GET OVER IT!!!: A DOWN TO EARTH LOOK AT THE ISSUES OF CHRISTIAN DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE [Paperback]

Justine Hanif (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 7, 2005

What happens when the man or woman of god who is trying to faithfully serve god becomes confronted with the devastation of a failed marriage?Divorce and remarriage are taboo subjects that many Christian churches teach us to pretend don''t exist. Get Over It!!! Is a labor of love that gives insight into the issues and emotions people face as divorced children of God. This book will minister to those who have asked themselves," I am divorced, now what? Do I dry up? Do I hide my head in shame like a leper? How do I go on when my life is a wreck? How do I respond to people who question my salvation because I am divorced? Where do I find answers when the church won''t even acknowledge my pain?"The simple message of this book is Get Over It!!! Get over people''s attitudes, doctrinal debates, your hurts, your fears, unforgiveness, feelings of rejection, anger, bitterness, low self-esteem, guilt, depression, even thoughts of suicide or murder. When you move on with your life, God will turn your pain into power, your tears into joy, your defeat into victory. You will move from victim to more than a conqueror!

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About the Author

Rev. Justine Hanif has walked with the Lord for over twenty five years. She is blessed with two children, Uriah and Elizabeth. Rev. Hanif received a Bachelorate Degree in Psychology from the College of New Rochelle and a certificate in Christian Ministry from New York Theological seminary. She is an ordained elder at the Refuge Church of Christ in Freeport, New York. Rev. Hanif has taught in the Refuge Church of Christ Bible Institute for more than eight years. Her message of life after divorce has brought deliverance, victory and freedom to many who have experienced separation or divorce. Through the pain of her experience God has given her purpose. Her goal is to share the message of hope that although God hates divorce, He loves His children. He does not want His children bound by the circumstances of divorce. He wants them to be healed, to be whole, and to be free.

Product Details

• Paperback: 96 pages
• Publisher: AuthorHouse (September 7, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1420874837
• ISBN-13: 978-1420874839
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6.1 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,111,660 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars A realistic view of Chrisitan Divorce, September 29, 2008

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This review is from: GET OVER IT!!!: A DOWN TO EARTH LOOK AT THE ISSUES OF CHRISTIAN DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE (Paperback)

For a refreshing and down to earth look at divorce from a Christian woman's perspective, read "Get Over It!" by Rev. Justine Hanif. Filled with sage advice and insight, this is a very uplifting book for anyone who has been through a marital split. By walking you through the experiences of her own separation and divorce, she explores the challenges that many women within the church face when their marriage ends.

Reading through the book, you will identify with the stereotypes and emotions that come up during divorce. At the root of this problem are long-held beliefs about marriage and divorce which often add to the guilt that women feel when their marriage ends.

For example, there is the unspoken assumption that a woman who divorces didn't fulfill her wifely duties. In reality, there are no guarantees that any marriage will last, and even the most devote Christians can find themselves divorced. Unfortunately, judgments passed by those outside the marriage often isolates divorced women from the support system they so desperately need.

Rev. Justine Hanif steps in and gives the reader tools and insights to help work through the emotions that often come with divorce. One thing she talks about is the importance of forgiving those who have wronged you. A lack of forgiveness leads to bitterness, which can eventually turn to a hatred that hinders growth and keeps a person bound to the past. The book highlights the fact out that forgiveness doesn't mean you didn't feel hurt, but eventually the "hurt disappears, the offense falls into the past, and you can move on with your life."

In addition to learning how to forgive, the reader will explore the importance of learning to trust again. This can be hard for women who have been crushed by their divorce, but it's an important step in the recovery process. I loved her analogy about putting a broken heart into perspective in the following passage:

"Having a broken heart is like the pain of giving birth. It should be a pain that we eventually forget. We will remember the experience that caused the pain, but we don't have to hold onto the pain. We don't have to be afraid of letting ourselves love again. You have got to take a chance of being hurt again, of being vulnerable, in order to be whole.

The overall message of the book is to learn how to get a grip, let go, and move on so that you're not stuck by what others think. In other words, Get Over It! I would definitely recommend this book to all women who are hurting and seeking release from the emotional challenges of divorce.