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“We girls can be cruel,” asserts Burton, who, with a direct tone and solid advice, puts the responsibility for change directly on the shoulders of girls themselves, asking them to look closely at their own behavior. Divided into six succinct chapters, the book begins by examining theories of why girls act the way they do, various types of common cruel behaviors, and excellent coping techniques. Later sections provide resources for addressing more serious problems and offer concrete suggestions for how to stop the cycle of female cruelty. Burton never talks down to her readers, nor does she pull her punches. Readers will respond to the author’s clear respect for the painful nature of the problem, while breezy language, such as the sections entitled “Why It Sucks” will draw girls into the practical advice. Quotes from female celebrities scattered throughout reinforce the central idea that girls need to change the mean-girl culture. A great addition for teen collections. Grades 7-10. --Lynn Rutan
San Francisco-based author Bonnie Burton writes about everything from Wookiees to mean girls. Books include: THE STAR WARS CRAFT BOOK (Random House), STAR WARS: THE CLONE WARS: PLANETS IN PERIL (DK Readers), DRAW STAR WARS: THE CLONE WARS (Klutz Books), YOU CAN DRAW: STAR WARS (DK Children), GIRLS AGAINST GIRLS: WHY WE ARE MEAN TO EACH OTHER AND HOW WE CAN CHANGE (Zest Books) and NEVER THREATEN TO EAT YOUR CO-WORKERS: BEST OF BLOGS (Apress). She edited/wrote for comic book anthologies WOMANTHOLOGY (IDW Publishing) and THE GIRLS' GUIDE TO GUYS' STUFF (Friends of Lulu).
Bonnie also written for Wired, Star Wars Insider, Geek, Bust, Craft, and Organic Gardening, CNN.com, Huffington Post and has a column in SFX magazine. Hosts web shows "Geek DIY" for Stan Lee's World of Heroes, "Vaginal Fantasy" Book Club on Geek & Sundry, & her vlog "Ask Bonnie." Learn more on: Grrl.com.
As an adult, don't you always wonder what would have happened if you had known then what you know now? Growing up, I was oftentimes a victim of a lot of mean girl crimes from elementary to high school. Due to the nature of my youth, I lacked confidence and never really knew how to handle myself in those situations. I was too embarrassed to seek advice from anybody, so I ended up letting those situations get the best of me.
I wish I had Girls Against Girls as a reference guide when I was growing up! Sympathetically written, Bonnie Burton never talks down to her readers. You can tell that she understands today's text-loving & Facebook-surfing generation of girls. Bonnie gets straight to the point by not only offering perceptible solutions, but insight as to why mean girls do what they do.
Sadly however, Bonnie admits that mean girls don't disappear after high school. It's true. While I would absolutely buy this book for my (future) daughter, a lot of the fundamental lessons that I read apply to my life now (I'm 28). So, for all girls out there - from 11 to 92 - I'd highly recommend picking up this handy guide to dealing with (and preventing) all this unnecessary drama!
Recently I had been going through a tough time. A girl had created an annonymous website about me and my band, dissing everything from my voice to my clothes. It was not only sad and frustrating, but it was scary-- I didn't know who was behind it, and I had no idea why anyone would want to hurt me in that way. When I read Girls against Girls, everything just started making sence. Not only is it straighforward and honest, but the sound advice it presented gave me the courage to just let it go. You can't change the way people treat you, but you can change the way that you deal with it. This was SUCH a powerful read.
I often feel as if most books about teenage girls acknowledge girl drama, but do not address it holistically. "Girls Against Girls," however, fully explains bullying and abuse among young women through cultural, sociological, and scientific explanations. The book explains brain differences between men and women, the cultural reasons for our problems, and many unexpected factors that contribute to complicated relationships. Have you ever wanted to confront someone about a problem? Have you avoided the conflict and held the anger in because you didn't want to seem unreasonably mean? That's society, coercing you to hold everything in if you want to achieve a sweet, docile image. The book contains anecdotes and quotes from female authors and performers that support the text. The women make great points: they acknowledge that high school girl drama hurts less with time, but they also explain how to deal with it as it progresses. It's comforting to know that strong, female leaders and artists have experienced petty fights and bullying. "Girls Against Girls" pulls its concepts together by explaining both bullying tactics and tactics for survival. For everyone who has experienced the silent treatment (yes, you), the book provides methods to eliminate and lessen the pain, but also sympathetically explains why it hurts to be ignored. "Girls Against Girls" also explains methods of cyber-bullying (a trend that most of the contributors did not experience when they were young); the text is modern without seeming cheesy or contrived. Overall, I feel as if "Girls Against Girls" is an incredibly effective read. The author approaches it with the intention of making her work seem whole, and her goal is achieved.... The entire scope of girl drama, (causes and effects), is explained in a personal way that involves the reader. And yes, it is sympathetic, but the book does not fail to acknowledge that every girl can be a mean girl. I would recommend it to anyone who is very curious about bullying and abuse, but I also recommend it to any girl who needs to be completely honest with themselves.Read more ›
Helpful for my daughter who was experiencing some nastiness from a girl in class. As with books of this nature, it does paint with a broad brush, but I really like the long perspective she takes. There are no good guys or bad guys, just good and bad ways of dealing with things. I'd recommend.
I am in my mid 40's and picked up on this book out of curiosity as to why I witness the same pattern amongst girls and women over and over again, years after I finished high school, or junior high school for that matter. Ms. Burton actually addresses the issue of why most girls and certain women have a tendency to be abusive towards their gender.
This book is a very easy and quick read as it is also eloquently and simplistically informative. If more people read this book and comprehended the message, I believe that we would see some improving civility within, not only the female gender, but, for society as a whole.
This is the book I was always looking for in the 1990's when I was a teen. I am so glad to have it now, however for my daughters who will be teens in just a few years. Not only does the book give great insight into how we as females act toward each other and how we react to it, but it also has great advice on how to stop the vicious cycles we put ourselves into. The book is full of quotes and even website resources to help out with some of the more difficult issues at hand.
I have to say also, not only teens can benefit from this book, but really any woman of any age can gain something from this book. I found not only great advice to help me in my own life, but also some great pointers that I could give to my 9 and 6 year old daughters, now!
I recommend this book to anyone and everyone, I guaranty you will walk away from it with something that will help you in your day to day life no matter what your age or situation.
