36 of 37 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
Helpful, November 30, 2004
This review is from: Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start: A Guide for Engaged and Newlywed Couples (Paperback)
I read this book two months before I got married, and found it helpful for me. I prefer it over Tim LaHaye's book "The Act of Marriage" and Ed Wheat's "Intended For Pleasure". It was Biblical and covered the physical, psychological, and spiritual matters of sex. This book will help remove misconceptions about sex. My advice to any man getting married and purchasing this book is to make sure your future spouse reads it also, BEFORE you get married, regardless of her sexual past. The reason I say this is I could not get my wife to read this book, and she still holds on to her misconceptions.
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37 of 40 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Great information for first timers!, March 13, 2002
This review is from: Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start: A Guide for Engaged and Newlywed Couples (Paperback)
I liked this book a lot because it gives information
about sex from a Christian perspective. Unlike other
books on sex, it gives detailed information about
the first time, how to prepare for your honeymoon,
the first night together, etc. It even gives advice
about how to prepare physically for that night. Very
informative.
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66 of 75 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Book without a "backbone.", July 9, 2008
This review is from: Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start: A Guide for Engaged and Newlywed Couples (Paperback)
I am a young woman preparing for a Godly marriage. In my early teen years, I was rather promiscuous and engaged in activites that resulted in a 3-year long battle with masturbation and perverted thoughts and desires and the guilt and shame that came with it.
I bought this book hoping to move past all of that and into a holy marriage that continued to encourage purity of thought and action until the wedding night. I was greatly disappointed.
Although "Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start" has a lot of great material on love and commitment and some very practical advice on "the first time" and creating a romantic atmosphere and inviting God to share the experience, I disagree strongly with many of their suggestions. I am writing this review to warn those like me who are looking for a book that lines up with conservative Christian convictions.
The book not only condones but encourages masturbation "in preparation for" and in marriage. The authors encourage men the masturbate before the wedding night to reduce the risk of premature ejaculation. I found this very offensive as I love my fiance and am not going to be disappointed if he doesn't last very long. Please hear me when I say that as a sexually-experienced woman, the performance isn't what's important; it's trust and commitment and being in it together, and when he "pleasures" himself without my involvement, that is offensive to me. I don't care how inexperienced my sweet, loving, gorgeous man is, I want to teach him and I want to enjoy how he touches me, not how I touch myself.
Additionally, the Penners encourage engaged couples to participate in activites that "arouse" one another in order to "prepare" for the wedding behaviors. Additionally, they seem to ignore the Jesus' commandment that any man who looks at a woman who is not his wife lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. I am not married to my fiance yet. I am not his wife. By masturbation, self-stimulation, and engaging in "arousing" activites, I am encouraging him and myself to lust after each other, and this is adultery.
As a final note, I am incredibly attracted to my fiance and he to me, and I disagree with the authors and would like to say that by choosing to stay pure in mind and thought and deed, we will be enhancing our anxiety for our upcoming wedding night. It may not be the best time and I may not perform perfectly, but we are learning together. We are connecting. And I don't need to teach myself how to be stimulated. I am waiting for my husband.
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