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Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together Hardcover – April 1, 2008
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About the Author
Tammy Nelson, MS, ATR, LADC, LPC, CIT, is a licensed psychotherapist with almost 20 years of experience working with individuals and couples. In her practice she works with couples to increase the passion in their relationships and re-sexualize relationships through communication and fantasy. Tammy is the founder and executive director of the Center for Healing & Recovery in Ridgefield and Norwalk, Connecticut.
More About the Author
Dr. Nelson is author of "Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together" (2008), "What's Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia." (2004) and "The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity" (January 2013), and the forward to "Partners in Passion" by Michaels and Johnson (2013) and a chapter in "Loving and Lasting; How to Stay Tuned" edited by Lyons (2013) and author of "Six Weeks to Desire" eBook (2013). Her newest book "Sex and Lies; The Naked Therapist" TM is currently under negotiation.
She has been a featured expert in New York Times, Washington Post, Self, Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC, Healthy Life Magazine, Shape, Men's Health, Woman's Day, Women's Health, The Sun, and a source in TimeMagazine. She writes for the Psychotherapy Networker and Huffington Post, YourTango, ThirdAge, GoodCleanLove, and can be followed on her blog at www.drtammynelson.com/blog.
Tammy speaks internationally and trains professionals and couples around the committed, renewable monogamy and sustainable and sexy relationships. She is a premier marketer and creates publicity campaigns that reach audiences in the hundreds of thousands, both for clinical and consumer audiences. She is committed to radical global relational change and available at www.drtammynelson.com
Top Customer Reviews
Topics include help for stale-mated partners who "keep score" and for those who "fake it." She offers exercises to deal with the fear, anxiety, control, anger, and resentment that too many couples take to bed with them, and shows ways to express love, trust, appreciation, sensuality, and lusty desire. Other topics include explicit guidance for sexual intimacy that range from massage and genital stimulation to creating sexual rituals. The book concludes with a section on tolerating ecstasy and joy--a problem many people have in our fast-track culture.
If you are a therapist who works with couples--you'll find this book a wonderful resource for you as well as your clients. It spans the divide between couple therapy and sex therapy in a way that guides and educates in a straightforward, collegial manner.
Having said this, I found the book absolutely fantastic, and would give it 6 stars if I could. The book doesn't really talk about the philosophic underpinnings of imago therapy. It just uses one key concept from this therapy approach (a specific form of dialog where one mirrors, then validates and empathizes with, the statements of the partner) as the key ingredient in a long list of exercises that help partners to develop an intimate connection. All the exercises are great; I believe that most couples are going to find something useful in these exercises, even if their relationship is quite good already.
Further, many relationships are in a stalemate where one partner needs emotional support as a precondition for physical intimacy while the other needs physical intimacy to feel emotionally connected. Several exercises in this book provide a great way to break out of this vicious cycle.
......and, she makes it a whole lot of fun!!
I highly recommend Tammy Nelson's book to all my friends, colleagues and clients alike!
Melanie Barnum, Certified Hypnotist and Intuitive Counselor
So, the core message of the book is a good one!
I just felt that it didn't deliver after that. Basically every exercise was the exact same thing, and tons of pages were wasted with examples of imago dialogue, which basically means one person speaks, and the other repeats what they say back to them. A nice idea, and one that I've been trying to implement a bit since reading about it in this book, but seriously, 20% of the pages are just dialogues of couples, with one repeating the exact same thing as the first. In fact, in a lot of places the book is repetitive. It made it hard to stay focused on the content, because my brain would immediately go into skim mode when I saw repeating text, even though I was in a new chapter.
After the book walks you through a few key points, it touches upon aspects of sexuality that you might want to explore with your partner. Again, I think this is valuable information but not necessarily in this source. If my partner says he wants to try something new, I'll buy a book on that topic.
Overall, I would suggest flipping through this before you buy. Obviously it's helped a lot of people, and like I said, there were some good takeaways, but I just don't think the book delivered the way I was expecting.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
The experience of reading Getting the Sex You Want is like having an extended conversation with a warm and sharing expert who is patient enough to guide you through a variety of... Read morePublished 4 months ago by Marty Babits
We took turns reading chapters to each other and broached subjects that we had not been able to discuss before. Some chapters were far more valuable than others...Published 20 months ago by Deb Maier
Not much in here that tops common sense. It is a quick read and has some things to try, but overall you can probably do better without the book.Published on December 6, 2013 by M. Mindless
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Fun and enlightening. When you think you knew all of something or someone then find you've only quit learning. Great read!Published on May 26, 2013 by hobo
this book shows me a way of connection whit my partner. thanks, Imago. i will countinue to go for connection.Published on January 24, 2013 by jo
A good read with much emphasis on communication. After all, how can your partner know how and when to have sex if you don't ask or tell. Read morePublished on October 8, 2012 by Chris Bailey