Going Gray: What I Learned about Beauty, Sex, Work, Motherhood, Authenticity, and Everything Else That Really Matters (Hardcover)

by Anne Kreamer (Author)
Key Phrases: artificial hair color, having gray hair, gray roots, Anne Kreamer, New York, Lily Dale (more...)

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly
Kreamer has been creative director of Nickelodeon/Nick at Nite and columnist for Martha Stewart Living. She has a loving husband (author and radio personality Kurt Andersen) and two daughters. She was 49 and still pretending to be young. So not only did she decide to stop coloring her hair, she set out to discover the practical implications of going gray. If she wanted, could she still find men willing to date her? Was gray a handicap in the job market? Not surprisingly, she found that it isn't so much what other people think, it's how we feel. Her consultants reminded her that hair color is only one part of a woman's appearance; a new haircut, well-selected cosmetics, new clothes and even plastic surgery will affect the success of a woman's look. Kreamer's chatty, confessional style is appealing, as are the gray-positive cultural icons she invokes (George Clooney, Helen Mirren, Emmylou Harris). But when she declares, I remain at least as vain as the next person. I intend to continue spending large sums to have my hair cut and styled, she undercuts her own argument that repackaging ourselves can be a dangerously slippery slope. In the end, she's learned to accept her own aging; readers over 55, however, may find that premature. (Sept.)
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Product Description
Anne Kreamer considered herself a youthful 49 until a photo of herself with her teenage daughter stopped her in her tracks. In one unguarded moment she saw herself for what she really was -- a middle-aged woman with her hair dyed much too harshly. In that one moment Kreamer realized that she wasn't fooling anyone about her age and decided it was time to get real and embrace a more authentic life. She set out for herself a program to let her hair become its true color, and along the way discovered her true self.
Going Gray is Kreamer's exploration of that experience, and a frank, warm and funny investigation of aging as a female obsession. Through interviews, field experiments, and her own everywoman's chronicle, Kreamer probes the issues behind two of the biggest fears aging women face: Can I be sexually attractive as a gray-haired, middle-aged woman? and Will I be discriminated against in the work world? Her answers will surprise you.
In searching for the balance between attractiveness and authenticity, Kreamer's journey of middle-aging illiminates in a friendly, useful, and entertaining way the politics and personal costs of this generation's definition of "aging gracefully.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: Little, Brown and Company (September 10, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0316166618
• ISBN-13: 978-0316166614
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.7 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #106,010 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Okay, so it's NOT about global warming....., September 25, 2007

By	1voracious reader (Home, USA) - See all my reviews

Turning 50 this year, I started to notice that my so called "friends" were pointedly asking me when I was going to begin coloring my hair. It never occurred to me, before reading Anne Kreamer's wonderful book, to ask them why they were coloring their hair. Interestly, many of my friends were aware of Ms. Kreamer's book, but none had the interest, nor I guess, the courage to read her book. It is really a facinating memoir about one woman's decision to go gray. While some may argue that because she was a woman of privilege and the choice to go gray would not monetarily affect her, it truly is an important memoir about how one woman sees herself growing older.

Her story resonated with me. I was empowered by her candor. I applaud Ms. Kreamer for writing this book and hope mothers' of daughters ultimately read it.

26 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Not just getting older; getting better!, October 5, 2007

By	K. B. Fenner (Columbia, SC USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Anne Kreamer dyed her hair for fun for decades until she saw herself in a photo. Her too-dark hair made her look old and harsh. The photos are available for us to see. She did. She decided to see what her hair looked like as its natural gray. In the photo, it looks more fabulous, sexy, elegant. She dissects the various attitudes towards gray hair with the voice of someone who you'd like as a girlfriend. If you're tired of spending huge amounts of time and/or money to color your hair in an attempt to look younger, give this a read. She may wellhwlp you take the plunge towards being your true, most excellent self. Going gray, you'll save money and time and most likely look and feel far better to boot.

24 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Really a fun read..., October 25, 2007

By	orpament II "Newberry Award Reader" (Northampton, MA USA) - See all my reviews

I'm in the middle of reading this and I am really enjoying this book. I'm 52 and yes, I do color my hair. From what people tell me, they can't tell (but maybe they're being "nice"); I tend to have kind of lighter toned hair and so the gray doesn't come in in a "skunk stripe" as it does for some dark-haired folks.

I have to admit that I've wondered why some women go gray but now I look at women all around me in a different way. A lot of my peers are struggling to hang onto their youthful looks, but let's face it...very few people at 50 and up can erase the neck-thing (my neck gives away my age even though I tend to look younger in general). There really IS nothing uglier than someone with a dark cap of hair on an old(ish) face.

I will continue to dye my hair for a while (my friend says it's not time for me to go gray yet)but this author's approach is definitely on my mind...I'm just not ready for it yet. I really enjoyed being reminded and enlightened about the prejudice that people hold toward women who go gray and how it effects their love lives, work lives, and how people perceive them in general. I guess there's some hope in that she found men on this earth who really liked women who had gray hair.

She really confirmed my own feelings about wasting a ton of money on hair upkeep...every time I get my hair colored I feel like kicking myself because I could be using that load of money for better things...yet, I'm still not secure enough in who I am to quit doing it yet...

I think it's lousy that men continue to be perceived as sexy as they age while women are looked at as being old grandmas with no sexual interests.