From the Back Cover
This book deals with the strong-willed child: the problem kid who gives his parents fits, the child who doesnt seem to mesh with the family system, the one who doesnt seem to buy its system of values, standards, and beliefs. Over time, he gets labeled the "bad kid," and parents assume he's the problem in the family. But that assumption contributes to the dilemma. The strong-willed child is part of the family, not separate from it. She affects the family and the family affects her. Unfortunately, most of the time she feels like an alien. She wishes her family would leave her alone, and they wish she would be less of a problem. But unless the two get together -- unless every member of the family learns the part he or she plays in the family's difficulties -- the dilemma will never be solved. There are many handbooks out there that give parents tips for "handling" their strong-willed child. If you are looking for a handbook of easy answers, a tried-and-true list of parenting methods, you will not find it here. What you will find, however, is freedom: the freedom to "unlabel" your child, the freedom to understand the underlying emotional system of your family, and the freedom to break the chains that bind your family in unhealthy relationships. Your strong-willed child will probably never be "cured." But in writing this book, I hope to help you modify your style of parenting so that it becomes part of the solution, not part of the problem. Eventually the strong-willed "piece" in your family "puzzle" will find a perfect fit.
About the Author
Randy Reynolds is the director of Renewal Counseling in Tucson, AZ. He is the author of Compassion Fatigue and the co-author of six books in the Recovery-Discovery Series.;Paul Moede is a freelance writer and director of creative services for the International Bible Society in Colorado Springs.