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Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve Hardcover – April 9, 2013

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“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships makes him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.” (Eva Longoria, actor/producer)

“No crazy gimmicks, no pretending to be something you’re not. Just intelligent, empowering advice.” (Nikki Bayley, Glamour Magazine)

“Matthew’s methods are working… Those who would previously never dream of going up to a man are hunting them down in double figures. Phone numbers are collected like the spoils of victory… [We become] an army of women from whose charms no man is safe.” (Emma Messenger, The Daily Mail)

“A practical guide to understanding a man’s point of view about love and romance and how a woman can optimize self-esteem and integrity to find the love she deserves.” (Judith Orloff, MD, New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom)

“This works, period. No sugar-coating, no gimmicks, no cheesy lines: Matt’s advice is practical, sometimes blunt, and most importantly, effective. You WILL get the guy after reading this, end of story!” (Louise Roe, fashion journalist, TV host)

“If you buy this book, you have an unfair advantage over men, and that’s just wrong.” (Bill Rancic, entrepreneur, devoted husband)

“Whether you’re in a committed relationship, or you’ve had little luck with men, this book will unravel your man-mystery and put you in control, which seems fair to me, no matter what my husband says.” (Giuliana Rancic, TV host, devoted wife)

From the Back Cover

Love is hard. But it doesn't have to be.

Leading relationship expert and rising media personality Matthew Hussey provides what every woman needs to know to find lasting love. Offering invaluable insight into the male psyche, he will change the way you approach men and dating and give you the tools you need to find the man you deserve. Hussey answers every single woman's three most burning questions:

  • Where do I go to meet good men?
  • Why didn't he call?
  • How do I get him to commit?

In Get the Guy, you will learn specific strategies for getting out there and meeting the best single guys. You will also learn why the guy you like has gone cold and the secrets to reigniting a spark with him. And you'll discover why so many guys seem to be afraid of long-term commitment and the three simple steps you can take that will change his mind.

Hussey also reveals why playing hard to get is a lose-lose game. A man doesn't want to endlessly chase a woman who is impossible to attain; he wants to win over a woman who is “high value." You'll find out how to create nonnegotiable standards for the way you want to be treated—and utilize a foolproof method for determining if a man can live up to them.

Leveraging what he learned from coaching thousands of men to find personal and professional success, Hussey will teach you how to meet more men, how to choose one who is worth your time, and finally, how to keep him enthralled forever. His insightfulness, irreverence, and warmth make the journey to love playful and fun, and his advice ensures success in both romance and life.


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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 272 pages
  • Publisher: Harper Wave; First Edition edition (April 9, 2013)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0062241745
  • ISBN-13: 978-0062241740
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.9 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (884 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #60,318 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Matthew Hussey is an international speaker and Human Dynamics coach. He'll be seen in the US this spring on NBC's Ready For Love and is a regular expert on MTV's Plain Jane.

Matthew's rise to success as a motivational speaker has been meteoric. From humble beginnings working as a life coach with individual clients in London's coffee shops and cafes, Hussey now runs programs across the globe, helping thousands of men and women reach their true performance potential.

In packed conference rooms across the United States and United Kingdom, or on week-long retreats in luxury locations in Europe and America, Matthew and the team have created tailor-made programs designed to help clients transform their lives. Through his life-coaching brand, Matthew’s private clients have included directors of major FTSE 500 companies, hedge-fund managers, royalty, and celebrities such as Christina Aguilera. Hussey has even lectured at Oxford University to the Department of Neuroethics.

Matthew has rooted his business in private coaching work, which has often focused on confidence issues that impacted relationships. As a result, he began to gain recognition helping men with their love lives. For two years this became a major focus of his work, and he conducted several hundred seminars for large groups of men on this subject, as well as coaching many more men on a one-to-one basis.

As his reputation grew, Hussey found himself approached by increasing numbers of women, eager to hear what he had learned about the male perspective on love and romance. In 2008 Hussey formed GetTheGuy, focusing exclusively on relationships and aimed solely at women. The brand established Hussey as one of the leading worldwide experts in the field of human attraction.

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260 of 276 people found the following review helpful By Shell on June 11, 2013
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I'll preface this by saying the few dating/relationship books I've flipped through or read descriptions for often come across as very condescending to women. This is especially true if meant to unveil the "male mind" and give it to us straight - the "ugly truth" type of stuff. They make women feel bad for being women. You come away from just one little paragraph feeling like men essentially don't like women (beyond the physical). We're told we need to be more feminine, but also think like men, less clingy, but not too independent - etc. Here is a book which focuses less on how women need to change their nature, needs, desires, etc, as if we're hopelessly incompatible with men by nature, and instead it focuses on social skills & positive thinking modes for attracting & developing relationships with compatible men we actually like & who are worth OUR time & energy.

