Getting Married When It's Not Your First Time: An Etiquette Guide and Wedding Planner [Paperback]

Pamela Hill Nettleton (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 10, 2001

For Encore Brides Everywhere, A Smart, Practical
Guide to Making This Wedding Even More Fabulous
and Memorable Than Your First

Any bride who's headed back to the altar faces a paralyzing number of tricky situations ' as well as the challenge of making this second or third (or more!) wedding unique in its own right. This enormously helpful guide, written by an experienced "encore" bride, features a wealth of inspiring suggestions for handling delicate etiquette issues and navigating complex family ties. With humor, warmth, and sensitivity to the many emotional and social issues facing encore brides and stepfamilies, Pamela Hill Nettleton blends her own valuable experiences with guidance from wedding planners, family therapists, couples who have remarried, and the real experts ' stepchildren. Here you'll find great tips on these and other remarriage issues:

Telling your children ' and your ex ' you're engaged

Inviting, seating, and dealing with exes, previous in-laws, and stepchildren

Involving children in your ceremony

Avoiding stepfamily ' and ex family ' wedding day disasters

Using your wedding to build a healthy, loving stepfamily

Filled with real-world advice not found in most how-to wedding guides, as well as numerous worksheets to help you stay organized, this handy, easy-to-use guide will help any encore bride create a ceremony that reflects the joys and rewards of saying "I do" all over again.

Editorial Reviews

From Library Journal

With her four marriages and blended family, Nettleton is exceedingly sensitive to the feelings of children affected by remarriage and incorporates more child-friendly ideas than Naylor's title above or making kids (and adult children) feel involved. Featuring lots of personal "how we did it" blurbs from adults and children who've been there, Nettleton also shares tips for handling ex-spouses, informing former in-laws, and easing guests (who may not have experience with remarriage) while reminding couples to have the wedding of their dreams.
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.

About the Author

Pamela Hill Nettleton is a leading expert on remarriage who writes for Bride Again magazine, as well as for Redbook and Minnesota Bride. She lives in Minneapolis, where she is the editorial director of Minnesota Monthly magazine.

Product Details

• Paperback: 336 pages
• Publisher: Harper Paperbacks; 1 edition (April 10, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0380810778
• ISBN-13: 978-0380810772
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #642,647 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Divorced? In Love? You need this., April 11, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: Getting Married When It's Not Your First Time: An Etiquette Guide and Wedding Planner (Paperback)

Wedding books say next to NOTHING about stepfamilies and don't offer real-life solutions to the real problems second-time grooms (me) and brides face. This book gives a lot of great (and funny, but helpful) wedding planning advice and etiquette advice, but the most important and unusual thing it does is tell you what you r kids are feeling (age by age, even!) and how you can help them adjust. Because the wedding, though it's fun, is really just the beginning-of a marriage that lasts a lifetime, this time!

5 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great, April 20, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: Getting Married When It's Not Your First Time: An Etiquette Guide and Wedding Planner (Paperback)

If you're looking to give it another try, make sure to buy this book. The author has plenty of experience with getting hitched, in fact, I can't think of anyone who's been married more than Pamela Hill Nettleton, maybe Elizabeth Taylor. But since Liz hasn't written a book on the subject, I'll leave it up to Nettleton. I'm a divorced kid with parent who are both remarried. It's important to keep the kids in mind when trying it again, and Nettleton makes sure you don't look over that point. Did I mention funny? Going through marriage four times has to be difficult, but with Nettleton's humor it's just more material.

6 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Outdated Advice, February 13, 2003

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This review is from: Getting Married When It's Not Your First Time: An Etiquette Guide and Wedding Planner (Paperback)

I'm getting married again after 20 years of being single & was looking for relevant advice. It was not to be found in this book. It's a very traditional stodgy book for people who are afraid to break the rules. There are better choices out there. Hint: look for books with the word "grownup" in the title!