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The Great Sex Secret

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The Great Sex Secret makes it really clear: happiness in your sex life hinges on one thing -- real, reliable orgasms for both partners, in a context of communication and trust. In a matter-of-fact, warm and deeply informed way, educator and writer Kim Marshall challenges the deep habits of silence and ignorance that keep so many people from sexual happiness. He then goes on to give readers wonderfully concrete help on how to make sure that if good sex is what you want, good sex is what you can get. With great attention to detail, readers are treated to descriptions of a variety of techniques to ensure that both partners in a heterosexual couple will experience orgasm. It's wonderfully "hands on."

I have been trying to figure out who Kim Marshall reminds me of as he writes this book -- and of course it is Fred Rogers! Marshall has the kind of wise, funny and factual approach to sex that Mr. Rogers had on the subject of feelings. He wants us to be completely comfortable with sex, to make good use of what we know about human anatomy, rather than to ignore it, to form a habit of communicating honestly with our partner as we are having sex, and to build on that emotional honesty to have really GREAT sex.

The other interesting thing is that this book is essentially about equality in relationships. It turns out that the path to mutual, reliable orgasms is based on a man's absolute commitment to a woman's sexual pleasure. In his own unpreachy way, Marshall takes strides toward a vision and an experience of human sexuality that is really fair, and really fun. There is a subtle power in this book that makes me very glad I am giving it to my college-bound son and nephew.

The Great Sex Secret is one of those rare books that confirms a vast amount of what you knew -- or suspected -- but had not actually been able to put into words. Serious students of human sexuality will recognize its solid research base. The rest of us can use this slim volume as it is intended: as a tool to help our lovers and ourselves -- and the lovers among our family members and friends -- become happier people.

This one is destined to become a classic! Try it out on someone YOU love.

Kim Marshall's book is a delight to read! Even though at first I was skeptical of one secret that would solve everyone's problems, by the end of the book Marshall had me totally convinced his suggestions can help most (heterosexual) couples have better sex - and more fulfilling relationships. His incorporation of facts is always interesting and balanced with humor and charm that make the book as enjoyable and funny as it is important. Its emphasis on the connections between physical and emotional intimacy in both one time "hook-ups" and long-term relationships is persuasive and insightful. It is a crucial read for people with any level of sexual experience, and I have already begun recommending the book to all of my friends!

There are too many sex advice books. Most of them have 3-4 pages of useful information and a lot of 'fluff' to fill the book into a marketable product. The Great Sex Secret is really no exception. Would I ruin the author's chances for a couple more bucks by telling the secret? Nah, not me. Someone else, maybe, but not me. OH OK! I'll tell you, just stop your begging.

The secret: a man can stimulate a woman's clitoris to orgasm at the same time he is having intercourse. That's it.

Marshall makes the book worthwhile by including a decent review of the basic literature on sex research over the past 50 years. He also refers to ancient sex manuals, usually with the criticism that they provide no detail on technique. But Marshall is guilty of the same flaw. He informs us that a man can assume a position to stimulate the clitoris while making love, but provides no illustrations or details. You can probably figure it out, but many sex manuals on the market are not shy about providing specific details regarding positions, touch, pressure, placement of hands/fingers/mouth, etc. Marshall has written a good review of sex research, and managed to throw in a 'secret' that works. He loses a star, however, for being guilty of the very crime that he accuses others of committing.

Kim accurately reveals the two major hurdles in experiencing great sex in a marriage; his rapid or premature ejaculations and her lack of consistant orgasms during coitus. I ought to know after 50+ years of marriage and raising four children.
He offers three solutions, the first of which is the very best. While the other two might be of some help, another solution would be by the creative use of sexual positions; first, to take the pressure off of the husband and second, to accelerate the wife's orgasm. When it comes to great sex, timing, of course, is everything.
It would be wonderful to recreate the sexual anatomy of humans as Kim points out, but a careful study would reveal that the Creator knew exactly how to make Adam and Eve, and how their bodies should respond during great sex.
I must congratulate Kim for his excellent effort to educate his children when they reached eighteen. I know of another author, Royal Yu, who has made a similar attempt in informing his kids when they are ready to learn about marital sex by writing "Secrets of the Wedding Night" now available on Amazon all over the world. If you need a complete, detailed sex education of the male and female sex acts, I highly recommend its reading. Good luck for great sex in your marriage!

Here's a secret to share with a friend.... Kim Marshall's remarkable book about sexual relations between lovers is a treasure and one of those rare books that will change your life. In our sex- obsessed culture, Marshall points out how little we really talk amongst ourselves and our lovers about the most intimate and pervasive of all subjects. I have no idea why this book hasn't become a national blockbuster but here is a guarantee, it will. It is hard to read the book and not tell someone about it and its "secrets". Secrets that are so obvious, we have trouble seeing them.

