Getting Apart Together: The Couple's Guide to a Fair Divorce or Separation (Rebuilding Books) [Paperback]

Martin A. Kranitz (Author)

Book Description

Series: Rebuilding Books, for Divorce and Beyond | Publication Date: October 1, 2000

Getting Apart Together is a comprehensive self-help guide for separating couples who want to negotiate their own settlements. Contains ground rules, outlines for discussion, sample forms, and options for divorce mediation without "bloodshed." This book offers examples of successful solutions by real couples, along with detailed agendas and guidelines for negotiating agreements on co-parenting and custody, financial support, college planning, property, insurance,taxes.

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Books in the Rebuilding Books series "for divorce and beyond" are written for those considering divorce, going through divorce, or rebuilding their lives after divorce. Inspired by the work of renowned divorce therapist, Dr. Bruce Fisher, the Rebuilding Books offer expert information and practical self-help procedures. These straightforward, life-affirming resources can help make the divorce process easier, healthier, and less painful, leading to more-fulfilled lives and stronger "second-time" relationships.

From the Author

The goal of this book is to provide you with practical information you can use in resolving the issues that arise when people who have lived together decide to separate. These issues are basically the same whether you were married or living together. If there are children, parenting is a concern, as are property, child and spousal support, health and life insurance, education, and taxes.

Each of the topics covered in the chapters include both a discussion of the issues and a presentation of options and alternatives for dealing with the topic. The options are presented in the form of scenarios, with background information, so that you can see what the parties are attempting to accomplish.

It is my hope that by using this book, you will be able to deal with the issues of separation and divorce in a collaborative, rather than competitive, fashion. The process will be less painful, but not pain-free. Working together to figure things out is not easy, but it is doable and definitely worthwhile.

I've been a family mediator for nearly two decades, and it is clearer now than ever before how much emotional pain accompanies separation and divorce. It interferes with our ability to think, communicate, and function -- even at the most basic level -- at a time when it is most crucial for us to problem-solve and deal with issues of family survival. Feeling rejected hurts. So does feeling betrayed, alone, or ill-equipped to support yourself. It is not fun. It may surprise you to learn that it is just as painful and just as scary for the person who suggests separation as for the person who has separation forced upon him or her. In spite of this, it is possible for people who want to maintain some control in their lives to get through this difficult time.

Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Impact Publishers; 2 edition (October 1, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1886230218
• ISBN-13: 978-1886230217
• Product Dimensions: 6 x 9 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #602,846 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Practical, experienced, and authoritative advice, May 21, 2001

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This review is from: Getting Apart Together: The Couple's Guide to a Fair Divorce or Separation (Rebuilding Books) (Paperback)

Martin Kranitz is the Director of the National Center for Mediation Education, and the National Institute for Conflict Resolution. In Getting Apart Together: The Couple's Guide To A Fair Divorce Or Separation, Kranitz offers practical, experienced, and authoritative advice and guidance drawing upon his many years as an expert divorce mediator. Kranitz provides the reader with a wealth of practical, helpful exercises, charts and worksheets enabling him or her to develop an effective, strategy for amicable separation and/or dissolution to the marriage. Getting Apart Together is very highly recommended for the non-specialist general reader seeking to avoid the exorbitant costs of attorney fees while establishing fair and equitable ground rules and agendas for co-parenting, custody, financial support, property division, taxes, and all the other aspects that must be attended to in the dissolution of the marriage.