Get a Clue!: A Parents' Guide to Understanding and Communicating With Your Preteen [Paperback]

Ellen Rosenberg (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 15, 1999

This practical companion to Reviving Ophelia and Real Boys shares the concerns of preteens in their own words and advises parents how to approach them confidently and effectively.

Many parents may not want to know that their eight- to fourteen-year-olds are already facing serious issues and have questions such as:

- Why do people make fun of me because I am from another country?
- When will I know when puberty has struck?
- How do I deal with the feeling that no matter how good I do it's
not good enough for my parents?
- What happens when a friend beats you up?

Without support, understanding, and assistance, the anxiety these dilemmas evoke could undermine a child's confidence and self-image as he or she matures. In a reassuring style filled with practical pointers, Ellen Rosenberg, veteran educator of thirty years, tells parents how to open a discussion on the day-to-day questions their preteens have but may be reluctant to share. Handwritten queries from preteens are included in the text, and as they attest, your children do want you to know what's really going on.

A communication bible that parents will return to again and again, Get a Clue! is sure to help parents and their children become closer and form a bond of trust that will last through middle school, high school, college, and beyond.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Educator Rosenberg attempts to open dialogue between parents and their pre-teen children, advising them to turn "feelings into words." Parents are taught to come across as "caring, not preachy" and are provided with sample one-on-one talks to use when addressing issues such as peer-pressure or sexuality. Rosenberg also shows parents how to help their children examine options and manage problems, from finding friends to doing better in school to clearly expressing themselves to peers (with the help of additional scripted lines). Central to Rosenberg's approach is her insistence that parents and children alike must understand that they can control only their own response to a situation, not the actual outcome. Among the author's concernsAgleaned from anonymous notes collected at her interactive presentations to studentsAare self-esteem, sexual development, friendship, popularity and peer pressure, risky behavior (smoking, drinking, sex, etc.) and family, all of which are discussed realistically and humanely. Rosenberg, however, often succumbs to wordiness and pedagogy, and the interspersed notes can be jarring. Even so, the book's inclusion of children's troubles expressed in their own words makes up for any weaknesses. (Oct.)
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Library Journal

Rosenberg (Growing Up Feeling Good) shifts her audience from young adults to their parents with this newest title. Much of her focus here comes from her work with fifth- and sixth-grade students. The book deals with general topics such as relating to your children and teaching them to value themselves and respect others as well as specific topics such as teasing, dating, popularity, parties, and school. The book has a good table of contents and covers a wide range of topics pertinent to pre-teens. The issues in each chapter are introduced by comments Rosenberg received from students, e.g., "Sometimes I forget who I am because I'm too busy acting for my friends." The topics are relevant to parenting issues today, and this useful book was obviously written by someone who cares about children. A good addition to any public library's parenting collection.AKathy Ingels Helmond, Indianapolis-Marion Cty. P.L.
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 352 pages
• Publisher: An Owl Book (Henry Holt) (October 15, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0805058958
• ISBN-13: 978-0805058956
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6.2 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,852,677 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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19 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book really helped us to help our children., April 15, 2000

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Professor Michael Gould (NYC) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Get a Clue!: A Parents' Guide to Understanding and Communicating With Your Preteen (Paperback)

This is a great book! My wife and I are "older" parents of three children. Sometimes we feel very far removed from the issues they face - especially our youngest. We attended one of Ms. Rosenberg's lectures and were very impressed by the directness with which she was able to address real issues that were very important to the children present - in an intimate fashion, offering the child who was the "source" of the question total privacy, saving any embarrassment which might evolve from a direct one-on-one discussion. You really had to be there to see how the children opened up and participated in discussions they would not address directly with their parents. When we learned of "Get A Clue" we immediately bought it. It is a mirror of the discussion group. The answers are real. The suggestions about how to approach different issues are on target. We use it as a reference and it has been effective for us because it addresses the things on our childrens' minds. The reality of the issues presented and the suggested responses are right on target. It really has worked for us and I certainly suspect it will work for others.

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A sensible, practical book, April 9, 2002

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Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Get a Clue!: A Parents' Guide to Understanding and Communicating With Your Preteen (Paperback)

Get A Clue! A Parent's Guide To Understanding And Communicating With Your Preteen by wife, mother, and certified sex educator Ellen Rosenberg is a sensible, practical book for adults on how to relate with one's child about such complex and difficult topics as self-esteem, physical maturation and sexual development, alcohol and other drugs, friendship and popularity, death and suicide, and much more. Get A Clue! is very highly recommended as a solid, "parent friendly" resource filled cover to cover with examples, useful advice, and practical information about teaching young people the facts they need to know to guide their own lives as they grow up.