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Great Sex: A Man's Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex

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I've been looking for a book for many years to recommend to male clients that teaches how to really touch a woman. Working with women struggling with low desire, I know that, too often, low libido results from her partner's poor technique and a lack of education about a woman's sexual response. Most men learn about sex either from pornography which is completely misleading or from experience which may or may not have taught him what he needs to know. Even sexually experienced men may not know what really turns a woman on. Castleman has produced the best comprehensive book that I know of, to educate and help a man become a superior lover.

What's not to like about a man who is confident in bed, knows how to please a woman, can always get an erection on command, and can have long-lasting, satisfying sex every time? Wait - you say that's not you? Read GREAT SEX, by Michael Castleman, and it will be.

Michael Castleman makes it clear that he's not a doctor, or a sex therapist. He does have thirty years of experience dealing with men's sexual issues, however, as an educator and a journalist. This experience shows in every chapter of GREAT SEX. The first part focuses on "The Principles of Great Sex for Men". This is where the author's main theme for the book comes in: stop trying to perform like a porn star, and start using your entire body to pleasure yourself and your partner. Each one of the senses should be involved in lovemaking, and Michael Castleman gives great examples of how to make that happen. The second part focuses on women's sexuality and well being, but keeping in mind that the book is targeted at men, this is more of a learning lesson than an owner's manual. Still, the advice and knowledge offered here is invaluable. In the third part, the author focuses on blending the best of both male and female sexual issues. Birth control, oral pleasure, aphrodisiacs - you name it, you'll find it here.

Somehow managing to avoid sounding clinical and detached, and yet also maintaining a friendly, conversational tone throughout the book, Michael Castleman offers a remarkably comprehensive tome between the covers of this hardbound book. Pick it up today if you're looking for a new way to please yourself, and your partner. You may be surprised at what you didn't know, and how much more satisfying your sex life can be.

Some things bear repeating and the efficacy of Michael Castleman's book Great Sex, is one of them.
Nowhere will a reader find another work that provides so much insightful information on how men and women can work together to create delectably healthy sexual relationships. From lackluster sex to male performance anxiety to the dearth of knowledge surrounding the female sexual response, Castleman tackles virtually every sexual issue affecting couples today.
According to Castleman, Great Sex is something a couple creates together, not something innate or imitated.
One of Castleman's most salient points comes in his discussion of media messages (primarily those conveyed through pornography) and how they wreak havoc on our personal sexual relations. He encourages us to understand that real life luxurious sex is far better than media inspired sex -- where there seems to be a rush to the genitals and then to intercourse.
Men who read this work will find a wealth of information and advice regarding penis size, ejaculatory control, masturbation, female pleasure, and the changes that come with age and that can occur through diet and exercise. I do believe men will breathe a sigh of relief when reading this book, for it lets them know they are not alone in their sexual struggles. As a woman, I was surprised to find that the majority of men experience sexual problems, too, and delighted to learn that my husband's problems were not problems at all, but common aspects of male sexuality.
There is another equally important way men will benefit from this book, and that is in the way it normalizes women as well. That is, Castleman has finally provided men and women with a book that doesn't approach female pleasure as if it were an anamoly, a mystery never to be solved. I've read many books for men about female pleasure, and most of them talk condescendingly about women's sexual response or they convey the notion that it is something that can never be understand because each woman is so different in terms of how she responds to sexual stimuli.
Castleman, however, approaches this subject outside the cloak of mystery and makes women's slower and more individualized sexual response easy to understand, completely normal, and full of potential. He stresses the normalcy of the vast majority of women who cannot orgasm through intercourse alone (a fact so important that Castleman, thankfully, repeats it on a number of occasions), and in doing so, Castleman encourages men and women to discard the age old belief that women, like men, should orgasm through intercourse and asks us to explore all the other avenues that can lead to orgasmic pleasure for both men and women.
This request alone erases the idea of foreplay (previously understood as a prelude to the real thing - intercourse) and makes all we do (kissing, touching, stroking, rubbing, licking, loving) the feature show. Moreover, it slows the pace of sex for both men and women and increases their potential ten fold for the kind of sex that will leave them completely sated and eager for the next encounter.
This is a must read for anyone who would like to experience - for a lifetime -- GREAT SEX.
leejogger

He does repeat some of the same things over again, as one annoyed reader said, but I found that to be important because people forget. If it's an important thought, bring it back up in various chapters in different ways. I read something on page 50, and didn't "really" grasp it until page 150. Once was not enough to achieve the ahhh-haa experience of grasping a new idea/concept/view.

