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Product Details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company; Reprint edition (September 17, 1994)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0393312429
  • ISBN-13: 978-0393312423
  • Product Dimensions: 0.6 x 0.1 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (27 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #90,402 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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“An insightful, compassionate, practical and readable guide for survivors of hurtful childhoods.” (Gloria Steinem)

“This book provides valuable tools for adults abused as children. The title is too modest. The techniques provided not only help 'get through the day' but also empower the reader to gradually mitigate and eventually overcome the effects of painful past experiences.” (Yvonne M. Dolan, author of Resolving Sexual Abuse)

“Nancy Napier has added to the healing literature for adult survivors of childhood trauma. . . . In reading this book, I continuously thought of how useful it would be to any of my current patients.” (Christine A. Courtois, Ph.D., author of Healing the Incest Wound)

About the Author

Nancy J. Napier is a marriage and family therapist in private practice in New York City. She is a former president of the New York Society for the Study of Multiple Personality and Dissociative Disorders, a board member of the New York Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and a past board member of the New York Milton H. Erickson Society for Psychotherapy and Hypnosis. She is the author of several books, including Sacred Practices for Conscious Living.

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37 of 37 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on July 13, 1998
Format: Paperback
This book is a must-have for anyone who used dissociative strategies to survive physical, emotional, or sexual abuse as a child; their therapists, and support people. Napier does an outstanding job of explaining what it means to be dissociative, and how to cope with it. She also offers advice for multiple personalities.
A particularly useful chapter covers how to find a therapist and what the therapist-client relationship should be.
I have purchased copies for members of my support family as the book does an excellent job of demystifying dissociation and multiplicity.
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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful By E. Myers on January 22, 2003
Format: Paperback
Sometimes daily life feels like climbing a hill through molasses. Even those who don't have MPD may have inner children (teenagers, pseudo-adults) who seem to be at war with each other, or extreme emotional reactions left over from childhood. This book has a wealth of strategies for soothing those inner selves in the context of the demands of daily living. If that was all, that would be enough for me to recommend this book, because I don't know of another book on the market that deals with practical strategies for daily life in terms of these inner selves (with suggestions for those who do have MPD). But I also appreciate the empathetic tone of the book. Sometimes that kind of tone, however well-meant, can come off as sappy or condescending, but I felt that here it was warm and sincere. I'd also like to recommend two other books: "How to Love Yourself When You Don't Know How" and "Internal Family Systems Therapy." Both are wonderful books about these inner selves and how they function in us. And while they don't deal with the day-to-day struggles and strategies that this book does, they are also resources for exploring the subpersonality issues that affect so many of us.
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36 of 39 people found the following review helpful By Brenda on February 25, 2001
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Time and time again, I have come back to this book for grounding. For validation. For understanding. For direction...and it never lets me down. It is true that the author of a book can only... really.... take you as far as he/she has gone themselves! This books leads the way to what all other self-help books should aspire too! Absence of ego and a genuine sense and practical advice on how to move from point A to point B! I can not reccomend this book highly enough! Out of all the other books that I have on the subject...... this one... hands down... is the one that sits upon my night-stand! It is invaluable!!!!!
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Bette VINE VOICE on December 5, 2006
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The title is an eyecatcher, but the book is so much more than just techniques for getting survivors "through the day." I have found more validation, encouragement, answers and empowering solutions in this book than in most self help books combined. And I've read A LOT of self help books!

The book's target readers are dissociators and multiples (MPD / DID). The focus is on dealing with emotions and events from childhood that have been dissociated, or set aside from consciousness. Often times, life for a dissociator goes just fine, for decades, but then you hit a brick wall, and all of your life "tricks" stop working. Bad stuff starts to come up from the past, in the forms of triggers, flashbacks, memories, etc. Your life can be turned upside down, especially if you realize that you employed personalities in order to get you through life. But Napier encourages the survivor of childhood abuse to take it at our own pace. Life isn't all good, or all bad, and while you're finally handling all of your dark, depressing issues, you can still lead a decent, middle-ground life, which accepts good times when they come.

There are exercies, which you can do or not; the author encourages readers to choose for themselves, especially since it can be frightening for dissociators to use meditative techniques to further explore feelings.

There are end-of-chapter/paragraph discussions for multiples ("Special Issues for Multiples"), but in my opinion, this is a book which all dissociators should read cover to cover. If something does not apply to you at all, or you want to skip the exercises, then do so, HOWEVER...the book is heavy with gems, and if you skip too much of it, you risk the chance of missing out on some lightbulb moments. I had MANY while reading the book.
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20 of 22 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on June 13, 2000
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This book is excellent, especially for those struggling with MPD/DID (dissociative disorders). Unlike many other books on the subject, it is full of practical, workable coping strategies for managing everyday living and the emotional issues that come up during the recovery process. A must-read for anyone recovering from childhood abuse, whether multiple or not.
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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful By Rita Reinard (froggie501@aol.com) on July 6, 1998
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Getting Through The Day is the first book that gave me guidance on all the advice I got from the other books I read on healing from incest...Even after a stay in a therapy program I was still confused on how to soothe my inner children or how to know what triggers were..Now I have gained the understanding I need to continue on my journey toward healing and wholeness.
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17 of 19 people found the following review helpful By A. Brink VINE VOICE on October 19, 2002
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I found this book so informative and helpful. Nancy Napier's work on this subject is excellent. It is especially great for those days where you wake up remembering the trauma and forgetting the present. It feels like you have a friend giving you suggestions of what to do to get grounded and focused on today again and that is not something your mind easily goes to when you are in it. Knowing what to do today makes you able to stay aware of the fact that you are a grown up now and that you are capable of getting through the day and then some. Thank you Nancy Napier for knowing all the right things to say.
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