Approved by Parents' Choice 1999, praised in Time, Newsweek, and Library Journal-a leading sexuality educator's warm, practical, step-by-step program for helping parents provide accurate information and communicate their own values to their children. Millions of Americans know Debra Haffner from her appearances on Oprah, Dateline, Good Morning America, 20/20, and other national media such as Time, Newsweek, and USA Today. Whether she is discussing how to help kids deal with the onslaught of sexual messages they see in the media or providing sensible guidance on teaching the facts of life, Haffner's values-oriented approach to raising sexually healthy children is informative and comforting. Organized from birth through age twelve, her acclaimed book offers a wealth of practical techniques to help parents identify and communicate their own values about sexuality to their children, while also suggesting to parents the appropriate information to give to children of different ages.
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From Library Journal
An excellent guide covering children's and teens' sexuality issues. Haffner (president, Sexuality, Information and Education Council of the United States) has been in the forefront of sexuality education for over a decade. Here, she travels through the stages of a child's life, outlining sexual development, needs, issues, and problems. All people are sexual, she states, even preschoolers, and all approaches to understanding sexuality are based on some kind of value system; parents must understand their own values in order to be clear and consistent with their kids. Haffner's message is practical and frank, both forward-looking and nonpermissive. She encourages parents to seize opportunities for conversations about sex in small moments, from the time the kids are preschoolers, and discourages reliance on The Big Talk, which often comes too late. Middle-schoolers, she argues, should not "date"; the TV does not belong in a child's bedroom; abstinence is the rule for any pre-teen; and parents must know the benefits and risks of the net. A bibliography of books, videos, and association hotlines is included. Essential for all public libraries.ALinda Beck, Indian Valley P.L., Telford, PA
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
From Kirkus Reviews
Much needed help for floundering parentsa clear-eyed assist with deciding what sexual values to impart to children, and then advice on coupling those values with accurate, age-appropriate information. Haffner, a long-time sex educator and president of the Sexualtiy Information and Education Council of the US (SIECUS), has a 13-year-old daughter and a 5-year-old son, so her advice is above all reality-based. She has a good handle on the practical basics of having a sexually healthy family: first and foremost, parents must be clear on their own values (discussion questions and questionaires here help readers work this out), and the lines of communication between parents and children must be kept wide open (yes, it's a lot of work, and again, there is practical help offered here). Haffner goes on to address the ever-shifting issues by age group birth to 2 years, 2-to-5-year-old preschoolers, ages 5-to-8 and then 9-to-12-year-olds. There is a lot to think about here, and Haffner pulls no punches: ``I do not believe that children can protect themselves from sexual abuse,'' she says. Prevention programs such as ``Good touch, bad touch,'' and ``No, Go, Tell'' ``are based on the assumption that the child has the social or physical power to stop an adult pedophile's actions, something that is unlikely to be true.'' Realistic, practical, and informativethe best kind of guide for being a better parent. -- Copyright ©1999, Kirkus Associates, LP. All rights reserved.
--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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26 of 30 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
This is really a wonderful book - I wish my wife and I had had it when our children were younger. Haffner speaks as a parent of two children herself, with a professional background of a sexuality educator. Her advice is practical and specific and she has a warm and helpful "voice" in addressing parents - she admits her own mistakes and then tells you how she (or her husband) recovered from those mistakes.
She is a strong advocate of honesty and frankness about sexuality. She is clear that sexuality is intimately tied with values and challenges parents to be clear about their own values and communicate them to their children. She gives her opinion on matters that stump many parents (such as how to discuss masturbation, for example) but says that if your family's values are different from those that Haffner expresses, tell your children what you believe (but don't try to scare your child with incorrect or scientifically incorrect information).
This book should be in the baby basket for every new parent - Haffner makes it clear that sexuality education and discussions start from the very first. And she goes right through to those scary moments when your son or daughter is out on a date and you are wondering, "What's happening and what should I say or do?"
It's an outstanding reference, well written and lively.
20 of 24 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
In an engaging and entertaining fashion, the author addresses all the complex aspects of guiding your child's sexual education and development. With practical experience and professional expertise, she faces the tough situations of everyday parenting and provides useful advice for those anticipating how they will discuss sexuality with their children. Whether we like it or not, all children have questions about sexuality...This book prepares parents to answer those questions honestly AND in ways that will help children grow into healthy adults. This is a terrific resource and would make a perfect gift for parents of young children.
21 of 26 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
If you've ever wondered how to deal with telling your kids about everything from the parts of their own body at age 2 to practicing safe sex as a teen ager, Diapers to Dating is the source to turn to. And forget the old, too embarrassing big talk about the birds and the bees, Author Debra Haffner takes us through a logical, caring approach that teaches us "everything your child wants to know about sex but is definately afraid, or too embarrassed to ask". What Doctor Spock did for children's health, Haffner does for children's healthy sexuality. This is a must-read for parents and just about anybody who wants to be a better part of our children's lives.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Sound advice for raising sexually healthy children
As a parent of an 8 year old girl and 5 year boy, I find this book to be extremely helpful in giving advice on dealing with the often difficult questions about sexuality. Read more
Published on September 9, 2001
Finally, a wholistic approach to sexuality education!
As a sexuality educator and parent I was estatic to read such a medically accurate and wholistic approach to sexuality education. Read more
Published on October 25, 1999
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