Now granted, I knew a lot of the things in here about the psychology of sex/behind sex, or the changes in the body that affect sexual habits and thoughts, however, I feel it was highly worth reading every word in the book to find out the rest. If someone asked me for advice on an issue, I feel I would be able to give him or her enough info to help them, or guide them in toward the right direction.

If you're looking for a "how to book" with pictures, this isn't for you. If you looking for how to have great sex by understanding the other person, and yourself (yes, yourself), I would recommend it.

We got this book because my husband was having trouble cuming. The chapter on ejaculation problems helped him a lot. Then we read the rest of the book, and realized that Great Sex is NOT just a "man's" guide. It's for women and couples, too. I thought I knew all about women's sexuality (being one). But I was amazed at how much this "man's" book taught this woman. I can truly say that since reading Great Sex, my husband and I have had better sex, in fact, great sex.

Great Sex by Michael Castleman should have been entitled Great Love and Sex. It contains a life time of mature and caring information. I have given copies of this book to each of my children and I recommend it to all of the couples I see in marriage and family counseling. This is a book that can change your life and marriage for the best. It is as useful for women as it is to men.

As a sex researcher and educator, men always ask me what makes a good lover. I still try to answer their questions but now I can also recommend a book that will explain to them what a good lover is AND teach them how to become one. I encourage all my students to get this book, especially the men. Most complaints I hear from women are covered in Dr. Castleman's insightful and informative text. But these techniques can be used in more than just heterosexual relationships. Anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation could benefit from "Great Sex." And who doesn't want to have great sex?! Thanks, Michael!

Being a woman I can honestly say "Every man should own this book"! Ladies, do yourself a favor and go get this book for you husbands, boyfriends, etc. - you and your partner will be happy you did!!

I picked up this book because of the sexy cover. I had two problems: premature ejaculation, and a desire difference in my relationship--I wanted to have sex more often than my girlfriend. I thought my premature ejaculation made her turn off to sex. Well, the chapter on lasting longer fixed me up in like a month. It was amazing. Simple suggestions. And all of a sudden I had really good control, could last pretty much as long as I wanted. Amazing. If this was all I got from the book, it would be well worth the price. But lasting longer didn't fix our desire difference. I still wanted it more than her--much more because now premature ejaculation wasn't a problem anymore. So I flipped to the chapter on desire differences. Very interesting. We both read it and talked about it. It helped. We took some of the suggestions. We started scheduling our sex, making an evening of it. I still want sex more than she does. But our difference is less of a problem than it was. Great book. Thank you, Michael Castleman. Thank you very much!

Not everybody has had the advantage of being taught the fundamentals of sexual relations, method and protocol. No birds-and-the-bees lecture, no sex education in high school, no useful advice from "more experienced" friends. No wonder there's a plethora of frigidity and premature ejaculation, the unspoken secret among couples. And why Americans are so cranky these days.

GREAT SEX by Michael Castleman is a refreshing guidebook to sexuality for novices, veterans, and students. It takes The Joy of Sex to its ultimate (excuse the pun) climax. Mr. Castleman speaks to men and women of all ages and gender preferences in a friendly, informative voice. He is less clinical than Everything You Wanted To Know About Sex and more comprehensive than Our Bodies, Ourselves.

You may think that you know EVERYTHING having to do with sexual performance, sexual health, sexual faux-pas, and/or how to enhance your peak experience. I can assure you without meeting you, you are incorrect. This book is comprehensive in these topics and then some, and I would safely predict it will become a classic reference in a very short period of time.

Mr. Castleman deals with topics that men are loathe to even discuss with their personal physicians, such as premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. He not only explains the physiology of each condition, but also offers advice on how partners can give support and make remedial exercises fun and part of sexual relations. Mr. Castleman offers a particularly sensitive chapter on how readers can rebuild their sexual relationship with their partners who have suffered a sexual assault.

And for readers who yearn for adventure and imagination, there is an entire chapter on aphrodisiacs. Not your grandpa's Spanish Fly, I can assure you. And you don't have to enroll in a yoga course to enjoy the positions offered to enhance stimulation.

And there's more -- MUCH MORE.

Mr. Castleman transforms two people engaging in sexual relations to Lovers. Lovers who can use sex as ONE of many ways to express the feeling-without-words. Sex becomes a new second language that only your partner can understand and appreciate. Sex is no longer an experience that leaves you more alone than before you started it.

In summary, I could not put down this book. I was amazed at how much I did not know about human sexuality and how I could turn my bedroom into a French boudoir with just a few of Mr. Castleman's suggestions. He has done his homework, his prose is very readable, and to recapitulate, I predict this book will be a reference for many years and will be found on middle-class bookshelves instead of between mattresses and boxsprings, which is where one would find my library in the 70's.