None of this is earth-shattering, mind-blowing secrets that will give you some epiphany on love & life. Instead, it reads like common sense, the kind many of us missed the memo on, so that it's not so "common" after all.

This book doesn't insult your intelligence, berate you for being a woman, tell you that you have to compromise your values, or leave with some sick feeling that manipulation of men & dishonesty with your own feelings/needs is the "secret".

The explanations of male thinking is also not "boys will be boys" trash that insists sexist and misogynistic behaviors are simply "biological" for men & have to be tolerated by women.
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114 of 126 people found the following review helpful By Jennifer on November 19, 2013
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so slap me - I loathe it when people write reviews for something they haven't read. I've seen the author on Youtube- he's pretty damn good. But this book hints of "other important details" that lead to more purchases. And I have to say this - because I wish I'd heard it sooner myself. The "secret" is to be passionate about Your own dreams- be a passionate pursuer of your own life! And learn to love life today! If you meet a man, just hanging out at a bar- what will his interests in life be? Think he's a go-getter? He could be hot- but the odds that he likes what you like are slim! Sure- be open to dating- but let it be something you'll accept, if it's right for you, and if it fits your dreams (all of them- not just the dream of being a wife, mother, etc). And if he is Ever less interested in you- back off. If he comes back, great (you Only want a man who's Equally vested- period! Imagine being married and he's chasing other tail...)- but now, stay on your guard. You (every last one of you) are unique! You don't want to be wanted by Lonely-at-the-Moment man. Love your life. A mature, masculine, Man- wants to pursue a confident, passionate, life loving woman! If he doesn't pursue you- he either isn't interested in what makes you unique (which means you will never have enough in common to make a relationship work), he's not emotionally ready, or he's looking to play the field! Do you want any of those men?... This guy has far More information- and from what I know so far, it's pretty solid- but the core is all above. There are millions of people living unhappily ever after... only a man who appreciates your dreams and is equally vested in the relationship (with the same agenda you have) is going to make you Happier.Read more ›
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90 of 103 people found the following review helpful By Ama Su Nilia on February 16, 2013
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Hussey is a terrific communicator and has the ability to convey meaning while still being fun. Thus, the book is well structured, easy to read, entertaining, and full of great advice regarding flirting, attracting and approaching men, dating and getting a man to commit. He gives plenty of tips and items of advice that work in real life (proven by me!).

Hussey has a great insight into the male dating mind, so he is able to provide women with great advice that resonates with both women and men. Moreover, he treats women with respect and tells us to treat ourselves with self-respect, not to lose our marbles and lower our standards for any man who is not worth of us. The concept of high-value woman is empowering and so very true. Hussey doesn't tell you to play games or fake who you are, but to be true to yourself, have standards, behave like a lady, have a life of your own, and be fun and playful.

The book contains some free bonus links to some of his videos, which are really useful. I am not into any of programs or anything, though, so you don't have to buy anything.

The main down of the book comes when Hussey goes back to his former pick up artist and comes with "lines" to repeat or say. We are not what we say, but how we behave and who we are.

Still, a very good dating book.
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58 of 70 people found the following review helpful By Katie_editor4u on April 22, 2013
Format: Hardcover
So okay, like every sappy woman in America, I got hooked into Ready For Love. There are numerous match-making reality TV shows, which have their value and their ridiculousness, that offer both good and misleading points on dating and finding The One. This is one of those books (or rather, any book on dating, which seems more 'serious' than a laughable and silly reality TV show) that you have to buy in secret or borrow from one of your single girlfriends because if anybody knew you had possession of such a book, that horrid and dreadful high-brow look of, why can't you get a guy, looms like a freaking rain cloud you can't shake.

Woe to the dating life and n-o-t Getting the Guy. I've always found these types of books, occupations, TV shows, etc, as being rather manipulative and encouraging women, as much as men, to show a hyper-idealized IMAGE and strive to be that image. It's a huge business, feeding into the fear and preying on the insecurities of women, and men, alike. I'm not entirely removed from my original hypothesis even after reading this book but I didn't find it a waste of time and even chuckled here and there. Rom-coms and romance novels notwithstanding, dating is about psychology as much as about the superficiality of appearances and the earnest perceptions coming into meeting men and dating in general. What we get in Hussey's book is less about manipulation (and there's still elements of inherent manipulation) but more about interpretation and building confidence through understanding how men work and how they do. It's also about bringing what You've got to the table and taking it or leaving it, for both sides.

Hussey (and what a fantastic name, by the way...
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