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Product Details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: The Experiment; 1 edition (May 17, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1615190600
  • ISBN-13: 978-1615190607
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #31,748 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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“I got particularly absorbed in a book that had just been released titled Gender Born, Gender Made by Diane Ehrensaft, PhD, which was written as a guidebook for raising healthy gender-nonconforming children. I swear Ehrensaft is the patron saint of kids who don't conform to traditional gender norms. She should be celebrated with a day off from work and school; a Saint Diane medal worn by families with gender-creative loved ones; a mural painted of her portrayed as a Pied Piper type with a gaggle of kids of varying gender representations following happily behind her; or whatever it is good people do to honor their beloved protectors.”
Lori Duron in Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son

“This is an outstanding reference—an indispensible guide for those providing care for gender-nonconforming youth. Dr. Ehrensaft eloquently presents evidence to support her enlightened and impassioned plea to advocate for the ‘true gender self’ of all children.”
Stephen M. Rosenthal, MD, professor of pediatrics, director, Pediatric Endocrine Clinics, University of California, San Francisco

“Courageous and clear, this book tells gender like it is—with real advice for those brave parents who are helping their transgender children to lead the 21st-century world toward an understanding of what it means to be fully human. Gender Born, Gender Made is a must-read for anyone who wants to comprehend the function and importance of gender in American culture, and learn how we can break gender's irrational stranglehold on the human spirit.”
Jamison Green, PhD, educator, policy consultant, and author of Becoming a Visible Man

“Dr. Ehrensaft uses her own experience and the narratives of her patients to provide a glimpse into the obstacles that children with gender dysphoria and their families face. Their strengths are reflected in their stories. This provocative book will be helpful for parents, teachers, and clinicians working with children along the continuum of gender expression. These are children who, like all children, do not want to adapt to the expectations of others, but wish to be embraced for who they are.”
Cynthia J. Telingator, MD, child and adult psychiatrist; faculty member, Cambridge Health Alliance; and assistant professor, Harvard Medical School

“This book provides a creative approach in the evolution of our understanding of gender nonconforming children, a thoughtful way forward from oppression towards affirmation. There is important information here for all who care about the quality of life for all children and their families.”
Catherine Tuerk, APRN, cofounder and senior consultant, Gender and Sexual Advocacy and Education Program, Children's National Medical Center

“In Gender Born, Gender Made, Dr. Ehrensaft issues a clear and compelling call to parents and professionals in support of children living outside of society’s narrow gender expectations. Building on her vast experience working with children, families, and professionals, she beckons all of us to expand our traditional notions of gender, challenging us to create affirming spaces in which children can discover and celebrate their authentic selves. Hers is a model of gender acceptance and inclusion, not only for children pushing the boundaries of gender, but for all children simply wishing to be themselves.”
Joel Baum, MS, director of education and training, Gender Spectrum

About the Author

Diane Ehrensaft, PhD, is a developmental and clinical psychologist and the author of numerous books and articles on child development, gender, and parenting. For the past twenty-five years, she has worked with gender-nonconforming children and their families, as well as speaking nationally and internationally on the topic in media presentations, in communities, and at professional conferences. She lives and works in Oakland, California.


EDGARDO J. MENVIELLE, MD, MSHS, is the director of the Gender and Sexuality Development Program and of the Gender and Sexuality Advocacy and Education Program in the Psychiatry Department of the Children’s National Medical Center in Washington, D.C. He started a national outreach group for parents of gender-variant children in 1998, and later a gender and sexuality development clinic. He is also an associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at The George Washington University. An internationally recognized authority on childhood and adolescent gender and sexuality, Dr. Menvielle has been quoted in the New York Times and Newsweek. He lives in Washington, D.C

More About the Author

I have always tried to tackle tough questions about parenting and about children. The more I write, the more I question. I consider my training as a developmental and clinical psychologist a tremendous gift,a guiding light that helps me peer into the lives of children and parents and make sense of their experiences, whether it has to do with sharing parenting together, tackling the dilemmas of raising children in a challenging world, building families with the help of assisted reproductive technology, or sorting out when boys will be girls and girls will be boys. And always, I learn as much from my readers as I hope they learn from me.

