This realistic look at any relationship is a must for everyone. As a counselor I use it as a tool for groups, and individual counselor. However, the content applies to anyone in, or begining a relationship on any level. I have bought several copies for friends and family, and probably will buy more. I recommend it highly for parents to share with their children as a guideline for revealing the components of a good or bad relationship. Not just for those who have an addiction. Easy read, profound content.
I have nothing but praise for the content and practicality of Terrence Gorski's book.I have recently started to use his book as a tool in my weekly groups on relationships, in a residential rehab addiction facility. Terrencce Gorski gets to the heart of relationships and how to rethink old behaviors which have led to bad ones. The partners of my clients have bought the book once my clients start the group. They are reccomending it to their friends and family. "Getting Love Right" is changing their relationships and bringing families back together. I reccomend it highly and will continue to use it as the basis of my releationship groups.
This book is NOT a popular quick fix approach to choosing a life or romantic partner. Rather, it is a tour book that explores where you have been in terms of relationships, how you got that way, the healthy and unhealthy patterns and how to correct them. While it is a book that contains many useful concepts, it also includes exercises that get at your most deeply held beliefs about relationship both healthy and unhealty. It looks at your family of origin, relationship history and shows you how to escape unhealthy patterns through deep awareness.
If you are looking for a bedside story that merely makes you feel good, then this isn't your book. If you want to understand at a deep level why you made unhealthy relationship choices in the past and are willing to do the work to change, this is a valuable roadmap, tool and companion on that journey. I do psychological work with people and I often recommend this volume to people who are serious about serious change.
If you have a girlfriend, If you have a boyfriend. If you have a wife, If you have a husband. If your thinking about getting a boyfriend or girlfriend. And If you are married or thinking about getting married, or thinking of asking someone to marry you. If you are having a problem with a mate, or if your mate is telling you that you have a problem, then you need to read this book, it is a great eye opener. You will see things from their side and get ideas that might help in a relationship. You will learn something, maybe even about yourself.
I have read this book and told many of my friends to read it as well. This book does an excellent job of leading us to look through a new lens regarding our relationships. Why we do the things we do and attract the people that we attract - it is practical, loving and supportive in showing us how to clearly see our limiting character behaviors and how to change them to find and nurture healthy relationships that support us and propel us forward.
Randy Pierce Author, "Making Shifts without Making Waves: A Coach Approach to Soulful Leadership"
I've read dozens of relationship books and this is the best. Not only is it great for personal application but it's a wonderful source for information that we need to be teaching each and every one of our children.
This book was recommended by a counselor and it is worth its weight in gold! None of us grow up in 'normal' families and we all struggle with the how-tos of relationships. This book provided the education about relationships I didn't receive growing up, and it did so in a very concrete and easy to apply manner. In fact, after reading it, I bought three more copies to give to friends.
I have enjoyed reading this particular book. There were some new insights that I could relate to my own life and patterns. For those of us from unhealthy families it has been a long search to figure out what healthy intimacy is and it helps have books like this to refer to "what is normal".
A very heavy chapter about whether you are in compulsive, apathetic, or healthy relationship.. Totally brutal truth. Tricky thing is to have balanced actions, feeling and thinking from the beginning. Too many are in trouble six seven years down the road, realizing the conflicting personalities. I dont think people would change dramatically, it is few critical things rhat were missed by both couple.