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2.0 out of 5 stars
Mr. Haley is sincere, but misguided, April 2, 2011
The author does seem to be sincere in his advice. However, he's misguided in a couple of things. First, he seems to believe that homosexuality is a psychological disorder. He even quotes older editions of the DSM. But everyone knows that the APA made the decision in the 1970s to no longer list homosexuality as a psychological disorder.
Also, I was really confused at the beginning of this book because he uses "gender identity" as a synonym for "sexual orientation". Furthermore, he believes that homosexuals suffer from GID (Gender Identity Disorder). Gender identity is 101% different from sexual orientation; not all homosexuals have GID, and not everyone with GID is homosexual.
The research that Mr. Haley offers is, for the most part, outdated. I saw where some of his sources where from as early as the 1950s. Was there nothing more recent to back his claims?
Some of his advice was just plain silly. Like when he was giving advice about how to prevent homosexuality in your sons, he basically says that little boys should shower with their dad! Umm, do I need to say anything further? However, he does not say that little girls should shower with their mothers. We call that a double standard.
I also didn't like how he presented homosexuality. He made it look like the worst thing in the world. He also seems to think that all male homosexuals are feminine and all lesbians are butch. And he makes it sound like "the horrible gays are out to get us!"
So, overall, I'm sorry I waisted my money on this book (I did read the sample first, but I was still curious). Although some parts were amusing. I gave this book 2 stars only because some parts amused me and Mr. Haley does seem sincere.
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0 of 1 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
More Informative Than I Imagined, October 31, 2011
This review is from: 101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality (Paperback)
This book is very informative in that it comes from the viewpoint of people who have been in this lifestyle for years. It is very inspiring in that it gives hope to those still in it and their families to never give up. This book did not change my mind regarding my beliefs about homosexuality but it did change my heart and my ideas of how I will respond to them. I believe this book is a must read for everyone!
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55 of 94 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
A compassionate, informative, authoritative look at a complex issue, September 21, 2005
This review is from: 101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality (Paperback)
It's funny that in just about every area of life, we consider someone who has personal experience with a topic to be an excellent offerer of insight on that topic: The recovering alcoholic mentors the guy just into treatment, and we applaud; people who exercised their way from fatness to fitness write books and make videos about how to lose weight, and we buy them; Donald Trump tells us how to master the art of the deal, and all's right with the world.
Strange, then, the hits Mike Haley is taking here for "101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality" -- criticism obviously motivated more by the critics' political agendas than by their reading of Haley's book.
And what about the book? Haley says it grew out of actual questions he's been asked by gays and family members and friends of gays during his travels across the country. He recreates those questions and offers straightforward, informative answers that are in no way filled with the kind of invective or judgment suggested by other reviewers here -- some of whom admit they haven't even read the book.
What Haley offers here is desperately needed, rendered in the spirit of Christian love and filtered through his experience not only as a former homosexual, but as a counselor. If you're the parent of a gay child, somebody who wants to better interact with a gay coworker or someone just coming to grips with your own same-sex attractions, you will find both hope and help in these pages.
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