Get Smart with Your Heart: The Intelligent Woman's Guide to love, Lust, and Lasting Relationships [Paperback]

Suzanne Lopez (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 10, 2000

This groundbreaking book is based on Suzanne Lopez's nearly two decades of working with intelligent, accomplished women who couldn't get love right. To help them, she developed the Smart Heart Partnering Process, a systematic, proven approach to wise dating and mating that explains:

How to avoid Detours, Dangers, and Definite Disasters
Conscious Dating--what it is and how to do it
How to integrate romance with reality
What questions to ask him to discover his goals, values and beliefs
How to determine if your partner is ready for the relationship you want
Personal/Partner Profiles and how to use them to reveal potential compatibility or conflict in your relationship

"An intelligent approach to finding a compatible partner...will help you pave the way to an open, honest, and fulfilling relationship."-- John Gray

"Sound relationship advice...excellent."-- Sally Jesse Raphael

"Illuminates the heart with brilliant breakthrough ideas, so you can orchestrate your life and relationships and make them good and phenomenally better."-- Mark Victor Hansen

"Hard-nosed, warmhearted advice."-- Publishers Weekly

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

In this ambitious how-to on dating and mating for women willing to apply a businesslike discipline to choosing the right partner, psychotherapist Lopez blends pragmatism with an Enneagram-based personality profiling system. She claims many successes among her L.A. clients who have used her strategic method, which requires objectivity about past relationships, focusing on one's goals and values and assessing prospective partners according to those standards. Combining a modern attitude toward monogamy with very traditional dating rules (i.e., let the man pick up the check), she is direct, optimistic and lively, and makes her points with helpful personal and professional stories. Nearly a third of the book is devoted to using the Enneagram, the symbol introduced to the West early in this century by G.I. Gurdjieff, to classify personality types and compatibility between them. Readers will either buy this (increasingly popular) application of the EnneagramAand indeed the entire concept of personality typesAor they won't, but in any case Lopez offers hard-nosed, warm-hearted advice. Author tour.
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Suzanne Lopez, M.S., MFCC, is a veteran psychotherapist who has been in private practice for almost twenty years and works with individuals and couples, groups and major corporations. A much-sought-after keynote speaker, Suzanne lives in the Hollywood Hills with her daughter, Anjelica.

Product Details

• Paperback: 379 pages
• Publisher: Perigee Trade (January 10, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0399525793
• ISBN-13: 978-0399525797
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.9 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,984,674 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars I really like the step by step practical approach., November 9, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Get Smart with Your Heart: The Intelligent Woman's Guide to Love, Lust and Lasting Relationships (Hardcover)

There are many sections in the book that can be used individually. This makes it very practical for the modern day fast paced single person.

I did not put the book down until I had read it to the end. I believe this book is also very useful to very young singles. My college aged daughter can really benefit from it and as soon as it is out in paperback I will mail her a copy.

12 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent, well-written relationship advice, July 2, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Get Smart with Your Heart: The Intelligent Woman's Guide to Love, Lust and Lasting Relationships (Hardcover)

Get smart with your heart is a well written practical relationship guide for singles and couples. It is well organized in its step by step approach towards obtaining healthy, happy, successful relationships. The PPP (personal partnering process)is an excellent and honest way to evaluate an individuals personality without undergoing years of therapy and batteries of personality tests to ascertain our compatability. Lopez's corresponding charts of compatability with other PPP types is an excellent and user friendly guide towards accomplishing successful relationships. Most of all Ms, Lopez's focus on the self- the individual- and the enlightenment and the importance of each individual knowing "who they really are" is one of the key ingredients not only in relationships but in personal happiness. As a practicing physician who deals with individuals problems daily I found Lopez's advice to be extremely accurate and helpful and I have recommended her book to my patients.

15 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Well meaning but old-fashioned in some ways..., May 25, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Get Smart with Your Heart: The Intelligent Woman's Guide to Love, Lust and Lasting Relationships (Hardcover)

Ms. Lopez' book is well-meaning, and helpful in many respects, but falls down in some others. Ms. Lopez is right, and modern in her thinking, when she points out that one must love oneself in order to attract the love of a decent man, and that one must have one's own career and life in order to be able to contribute to a relationship. Unfortunately, Ms. Lopez is against interracial relationships (in this day and age!) and looks with disfavor upon women marrying younger men. Following this advice - to stay with older men of one's own race - in my opinion eliminates too many marital choices, especially for women over 35. Ms. Lopez falls back upon the old chestnuts of interracial relationships being "difficult" (what relationship isn't?) and younger men as being "too immature" (as if 40 year old men chasing after 21 year olds aren't?). Skim for the good parts - there are many - and disregard the narrow-minded ones.