Getting Even: Forgiveness and Its Limits [Paperback]

Jeffrie G. Murphy (Author)

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Publication Date: December 9, 2004 | ISBN-10: 0195178556 | ISBN-13: 978-0195178555

In this short and accessible book, distinguished philosopher and law professor Jeffrie Murphy proposes that vindictive emotions (anger, resentment, and the desire for revenge) actually deserve a more legitimate place in our emotional, social, and legal lives than we currently recognize, while forgiveness deserves to be more selectively granted. Murphy grounds his views on careful analysis of the nature of forgiveness, a subtle understanding of the psychology of anger and resentment, and a fine appreciation of the ethical issues of self-respect and self-defense. He also uses accessible examples from law, literature, and religion to make his points. Providing a nuanced approach to a proper understanding of the place of our strongest emotions in moral, political, and personal life, and using lucid, easily understood prose, this volume is a classic example of philosophical thinking applied to a thorny, everyday problem.

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"Getting Even is probably the best book to date on the costs and benefits of forgiveness."--First Things

"Getting Even: Forgiveness and Its Limits is a well-written and accessible yet deepy serious examination of the costs of forgiveness and the dangers of cheap grace."--First Things

"Jeffrie Murphy has written a wonderful and sensitive book on an almost forbidden topic, the topic of revenge. But it is also a book about forgiveness, and it is striking a judicious balance between these two that makes Murphy's book such a challenge and a success. Unlike the herd of authors writing on forgiveness, he suggests difficult objections and deep reasons for reservation. But neither does his book display real enthusiasm for revenge, although he gives it a good run and 'two cheers.' If the book ends up with a rather Christian account of forgiveness that will please many readers, Murphy takes them through some psychologically difficult but philosophically clear and very readable terrain to get there."--Robert C. Solomon, Quincy Lee Centennial Professor and Distinguished Teaching Professor, The University of Texas at Austin

"In a voice that is reasonable, incisively witty, finely tuned to human emotion, and wise, Murphy teaches us how to think about our most difficult moral dilemmas. When should we forgive? When might it be healthy to hold a grudge? We would all do well to think through these questions from both a personal and moral perspective with this thoughtful and fascinating meditation."--Sharon Lamb, Professor of Psychology, St. Michael's College, author of The Secret Lives of Girls and The Trouble with Blame

"Jeffrie Murphy has been a distinctive voice in the discussion of how we should respond to wrongdoing (our own and others'): a humane, philosophically astute, morally sensitive and imaginative voice that reminds us of the merits as well as the dangers of such often deprecated responses as anger, resentment and a desire to 'get even', and that brings out the difficulty as well as the significance of such responses as forgiveness, mercy and repentance. Anyone who cares about how we should respond, whether morally or legally, to the wrongs and evils that we do to each other-that is to say, anyone who aspires to be either a moral agent or a citizen--will find stimulation and sustenance in this book."--R.A. Duff, University of Stirling, Scotland

About the Author

Jeffrie G. Murphy is Regents Professor of Law and Philosophy and Affiliated Professor of Religious Studies at Arizona State University. He is the author of numerous books and articles on legal and moral philosophy, with a particular emphasis on theories of punishment, mercy, forgiveness, and the moral emotions.

Product Details

• Paperback: 152 pages
• Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA (December 9, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0195178556
• ISBN-13: 978-0195178555
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.7 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #985,660 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Clarity and insight on forgiving, February 19, 2008

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This review is from: Getting Even: Forgiveness and Its Limits (Paperback)

Augustine once wrote that he knew exactly what the word "time" meant until asked to define it. Then, he confessed, he was flummoxed. I suspect that something similar can be said about the word "forgive." Many of us like to think we understand the word, and we generally just assume that the act it designates is unproblematically virtuous. But many of us would have a good deal of trouble trying to express what we mean when we use the word. And if we think deeply about what it means to forgive, we might balk at viewing the act as always good.

Jeffrie Murphy has thought long and hard about what it means to forgive, and his elegant little book is well worth reading. He argues that forgiveness is an inner change of heart that overcomes vindictive passions--such as revenge; that forgiving isn't the same as mercy, pardon, or reconciliation; that healing can be a healing virtue when it checks anger and cruelty and restores relationships; but that forgiveness may not always be virtuous, especially if it dmages self-respect, dignity, and loyalty to the moral order. Some vindictive passions, in other words, may not be self-destructive, pointless, or unfitting to the circumstances. They may be entirely rational, entirely appropriate--and, in fact, ethically obligatory.

Along the way, Murphy has some interesting reflections on (self-)forgiveness and therapy, forgiveness and the law, and forgiveness and Christianity. He writes beautifully, is witty and gently self-deprecating at times, and appeals to a wide array of literature to illustrate his arguments. And speaking of his arguments: they're concise, pointed, and insightful, representative of the very best of the Anglo-analytic philosophical tradition to which Murphy belongs. All in all, a very good book indeed.

For readers interested in Continental approaches to forgiveness, Jacques Derrida's On Cosmpolitanism and Forgiveness and Vladimir Jankelevitch's Forgiveness are good starting points. For readers interested in group forgiveness, as opposed to the interpersonal forgiveness that's Murphy's primary concern, I'd recommend Martha Minow's Between Vengeance and Forgiveness.

13 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Excellent academic and philosophic view of violence, October 6, 2004

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J. E. Nelson (Plainfield, Illinois) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Getting Even: Forgiveness and Its Limits (Hardcover)

This book was required reading for me for a Master's course on violence. Being a person trained in the physical sciences, I must say I had a difficult time reading this book. I like equations and concepts that are right or wrong or a question I can calculate an answer that is either correct or incorrect. This book is a highly academic and philosophic view of violence, forgiveness, repentance, and vengeance.

In the authors own words (or at least paraphrased), the book sets out to show that it is possible vindictiveness and vengeance possess some positive value, the relationship between repentance and legitimate forgiveness, explore self-forgiveness, how these issues play out in criminal law and psychotherapy, and the role of Christianity in the previously mentioned topics.

Personally, I found parts of the book to drag on (Remember, I studied Engineering. Philosophy is a new concept to me), but overall I found the book to be unique and intriguing. The author conveys the point that forgiveness is great, but the victim has every right to be vindictive. The vindictive side of the victim is just as legitimate as feelings of forgiveness. I was also very intrigued at the author examination of the topic of Christianity and forgiveness. In a nutshell, for every story of forgiveness Christianity preaches, there is a story of raw rage and vengeance.

The book is a well thought out view of violence, forgiveness, and vengeance. The author does not pretend to have all the answers, just offer his personal view. I believe that anyone who is trained in the physical sciences will have a difficult time reading this book (at least I did). I would recommend this book as an advanced reference on the topic of forgiveness and vengeance. I would also recommend the book to someone who enjoys reading philosophic views of today's issues in society.