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The book also gives you the children's point of view, which is really helpful.
Patricia M.
It's a must read for parents of gender variant children, but even more importantly for those whose knowledge of this topic is limited.
Vickie S.
I think this book provides an easy to read, thought provoking understanding of the way gender is conceptualized in today's culture.
Laure

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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Vickie S. on August 4, 2012
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This is the definitive book on gender, and in particular children's gender issues. I've been studying gender for well over 35 years and have never read such a complete and well explained book as this one. It's a must read for parents of gender variant children, but even more importantly for those whose knowledge of this topic is limited. Congrats to Dr. Ehrensaft on such a fine accomplishment.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Laurin Mayeno on November 23, 2012
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My son was a princess for Halloween 20 years ago. I wish I had this book then. There is so little information available for parents and much of it is unsupportive of gender non-conforming children. I highly recommend this book to all parents, teachers, caregivers, aunties, uncles, grandparents, etc. of gender non-conforming children to help us create a world where they are accepted and celebrated for who they are.
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15 of 20 people found the following review helpful By Just one of the Girls!!! on November 5, 2012
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I have read this book, and being trangendered from an early age, I looked at it and see if I could answer any questions that I have reqarding my childhood. The one thing is that it seems to state that a child's gender and sex are the same thing... This is not so... A child's sex is determined when the doctor looks at the child after being delivered, and says it's a boy or it's a girl, based on what is between the child's legs. A Child's gender is completely internal, and is not discovered until the child is 3-4 years old as most psychologists say. It is after this period of development that the child begins to understand, and leans towards being female or male internally. Most children do go along with what there birth certificates say, and their gender matches the sex deemed at birth. However, as science is beginning to realize, far more frequently the gender the child identifies with is not the same as what is between their legs, and they have been subjected to years of being verbally bombarded with how they should behave. And then society forces them to hide their true selves or risk being ridiculed, beaten, or killed for being different. This was me for the first twelve years of my life. Looking back the signs were so obvious, but my parents, and teachers didn't know how to handle it, so the ignored it hoping it would go away, but it never did. I am now out and proud so say that I am female, and I hope that people in society begin opening their eyes and realize that who a person really is is not what is between their legs, but rather what is on the inside.
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Patricia M. on April 30, 2012
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This book explains so many things about gender variant children. The book also gives you the children's point of view, which is really helpful. If your child or a child you know is gender variant you need this book.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Thelionking on May 14, 2014
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This book may not be suitable for someone who is trying to understand the transgender issue. The book is extrememely detailed as if written more for practitioners who are tryiing to get deeper knowledge of a subject they already know a little about. There too many case studies and too many classifications for the layman.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By suzana on March 27, 2013
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As a clinical counselor, I am happy to write a review on this book. The book is easy to understand at the same time that is very educational to the parents, family and the Professional.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful By PrincessDi Damselfly on April 14, 2013
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I KNEW THAT THERE WERE ANSWERS THAT NO ONE WAS TALKING ABOUT UNTIL NOW. A MUST HAVE FOR ANY PARENT WITH QUESTIONS THEY CAN NOT FIND ANSWERS FOR.
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1 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Laure on January 28, 2013
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As a graduate student in social work, this book is indispensable. I fully appreciate the author's expressed need for a book like this, as I have struggled myself. I appreciate the author's stance that in some context, gender conforming advice (such as telling a parent to punish a male child for playing with dolls) may actual be harmful - it's not an opinion that is widely expressed, yet our society gives us such strong messages about raising children in specific gender roles. My only negative thought about the book, which may not be able to be helped, is that it may be a bit too difficult to read about different expressions of gender so early in the book, such as her intriguing example of a child describing himself as a gender Prius.

I think this book provides an easy to read, thought provoking understanding of the way gender is conceptualized in today's culture. It provides the reader the opportunity to look at their own stereotypes and beliefs about gender and openly challenge them.
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