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Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love [Hardcover]

Patti Novak (Author), Laura Zigman (Author)
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December 30, 2008
True love doesn’t just happen, notes professional matchmaker Patti Novak. You have to work for it–and want it. Forget eight-minute speed dates or online dating sites with twenty-page questionnaires that promise a scientifically calculated perfect match. The fact that you both like golf, stamp collecting, and pizza with anchovies is great, but it won’t mean a thing if you don’t feel that zing.

But before there can be sparks, there have to be dates. And before the first date, you need to get over yourself! Taking a tough-love approach, and in her signature straight-shooting style, Patti will show you how to fix what needs to be fixed, reach your core, and identify who you are and what you want in a partner. She uses a three-part common-sense formula:

Getting Over What? Assess your dating weaknesses, recognize what’s not working, and adjust your expectations. Delve into your personal history and past relationships, and pinpoint the issues that have been holding you back.
Almost Over It Fine-tune your attitude, your look, and your behavior to maximize your dating chances. Novak lays out strategies to help you deal with the brutal dating monsters you find along the way.
Over It Learn the do’s and don’ts of the first date, the second date, and beyond. Remember, it’s not a job interview or therapy session. Pretend you’re meeting a new friend, not a prospective husband or wife.

Finding your one and only isn’t about having the right shoes or a flat stomach. It’s about being true to yourself, being vulnerable, and being ready for love. Whether you’re new to the dating scene, divorced and looking, or just trying to reach that second date, Get Over Yourself! will help you get the love you’ve always wanted and deserve.

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Starred Review. In their first-rate book, Novak, star of TV's Confessions of a Matchmaker, and novelist Zigman (Animal Husbandry) prove to be a match made in heaven. Novak cuts the bull when it comes to dating advice: you have to know yourself before you can find love. The book exhorts the reader to Get Over It when it comes to thinking all men are jerks or being paralyzed by past relationship trauma. Like a dating GPS, the book identifies dating obstacles and puts readers on the right road to romantic fulfillment. No shrinking violet, Novak is part drill sergeant (especially when it comes to self-exploration worksheets), part love therapist (though she refers on deep issues to the appropriate professionals). Writing in a frank—and funny—manner, Novak uses tough love in offering a compelling and rewarding read for the lovelorn. (Jan.)
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About the Author

Patti Novak was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series Confessions of a Matchmaker. She has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Rachael Ray Show, and The Early Show, and has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and The New York Observer, among other publications. She lives in Buffalo, New York, where she was born and raised, and where her matchmaking business, Buffalo Niagara Introductions, is based.

www.pattinovak.com


Laura Zigman is the author of four novels, the New York Times bestselling Animal Husbandry, which was made into the movie Someone Like You, Dating Big Bird, Her, and Piece of Work. A longtime chronicler of the dating world, she lives outside Boston with her husband and young son.

www.laurazigman.com

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Ballantine Books (December 30, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0345510062
  • ISBN-13: 978-0345510068
  • Product Dimensions: 9.4 x 6.3 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,001,972 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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3.0 out of 5 stars Some good points, but very judgmental, February 19, 2009
This review is from: Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love (Hardcover)
The book has some good points. And it does encourage self-analysis...which can get painful if you have gone through certain bad experiences.

However, it does get judgmental at times. Authors seem to imply there is something wrong with a person who has never been in a long term relationship. Or who has not engaged in sexual intercourse by a certain age. They also state that effeminacy = homosexuality, which is not always true; while not making a similar parallel for stereotypically masculine behavior in women (double standard, perhaps?).

Overall, it has some good points- but it will not do much for your self-esteem if you are not the typical person engaging in typical behaviors by certain ages.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read!, January 14, 2009
This review is from: Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love (Hardcover)
The author sure knows what she is talking about! This book really helped me to take a long look at myself, take responsibility for my contributions to unsuccessful relationships, learn from those mistakes, and safely tuck them behind me. The questions that she provided in the book helped me to have a better understanding of what's been going on in my past, and have provided my with a fresh new approach to my future.
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6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars Not worth it, April 6, 2009
This review is from: Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love (Hardcover)
The author made excellent points about why someone might be having difficulty in relationships (although I find it hard to believe anyone is that clueless) but unfortunately she did not give any steps for overcoming those issues other than suggesting therapy. Anyone who bothers to pick up a book such as this one wants to see suggestions in the book (otherwise they would have already gone to a therapist!!!). Besides, therapy is not the answer for everyone.
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