"This debut self-help book asks readers to think twice about what they eat—and how they fall in love.
The market for self-help books about love and sex is seemingly insatiable. So, too, is the market for health and diet books. Life and relationship coach Barnes cleverly combines the two genres into one book that outlines the steps to maintain healthy bodies and healthy relationships. Barnes argues that just as chips, pizza and candy make us sick, so do relationships that fulfill temporary emotional cravings. They may feel good in the moment, she writes, but they soon lead to an emotional “crash” akin to a blood-sugar dip. Using templates created by the food industry to distinguish types of foods and portion sizes, Barnes reimagines love lives as a series of ingredients that make up a “Well-Balanced Meal,” or a lovely, decadent “Dessert” (Barnes’ term for casual dating). Self-respect, forgiveness, communication and proper boundaries make up a deliciously satisfying romantic partnership, she writes, while self-doubt and criticism are junk foods to be tossed out immediately. The author extends this conceit all the way through the book, expounding upon emotional “Food Poisoning,” “Between-Meal Snacks” (rebound relationships) and “Forbidden Fruit.” Although her numerous quizzes may strike readers as a bit trite, her food metaphors are so original that they give renewed taste to stale concepts. Barnes isn’t a nutritionist, but her health and diet tips are common-sensical and avoid the didactic tone of many diet books. She even destigmatizes such issues as sex addiction and emotional wounds by filtering them through the lens of nutrition, allowing readers to examine their own inner physical and emotional workings more objectively.
A welcome addition to the self-help genre that aims to heal body and mind."
Well written and very informative book.
If we interact with emotionally healthy people, who treat us with genuine love and respect, then those relationships have the potential to stand the test of time.
Sometimes we forget that a healthy relationship is based on love and respect, and this book will make sure that you never forget that!
Donna Barnes "gets" dating, and this funny, true, insightful book shows why. Empty, unhealthy relationships are like empty, unhealthy junk food, and Barnes shows how and... Read morePublished 11 months ago by Phoebe Fox
This is one of the best books i have read in years! Everything is spelled out for you and all you have to do is follow step by step!
Amazing book !!!
An amazing yet entertaining way to recognize your part & the roles other play in your relationships but more importantly this book gives great insight on how to make the changes... Read morePublished 20 months ago by Mom of six
The author is able to eloquently describe the differences between a healthy/good relationship and an unhealthy/poor relationship. Read morePublished 20 months ago by Happy
Well written and very informative book. Full of insights to improve relationships. I would recommend this book to anyone, single or marriedPublished 24 months ago by Christopher L Lane
I'm not going to lie. I don't buy many books, but when I do I get them on Amazon. That being said, a friend loaned me a copy of this book and it's one of the best I've ever read. Read morePublished on March 30, 2013 by bookborrower
This may be the most uniquely helpful books I have ever been privileged to read.. By using the analogy of food to help you define your relationships Donna has given me the easiest... Read morePublished on March 1, 2013 by Daniel
First of all, I love that this book is about EVERYONE!~ Young or old, Gay or straight, you can get help from this book. Read morePublished on February 25, 2013 by C. P. H.