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The Good Bye Book: How To Heal a Broken Heart In 30 Days

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Being dumped by the love of my life placed me at a near suicidal place, in a dank grey town in mid-winter. This is a very serious topic and should not be exploited. I looked at every book out there including some mentioned in other reviews of this book. I don't write reviews. I've never done this, but this subject is far too serious, and I sense that some authors are trying to "minimize" certain works just so they can sell their books. And they don't even identify themselves. Hmmm.THIS BOOK HELPED ME IN WAYS YOU CANNOT IMAGINE, so much so that I wrote to the authors and THEY WROTE ME BACK A PERSONAL AND SUPPORTIVE NOTE. If you're reading this and trying to figure out which book to buy for this very serious time in your life, this is an honest unpretentious book that will help you, and this topic is far too serious to play games with your own life. You'll be okay. I promise, and this book will help you. I promise.

This book has truly become an important part in helping me in my life.

I read this book and marked it up a whole bunch and have been going back a lot, looking at specific chapters as they pertain to me. It really has been great to read and has given me a lot of new perspectives on what I have been going through.

I am recently out a relationship in which I fell head over heels in love with a girl. We started dating and to say I was on top of the world would be an understatement. We dated for a year (talked marriage and kids) and at about that point I started getting feelings that it just was not right for me. I broke up with my girlfriend and for a long time after we went back and forth with dating each other, each time me breaking up with her.

I thought I was going to be able to move forward and move on with my life and at one point we stopped talking. About a month later she informed me she was seeing someone else and my world pretty much crashed. I was in such a bad place as I went through all those feelings of "I gave up the best thing ever," to "what is wrong with me," to "I will never love again," to "how could she be with someone else," to "why could I not love her before, this pain is unbearable," etc.

To say the last few months have been hard would be an understatement. But this book has been a big part of my life and helped me get through those sleepless nights, those unending days, and I can see now that I am now on a road to recovery. It is a process and this book has helped me see how to make it through that process.

One's first true love has been so hard to get over, especially knowing I was the one who ended it every time. I could not understand why I was saying goodbye every time to the one person I loved. All I could do was try to figure out what was wrong with me, there had to be some defect within me. Then to add to the confusion even more, after all the times I said goodbye, when I found out she was with someone else, was when I really hit rock bottom. That was when I really started to question my decisions. That is when I picked up this book and started reading.

This book takes a look at things from both sides, whether you are the one breaking up or you are the one who was broken up with. I feel like in my situation I was on both sides! I have learned so much about myself and I really have started to take a turn for the better. I have setbacks, but I have to understand that I am going to have those days and the good thing is is that those days are a lot fewer and farther between than thirty days ago.

I lost my best friend, the one person that I truly opened up to and really shared my core with. It has been hard for me knowing she is out there and close to me, yet so far away in so many respects. It has been hard having the one person that I really want to talk to about all this, not there for me. It is not everyday that we lose our best friend. It is something that I have struggled with, but I have realized it is something I have to deal with. This book shows you how to work through that.

I know I have a ways to go, but I am progessing. This book has been an amazing help to me as I have truly had the hardest time of my life. I even emailed the authors and they got back to me right away, what a great feeling!

I would recommend this book highly to those who are working on mending their heart, no matter what the situation.

This is the only book that I can wholly endorse for both men and women. For one thing, the cover isn't pink-whoever said you can't judge a book by its cover wasn't scanning shelves for breakup books. Also, it's written by two men so it doesn't have that "you go girl!" tone that one often finds in relationship books written for women (in other words, most relationship books.) The other reason I highly recommend this book to anyone is that it's the only breakup recovery book I know of that is written for any person in the throes of heartbreak, including the person who ended the relationship. Because of this, the book is very balanced and objective, with absolutely no blame-laying or victim-playing rhetoric in any of the thirty short chapters.

Overall, I found How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days extremely pragmatic, organized, and well written. It's sympathetic without being touchy-feely and it's serious without being boring. Good work, Bronson and Riley! You go, guys!

Sample of Suggested Activities:
Clean your office, have a good laugh, have a good cry, make love to strangers (telepathically), exercise, spend a half-hour in a floatation tank, drink hot cocoa at bedtime

Best/Most Useful Line or Advice:
"Did you work too hard to maintain your recent relationship? Bend over backward, swallow your pride, play the doormat to prevent any conflicts?" Wow! How did they know? Wait a minute-did I date one of these guys?

Weirdest/Not At All Useful Line or Advice:
On day 14, Bronson and Riley recommended a two-week checkup to "acknowledge the truth." I don't think they meant that I should go for coffee with my ex, burst into tears, and hurl accusations while nosy Starbucks patrons looked at him like he was the Antichrist-but that's pretty much what I did and, let me tell you, it didn't help much. Two weeks is too soon to schedule an exit interview because the pain is still awfully fresh. I think it's much better to wait and "acknowledge the truth" when the truth is that you no longer give a damn.

