Carter sees eight hurdles between you and the relationship you deserve. He deftly analyzes each problem, points out self-destructive nonsolutions, and explains the steps necessary to break the barrier. For example, one hurdle is blaming your partners' shortcomings for the failure of previous relationships. Breaking the pattern involves seeing how you choose particular partners and self-destruct in relationships--going from blame to responsibility. Other hurdles include relationship-history ghosts, living in fantasy, and ineffective behavior patterns. "If we are to experience intimacy, our hearts have to be brave as well as loving," says Carter. Getting to Commitment will help you find that courage. Highly recommended. --Joan Price --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Got more out of this book then the 7 months with my therapist!!!
And the book touches on every possible aspect (in my opinion) of things/behaviors that could possibly interfere with achieving true, genuine commitment and intimacy.
It's a simple, easy to read tutorial about a very complicated issue but is done well.
Read it in a few days. It's a simple, easy to read tutorial about a very complicated issue but is done well. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Elizabeth Farkas
I don't read a ton of "relationship" books, but I have read a few. This is my go-to. It is the absolute BEST book out there - SO beyond what anyone else has offered (Dr... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Annie T
Exactly what I needed! Explained everything I've been doing and why. I always thought the intense anxiety and claustrophobic feeling I felt when someone wanted more was my sixth... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Murf
Not just scenarios but some actually suggestions to work out your relationship bugs.
You can tell the Author really worked thru it himself.
Really eye opening material on commitment. Would only have liked more, but it's great for one book. Just wish there were a few more volumes on this topic.Published 5 months ago by Alex
This book described my life. Anyone with commitment problems and think that that the grass is always greener or that the problem is with "her" should give this book a... Read morePublished 7 months ago by Joseph smith
I have in my adult life been firmly on both sides of the commitment phobe equation. Both shutting down and falling inexplicably out of love, and being hopelessly in love with... Read morePublished 8 months ago by Zoe
Finally a commitment book that actually helps commitment phobes like myself. I related to a lot of it. Thank you for writing thisPublished 8 months ago by Ryan Camins
but this is not nearly as good as Steven Carter's earlier book, He's Scared, She's Scared. Since Carter isn't a psychologist, he doesn't really go into the underlying causes of... Read morePublished 9 months ago by nvt