ability to heal and restore itself,
and create within the ability to overcome the long ago abuse and once again be the wonderful loving person we were at birth.
All of that is not without struggle throughout life. Even now, I have to return to the basics, and separate where my negative emotions
are coming from. It remains a continuing mental and emotional battle to 'find' the REAL me. Without Alice's books, I cannot imagine where I might be. Thank you so very much!
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A rare book find for me, labeled and packaged well, received as better than described and sooner than anticipated, absolutely without a hitch. Read morePublished 6 days ago by f hampton bumgarner
Amazing book, highly recommend for people that have experienced trauma/child abuse or who work with people that have experienced child abuse or trauma. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Jaqueline Snell
Greatest author providing self healing from the wound of childhoodPublished 16 months ago by Robert Wing
She goes right to the point, in an easy language. Not too many pages, so very quick to read. This is her 2nd book I've read, and intend to read more.Published 20 months ago by Sandra Helena Zobaran
Alice Miller was recommended to me by my psychiatrist. It's a book about the repressed childhood abuse that later breeds self-hatred and sickness. Read morePublished on April 14, 2014 by Autumn Christian
I have read several of Alice Miller's books and have learned more about the effects of childhood abuse from each of them. Read morePublished on March 29, 2014 by annie242
I'm so glad I was recommended this book. It has been a real treat to learn to listen to and understand my inner child. Read morePublished on March 18, 2014 by Tim
If you want to change the way you view the world and the people in it, read her book, any of her books. Read morePublished on January 17, 2014 by Blee