The Go-To Mom's Parents' Guide to Emotion Coaching Young Children [Paperback]

Kimberley Clayton Blaine (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 30, 2010

From the producer of the popular on line The Go-To Mom.TV, comes a handy guide filled with practical tips that reject old-fashioned discipline and instead use empathy and emotion coaching, a more effective, open-hearted method of support and positive change. Blaine shows how to put in place life-changing solutions and access previously untapped resources. This book is written for parents who struggle to solve the day-to-day problems of raising kids. She offers emotion coaching solutions for dealing with tantrums, nightmares, hitting, bedtime, whining, bedwetting potty training, shyness, and anger.

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From the Back Cover

Raise Healthy and Self-Reliant Children

From Kimberley Clayton Blaine (the producer of the popular online TheGoToMom.TV) comes a handy guide filled with practical tips that reject old-fashioned discipline and instead use empathy and emotion coaching—a more effective, open-hearted method of support and positive change. This book is written for parents who struggle to solve the day-to-day challenges of raising kids, while at the same time improving their parent-child relationship. The author offers practical solutions on how to use emotion coaching for dealing with tantrums, nightmares, hitting, bedtime, whining, bedwetting, potty training, shyness, anger, and other common problems.

Praise for The Go-To Mom's Parents' Guide to Emotion Coaching Young Children

"Many mothers are confused and anxious—worried that they won't be able to navigate a successful path through the maze of advice, values, pressures, and needs that they face in being a parent. Kimberly Clayton Blaine is a reliable guide, and her book will help women take a deep breath and find a satisfying way to be a good mother and still hold onto the best of who they are as people."—James Garbarino, PhD, professor of psychology, Loyola University Chicago; author, Raising Children in a Socially Toxic Environment

"Offers parents concrete help. Kimberley Blaine reminds us that building strong relationships with our children is the cornerstone of humane and loving discipline and offers emotion coaching as a unique, effective, and peaceful way to help our children and ourselves in times of conflict."—Peggy O'Mara, editor and publisher, Mothering Magazine

"If you're tired of doing battle with your children, you must read Kimberley Blaine's book.... Learn to give up the bribes, spanking, and yelling—and achieve a more peaceful parenting experience!"—Susan M. Heim, editor, Chicken Soup for the Soul; coauthor, Boosting Your Baby's Brain Power

About the Author

Kimberley Clayton Blaine, MA, MFT, is a licensed family and child therapist, the founder and executive producer of www.TheGoToMom.TV, and the social marketing director of a Los Angeles–based early childhood mental health campaign funded by SAMHSA, a division of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass; 1 edition (August 30, 2010)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0470584971
• ISBN-13: 978-0470584972
• Product Dimensions: 6.1 x 0.6 x 9.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #601,439 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Kimberley Clayton Blaine is a mom of two young boys. she is national parenting expert, author and a licensed Family and Child Therapist who specializes in working with children ages newborn to six years old. Kimberley is the founder and executive producer of a grassroots webshow, called www.TheGoToMom.TV. Kimberley is a national speaker and teaches Early Childhood Brain Development and Positive Discipline Strategies at UCLA Extension Education Department. Kimberley is also the Social Marketing Director of Los Angeles Early Childhood Mental Health Campaign funded by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

9 of 10 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars This is a book every parent should read. August 30, 2010

By Ramin K. Sakurai

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"The Go-To Mom's Guide To Emotion Coaching Young Children" is book that couldn't have come at a better time for us. I'm a father of a 2 year 8 month old boy who challenges us on a daily basis whether it's eating, sleeping, potty training, taking a bath, going to swim class, playing with toys and sharing, I can go on and on... My wife and I have disagreements on how we should raise him but we're both open to a new solution. She feels "Time Outs" work for him and giving him rewards like chocolate when he sits on the toilet are great solutions, while I disagree wholeheartedly. When I take him to the toilet and refuse to give him chocolate, he gets upset at me and probably thinks, "Mama does it, why doesn't Dada?". After reading some of this book, I realized I was doing somethings that were actually correct (which is empathizing with my child, respecting and validating his feelings, and managing him without "time-outs", bribing, or raising my voice over his extremely loud voice). Then, there are times where I'd fall back into the old parenting habits and feel terrible with it. My wife and I are looking for alternative parenting methods and strategies that actually work in a positive manner. We want to raise a strong healthy boy who can eventually manage himself responsibly with his emotions. "Emotion Coaching" is the solution for any parent and it involves keeping yourself in check (esp. with your kids) so it's a huge growing experience for the parent and child as individuals, as well as together, in their relationship with themselves, and others in the world community. After reading some of this book, you'll start digging deeper to be a better parent and person for your child.

Highly Highly Recommended! If I could give more stars I would...

RS

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Help build a stronger attachment December 28, 2010

By C. Lewis

Format:Paperback

I am always on the search for a good book to help me with my three rambunctious children. They each have their own personalities and abilities. Each day, week, month, and year I watch my children develop their own personalities even stronger. I think I have it all figured out, and then something happens to change it which is why I'm always looking for the perfect go to book.

I happened to stumble on Kimberley Clayton Blaine's book, "The Go-to Mom's Parents' Guide to Emotion Coaching Young Children." I am a total judge a book by its cover and thought the title sounded pretty decent to me.

Then I open to a random page and was pleasantly surprised by what I saw. This book for me seemed to fit into my attachment parenting (AP) philosophy. I have read several books and had felt lately there wasn't much on APing an older child. I'm constantly on the search for a good book that can give me quick details and real solutions while helping me maintain an emotional, attached connection with my children.

This book does that! I am loving the actual parent to child situations with real solutions. Each chapter ends with Quick and Nifty Tips. I want to have some of this printed out to have a little quick check list for myself.

I am also loving the issue of rewards. Years ago I read Alfie Kohn's book, "Punished by Rewards", and never felt I got solid help on what I needed; however, Blaine's "Emotion Coaching" is doing what Kohn's book did not. It is giving the reasons why rewards don't work and what to do instead.

Blaine doesn't just discuss rewards; her chapter on Guiding your four-to-seven year old brings up other common topics that many parents face in childrearing. It seems for a parent of an older child this chapter is addressing all our common concerns and behaviors. I have begun using these techniques in her book and have found already I'm a calmer parent, and my children are slowly beginning to model my same emotions. I feel her book as helped me find a way to deepen my connection to my children.

The other nice addition to this book is the book list. I just discovered it at the back of the book. She has a book list for parents, but I found her book list for children to be of most helpful. She has the list divided by emotions and feelings.

For anyone needing a book to help with building a stronger attachment to your child with real go-to ideas, you need this book. It is being well used in my house.

Stacy

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars The Go-To Mom is MY Go-To Mom September 26, 2012

By Susan McMartin

Format:Paperback

I am a single mom who has relied on the wisdom of Kimberley Clayton Blaine for just about everything. Her humor, honesty, kindness and expertise has been the answer for me when faced with a parenting question. She is not just the Go-To Mom she is MY Go-To Mom. For anyone who wants to be a better parent, Emotion Coaching is a must read!