This book is great for:
People who have never read a self-help book
Virgos

My ex dumped me about 23 or 24 days ago. I got this book based on someone who really liked it. For the most part I'm very happy with it. Some of the stuff repeats over and over again, but I must admit I am feeling much better, and the book has definately helped me out. I'm to the point where I mentally have forgiven my ex, and feel comfortable with not ever seeing her again. I think after 30 days I'll be strong enough to make my ex a VERY distant memory. The one thing I want to caution on, is that 30 days is just a guideline, it could take longer for people depending on the situation....

I'm not a review writer, but I really wanted to share this experience. When your heart is broken (and mine was busted to pieces), you feel weak and vulnerable and unsure where to turn. Then you see all these books and advice columns on the net. I went that route and studied a lot of them, but nothing really lived up to the promise until a friend loaned me her copy of this book. Well, after months of being stuck in such broken-heartedness, this book really made a positive difference. I am now happier than I've ever been, self-assured, dating, but in no rush. And none of this would have happened without this book. Listen to me: If you're going through a broken-heart experience, there is nothing better out there than this. I know. I did the research. There is nothing that even comes close. I urge you to read this book. It is the only one I found that really lives up to its promise.

I gave this book four out of five stars, not because it isn't a very helpful book but because a book can only do just so much. You have to create the final star yourself. I did read this book over the 30 days prescribed and followed its advisements as carefully as anyone could. I do feel much much better now because the book helped me understand why he wasn't for me, how separation experiences of the past can come into play and,I learnt how I could make more sensible choices as I stood up and learnt who 'me' is. I also learnt about so many things I could do immediately to help myself feel better both in action and general understanding of myself. I still miss the comfort of him but I suppose that's only natural. This just happened six weeks ago and now with St. Valentine's Day peaking around the corner, one day after my birthday, I might add, it's very hard and I just wish the right one would come along. Thirty days ago, I didn't think anything would help me in the slightest. Now after reading this book, I have hope and some positive feelings about myself once again. I wonder if the authors have found love in their own lives or, if they wrote simply out of their own experiences. I say this because it feels like they had to have survived hard losses to have this kind of unique wisdom. The book has an honest quality without ramming advise down your throat, like a supportive father. I never knew my own dad but I think I've discovered two brilliant surrogates here.

I couldn't get over my ex even after we had been broken up for a year. I felt so helpless I was willing to try anything, but this book actually helped me put things into perspective. I feel more confident and understood. Read this if your heart is broken!

I picked this book up on a whim and thought it very helpful in getting over a past relationship. The authors treat the broken heart as a universal phenomenon, one that every human goes through at least once in their lives. I found this insight very comforting, knowing that there were millions of other people with similar feelings. The authors clearly speak from experience. They are consequently sympathetic towards the broken heart, but that does not stop them from offering a gung-ho program for people finally to start healing themselves and learning to love again. This book also offers helpful advice on how to establish an effective physical platform from which to initiate the psychological healing process: eating right, exercising, etc. Highly recommended!!!!!!!!

First I never thought I'd buy a book like this, and second, I never thought I'd write a review. I've read 2/3 of the book, but that is enough to tell me this book is a gift to my soul.

Every single page is full of love, compassion and realistic advice. Thank you for skipping the platitudes and triteness and for getting to the heart of the matter. (no pun intended) The end of a relationship hurts whether you end it, she ends it or you mutually agree to end it. It hurts whether you are at fault or she is at fault or you both are at fault. It just hurts and this book teaches first that you must give up your pride and admit that it hurts. The pain can vary, but for me I found out something I didn't even know was there.

The relationship I thought I was hurting over was not the one causing me the most pain. It was the one before. I was married for 17 years and ended up divorced. I remarried my college girlfriend who I thought was the love of my life. That marriage lasted (legally) 2 years and 9 months. After that I dated around some and then fell for a woman who I thought was the opposite of every woman I had ever fallen for - but that turned out not to be true... she was the same in many ways.

When I ended that relationship (I ended it, and I was mean when I did it, but there was no other way to make sure the door was shut tight.) I mourned her for weeks. Then I realized that I was in mourning and lonely for weeks before I actually ended the relationship. When I read this book and really looked at myself I realized that I was mourning this relationship AND my second marriage. A double whammy.

This book has helped me uncover some ugly truths about myself and the patterns I keep repeating. There comes a time when grief is over and you move on, but if you move on too fast you don't learn and grow. If you linger too long you get stuck. This book's prescription is just right. Treat yourself well, be kind to yourself, understand and let yourself feel and then let yourself heal.

I am learning to let go of what my heart keeps saying what was, and what might have been, but probably never really was or would have been, both with the second wife and the rebound girlfriend. Now I am beginning to see that it IS POSSIBLE that the next time can be better.

Thank you Howard and Mike.

I'm a pretty solid individual and very little affects me. But when my young bride left me during my honeymoon, that pretty much did me in. I was far too proud to ask for help but my sister sent me this book which at first, I thought was a topic exclusively for women. But this book allowed me to get back on track and, to do so privately. No therapists for me, thank you. In fact, after reading about half of it, I began to understand that much of my downfall was from the choices I made. What was I thinking? Actually, I don't think I was thinking. When a book changes your life for the better, you should tell people about it. I know there are men like me who feel they have no place to turn. This book is not just for woman. It has tools that help people and you know how we like tools. If this book could help me, I think it could pretty much help anyone in the same situation.