"Getting Up, Getting Over, Getting On
is an easy-to-read book in which the 12-steps are artfully applied to divorce recovery." -- Pamela D. Blair, Psychotherapist & Director, Divorce Resource Network - Publisher, Surviving Divorce newsletter Contributing Editor, Divorce NY/NJ Magazine
"A Godsend for all those moving through the transition of divorce." -- Mel Schwartz C.S.W. Psychotherapist and author of The Art of Intimacy, The Pleasure of Passion
"McWade creates the possibility of healing. I highly recommend you accept her invitation to recovery." -- Linda Seaver, MPS, ATR
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About the Author
I wrote this book to share the wisdom I originally gained in Al-Anon and from facilitating a Twelve Step Divorce Recovery Group for nine years. Having practiced the Twelve Steps in daily life, I realized they can be applied to divorce as well as addiction and were immensely helpful to me and to everyone who used them. The Twelve Steps were a roadmap for me as I navigated my way through my own divorce. I wanted to divorce differently from the war stories I had heard. Four children were between us and we owed it to them to be good co-parents. There were few examples of a 'good divorce' for me to follow so I used the familiar Twelve Step tools to guide me. For example, I was powerless over others but have power in my own life; when overwhelmed, take it a day at a time; and to be grateful for what is good in my life. Friends often commented on how sensible our divorce was. It wasn't easy but we avoided doing further damage to our relationship. We had to maintain decency for the sake of the many times we would be together in the future. I am remarried, live in Garrison, New York and work as a writer, psychotherapist and Collaborative Divorce Coach. I also help people establish Twelve Step Divorce Recovery groups. My books include Daily Meditations for Surviving a Breakup, Separation or Divorce, Healing You, Healing Me: A Divorce Group Leaders Guide and Moving Towards Mastery in Collaborative Divorce.