Sex is a two- way street and there are certain biological and cultural imperatives that dictate an essential truth: The needs of the woman must come first. A simple secret but one that is rarely acknowledged even in today's world.

Mr. Marshall is a gifted writer who is both informative and humorous. In a popular and commercial culture that buries us with impossible- to- meet demands on sexual performance, he clearly gives the reader guidance on how to build a trusting and loving sex life... without frustration.

So, buy one for your partner, friend or adult child to help them understand these truths about men and women - then enjoy a fulfilling and satisfying sex life that will last a lifetime.

Spread the word, The Great Sex Secret is an amazing book and an absolute must read.

You will have Mr. Marshall to thank for changing your life.

For years books, movies, and TV programs have set the expectation of mutual climax during sex. But does that really happen? For as many as 85% of women the answer is no.

Most of us have seen the hilarious scene in "When Harry Met Sally" when Meg Ryan fakes an orgasm with much screaming, yelling, and thrashing about. A woman at the next table deadpans "I'll have what she's having."

Kim Cattrall who played Samantha Jones, the vixen in the series Sex In The City, confesses that she was sexually unsatisfied for most of her adult life. I'm reminded of the phrase "I'm not a doctor, but I play one on TV."

Unfortunately, too many women today share their frustration! Traditional intercourse almost always ends in climax for men, but rarely for women. While this might satisfy women over the short term, over the long term it leads to frustration, anger, and bitterness.

Kim Marshall, sex educator and author, provides answers to solving this problem in "The Great Sex Secret."

Marshall has worked in public education since graduating from college in 1969. He was trained as a sex educator and began developing and teaching a sex education curriculum, reaching more than 1,700 young adolescents over the years.

Marshall addresses, in simple, clear, and concise ways how to address the physical and emotional challenges that prevent so many couples from achieving mutual satisfaction and shared intimacy. While technique is important, you also need to address communication, love and romance. All those things that strengthen a relationship, especially a marriage.

Great Sex that satisfies both partners can and does happen. I highly recommend it!

Read "The Great Sex Secret" by Kim Marshall to find out how!

This tidy little volume addresses a very substantive, serious matter - satisfaction of both partners in a sexual relationship - in a breezy, popular, playful and engaging way. Above all, Marshall's disarmingly frank, unselfconscious, well-researched and rigorous treatment of the female orgasm will prove invaluable to females and males alike who seek reciprocity and intimacy in their relationship. Good advice has been a long time coming. Here it is!

Can I rate with negative stars????

First of all this book only talks about the reasons why us women don't enjoy sex and how we cannot achieve sex through intercourse, EVER! how ridiculous is that! It will only discourage a woman further to the thought of great sex. According to this book women don't enjoy sex like men and never will, we are just psychologically and physically incompatible and how this has been since the beginning of time except women never spoke out. Women just put up with mediocre sex out of obligation to satisfy their partner's sexual urges. I believe 4 pages talk about ways to improve and that is through clit stimulation but the rest is all repetitive trash about why sex sucks for women. Oh yea very encouraging, NOT!!

This is book is highly repetitive which I found to be very annoying and very negative in respect to a woman enjoying sex. If you are seeking a better sex life, DO NOT purchase this book, it will not help you it will only disappoint.

ps - Why this author wrote this book, I don't know, she is full of negativity. It should have never been published, instead of taking steps forward to enjoyable sex, it takes you steps back, please don't buy!! What a waste of time and money.

I have 3 problems with this book:

1) It discourages couples to even TRY orgasms from penetration alone. While it is true that most women do not experience orgasms this way, it is NOT true that all of these women are unable or incapable to do so. Mental barriers and lack of experimentation can prevent them from enjoying this. With the right approach, many women can certainly learn how to achieve orgasms through vaginal stimulation alone.

2) Some of the author's refutations are very weak. It's like he REFUSES to accept that many couples are enjoying orgasms without external stimulation of the clitoris. "Maybe these are women who fake orgasms during sex, so they are likely to lie during scientific surveys as well." Come on...

3) The book has a lot of fluff and too many quotes. I found myself VERY bored at times. I was also expecting some specific details on how to help a woman achieve orgasms, some elaboration on techniques, but there was none.

I think this book is highly overrated, but I still recommended it to everyone, especially those sexually frustrated couples. It's a good read and you can learn a lot.

"The Great Sex Secret" is a very good book. It is short, clearly written, and most interesting. I learned alot. Put simply, the book offers practical information on how women and men can experience orgasm during intercourse. Reading this book together is an ideal way for partners to discuss their sex needs
The book is helpful for various audiences: young women, young men, and older couples.
Humor is employed throughout the book in a pleasing way. The result is that the reader smiles alot, even chuckles, without the importance of meaningful sex being disparaged.