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Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You, November 22, 2002
This review is from: Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! (Paperback)
My children are 13, 11, and 9. I have read many excellent parenting books, but feel that Dr. Turansky and Joanne Miller, R.N., B.S.N. have captured a new yet simple, wise and practical method for training children. All of this in an easy to read book, Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Children. Good and Angry first helps the parent examine their own attitudes, and then gives them a few simple tools to effectively raise kind, considerate, sensitive, and loving children. I especially enjoyed chapter 7, "They're So Annoying". It was refreshing to know that other parents struggle with children who "seem oblivious to the feelings of others, continue to pester, speak without thinking, and are overly silly by pushing, grabbing, teasing, and joking". This chapter explains that I can teach my "annoying child" self-control and sensitivity by raising the awareness level of the annoying behavior, by keeping character in mind, by praising the child in the process of correction, and by developing tolerance when necessary. I have begun to use this simple method, and feel less anxious and sense a strengthening relationship between myself and my child. This is not a book you read once and put away to collect dust. It is one that you need to read over and over again. Good and Angry is a great book if you want to replace bad patterns of discipline(reacting in anger) with gentle, wise methods. Dr. Turansky and Joanne Miller, R.N., B.S.N. have written this book from a Christian perspective, but it's content is not religiously offensive. The methods can be used by people of any faith.
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39 of 39 people found the following review helpful:
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#1 on my list of Top 11 parenting books- A MUST READ, February 27, 2006
This review is from: Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! (Paperback)
This book is excellent. I gave a copy to everyone in my MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group because I really feel this book is a must read book.
Why?
This book helps you as a parent to recognize the five basic causes of anger and gives you practical ways to help reduce your anger and use it wisely. In my experience as a parent, I was suprised by what my kids brought out in me- especially anger!
"Emotions need to be interpreted wisely...Anger, for instance, is a flag that says,"Something's wrong here, and`I need to do something about it." The anger does not define what is wrong. You need to take time to think and interpret anger's signal appropriately before you take action...We believe that the key to using anger in a productive way is to separate the trigger from the response. If you can use anger to identify problems but not react to them, your perspective on anger will change." pp. 25-26
This book is written by Christians so they do quote the Bible and talk about God in the book. However, anyone can benefit from the very practical ideas in the book.
Some of my favorites are "The Lie Detector Test" p. 174-175 and the five steps for giving instructions in chapter 3. This is where a lot of parents get frustrated because kids won't do what you ask them to do.
One book is not going to cover all parenting issues(that's why I am continually reading parenting books because I need all the help I can get!) but this book covers what many books do not- how to use anger wisely. Other books often say don't get angry or seem to assume that you won't get angry and don't tell you how to break the anger cycle. That's why I like this book so much and feel it should be a part of your parenting library because anger is a basic emotion felt by every parent.
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Must Read, August 15, 2005
This review is from: Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! (Paperback)
Households get busy. And kids will misbehave.
After a while,a parent's patience can run a bit thin. Especially when children do the same thing time and time again. "Will they never learn?".
The authors provide the reader with a list of tools to get through these times. The goal is to build family relationships while helping kids learn better ways of responding to life's situations.
Kids learn from us. If you ever find your patience being tested in those difficult moments, then you will want to read this book. You might be surprised how it can bring a little peace to the household while building closer family relationships.
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