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A Good Man Is Hard To Find Unless You Ask God To Be Head Of Your Search Committee

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This book is interesting, thought provoking & written in a very warm, engaging style. However, one thing bothers me. In the book, she states that her current husband was dating two different women, having sex with both of them, while courting her simultaneously. He later dumped the two women, picked her to be his wife, but as far as I can tell his attitude is, "hey, I'm a man and these women were giving it up to me but I picked you to marry because you're the virgin", shrug, shrug, wink, wink "don't you feel special". The author's attitude in turn is, "this is how men are, women have to deal with it, if you want the man, stay a virgin".

For that alone, I give this book 1 star. It seems like the author is so in love with being married, she doesn't see the toad that she married. And I'd like to say that if a man displayed such a lack of sexual purity while single, don't assume he's all of a sudden going to remain pure just because he's married. (Kobe, anyone?). Women have to stop thinking that marriage makes an impure man, pure. Or that marriage will turn a toad into a prince. It's not surprising that the divorce rate amongst Christians is higher than the divorce rate amongst non-Christians with that kind of "marriage is all important, do anything you can to get married" attitude that's prevalent amonst so many Christian women.

The faulty premise in this book is, do whatever you can to get the ring! (woo hoo)

I have recomended this book to all my single friends.This book encourages the single woman to have faith in what you are believing God for,but also reminding you to keep busy for God, and he wil "find you."

This is a very good book, especially for those women who have lost their hopes of ever meeting a good man. It will help you to trust and believe that God is still in control of your life. You will realize that no matter what you do, it is not up to you, but up to God and if you wait on God, He will bless you at His time. I recommend it.

I was laughing aloud and nodding my head before I even finished the Preface.

I've always been a little leery of "how to find a man" books because, in a way, the thought of them made me feel desperate. However, after my share of dead-end relationships and broken hearts, I have decided that searching for God's plan in this area of my life is no different than any other area. Mrs. Pool claims from the very beginning that God wrote this book, and she was merely the vessel. Because it has changed how I view dating, it has really changed my life.

The author first speaks on what should be our primary focus when desiring a mate - our relationship with our Father. Her tone is lighthearted yet the attitude adjustment is made. God must be first. She then spends the next section outlining to us singles that life does not start with a husband. Let it start now. She also gives thoughts on topics such as blind dates, personal ads and church-hopping to "find a man." The next few chapters are dedicated to reminding us that men have expectations, too. We can't always mold them into whatever we want, so can he fulfill your needs as he is now?

I recommend this book to anyone single (or single again). It is non-judgmental no matter what mistakes have been made in the past. It stretches across the age gap as well.

A woman at church recommended this book to a few of us single girls. I read the book and found it had some great idea's! For instance, don't focus on finding a mate but focus on your relationship with God. Also trying new activities, cultivate new friendships and enjoying the life you have! The read was easy and the real life testimonies really were great. So it was good on that respect.

The only fault I have on the book was the authors own testimony. She reveals, with pride, that her now husband - was having a sexual relationship with another woman while they were dating. Also durning their courtship he continued to persue and pressure her into sex. She resisted him and kicks him out when it goes too far. But what bothers me is that the author even after she finds out (not sure if it's before marriage or during) writes as if this was ok, condones his behavior as normal man behavior and belittles the other woman like she's the fool for sleeping with him. Her man finally stops having sex with the other woman upon him deciding he wants marry the author. He had the best of both worlds (enjoying a celibate Christian girl and a Christian girl who has sex) and he choose the author.

I'm sorry but that's not a good testimony of how God can bring you a Christian Man into your life! It sounds like she settled for a two timing luke warm Christian man who hadn't dealt with sexual purity in his life but I'm glad God has turned it around for them now. However for the rest of us - Let's not settle for less. A man who is claiming to be a Christian needs to be walking in purity, especially sexually and respect you as woman. He should respect you by wanting to keep you pure before God while courting you and not cheat on you durning the coutrship! If he cheats while your dating 9 times out of 10 he's going to cheat while your married!

With that fact I rated this product with one star. Single Christian woman shouldn't think that you should have to settle for a man that is sexual loose!

This is one of the best relationship books I have EVER read. By the end of the second chapter I was saying, "Who needs a man? I have a LOT of life to live and give all by myself." (LOL) All kidding aside, this manuscript is chockful of good, sound, wise, and Godly advice. My hats off to Jo Lynne Pool. Although "A Good Man is Hard to Find" was written many years ago, it's content is as fresh as if it were written in this very hour. Real life testimonials at the end of the book, including that of Ms. Pool, give women in every place and every stage of life hope that they can be made whole by the love and power of Jesus Christ -- in and out of relationships! Perhaps you'll write again one day, Jo Lynne, although what you shared in this book has sustained me until today!

I recently picked up a copy of this book and I found it very helpful. In some areas it reaffirmed that I was doing the right thing and it shed some light in other areas--in particular as it relates to understanding the the Single Christian Male.