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Very Soothing, Helpful
on June 3, 2013
I ordered Dr. Stanley's book because of the title. I had just gone through a three-year long, very un-amicable divorce after a 20 year marriage and was trying to recover from much pain and doubt and confusion, because 20 years ago, I thought I married my God-centered, life partner. ( We were both very involved in the Christian Church, so this divorce felt like the rug had been pulled out from under.) I was skeptical of God and Dr.Stanley to say the least. I had only heard Dr. Stanley a few times on the radio, was not a fan per se, but was looking for ANYTHING that would help me make sense of things.
I can tell you this:
1) This is a short book of ten chapters, 146 pages; not highly theological and easy to read.
2) This book gave me strength to keep going.
I took it slow, carried it in my bag, read it while waiting for the kids. Sometimes I read it at night before bed because it was so soothing.
Some are really angry at God because of their divorce, and I can't say I blame them. As for me I felt just felt hurt, crushed, "what now?" kind of feelings. On page one, Dr. Stanley writes, "We can know the plans He has for us."
I was doubtful. Been there, done that. The author goes on to talk about what we can depend on from Christ. Ok...
In the following chapters, the compelling thing about this read is how the author answers the questions, the doubts, the "yeah, buts" I had and lays each one to rest with reassurance and a short Scripture passage. I had to sit with each "answer" for a while. I found if I was "argumentative" internally with the author, it didn't serve me any good. Instead, I decided to let go and open my heart to whatever Dr. Stanley had to say about the God I thought I knew. Sometimes my "argument" was answered later on in the book (or sometimes through a few small events in my daily life) and I began to understand a little better about God's Plan for me, for humanity. I began to feel some relief, got some sleep.
Things happen. Sometimes we have control over them, sometimes we don't. I still have a long way to go. I have blessings to work with, but I had to read this book to remember what they were. I was like the man who becomes blind via an unforeseen course of events. The man rails at God for making him blind -- how could this happen? But the man fails to "see" that God still loves and cares and has a plan. The man can now "hear" the birds, the rain, the voice of his child, the symphony with exquisite detail and accuracy. Was the man meant to hear these before? Yes. Would the man choose not to have lost his sight? Of course. But, given the circumstances, how would this man like to live out the rest of his days?
And how would I like to live out the rest of my days? Trusting in the God who made the Universe that all is well and all will be well, and believing that God has a plan for my life too. Thanks, Dr. Stanley.