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4.0 out of 5 stars
Wanting better, from a developmental point of view, February 24, 2004
This review is from: Greater Expectations: Overcoming the Culture of Indulgence in Our Homes and Schools (Paperback)
William Damon is a very experienced developmental psychologist who has written one of the classic books on social and personality development. In this book he addresses in conversational language how American kids came to be the least empathic, least knowledgeable, and most indulged and self-indulged children in the world. Obviously, this outcome is not entirely the fault of the kids themselves: the faults are multiple. Nevertheless, this cultural battle has, at its stake, "the lives...and hopes of our young" (p. xii).
Damon documents the singular effects of under-privilege and over-privilege on youngsters, such that youngsters now lack wholesome ambition and are fundamentally demoralized. He tries very hard to not sound like a Cassandra, but the statistics and examples are those that we read in our ordinary daily papers, so it seems reasonable to agree with him that youngsters in this country are in significant trouble.
Dr. Damon then offers a middle-of-the-road perspective on correcting these problems. He clearly dislikes the fact that politicians take "sound bite" positions on this cultural war and use mistakes and myths to polarize the public.
He speaks clearly about "respectful engagement" with youngsters, expecting something back from them, not treating children as little ceramic vessels that will break at the first challenge in life, the benefits of discipline in terms of self-social-and-moral growth, and how schools, teachers, parents, community workers, and the youngsters themselves can recover the true spirit of youth--"a transcendant sense of purpose linked to community and spirituality [morality]."
I always like Damon's books. He is reasonable and clear. He has a great passion for youngsters. He believes that it is not too much to expect that all youngsters should be able to be honest, decent, respectful, fair, and responsible.
I hope you enjoy this book.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Some good points, December 18, 2007
This review is from: Greater Expectations: Overcoming the Culture of Indulgence in Our Homes and Schools (Paperback)
Fairly clearly written, the book starts well, as Mr. Damon explores the declining performances of many teens, and points toward some of the reasons for this decline. In Part II, he successfully debunks the focus on granted self-esteem, followed by a chapter urging a change in the educational debate; from 'we must do this' vs. 'we must do that' to 'let's do some of both in a balanced fashion, rather than focus on extremes'. Good points, well-presented so far.
There, however, the book started losing this reader. In Part III, the author presents a moderately unrealistic view of the innate morality of children, slipping obvious errors in with his obvious facts, such as: "Children do not routinely rob, kill, or lie: such behaviors are exceptional even among troubled populations." (pp. 156) To be blunt, the child who has not experimented with lying before the age of 10 has never existed; it's a behavior they must be taught to avoid.
In presenting his suggestions for improving parenting skills, he debunks several of the fashionable theories, again urging a more balanced approach. Unfortunately, as he explores his field (child development), he uses more specialized language, often not defining his terms, making for a less-enlightening read for people not familiar with the language of the field.
As he tackles schooling, his view of reality differs greatly from mine. While he reluctantly admits that public education needs to be "improved and reformed", he bewails the existence of private schools, which he terms "schools-for-profit". He acknowledges that nonprofit parochial schools have an honorable tradition, but expresses dismay over the idea that a school could be profitable. (Perhaps he's never encountered a high-end private school?)
He then extols the virtues of the public school in American history, insisting that this is the institution that offers the greatest hope for today's youth, fairly persuasively - if you're not a parent who has come to view today's public schools as a large part of the problem. These excerpts are fairly typical:
"Because schools, when they are working well, have instructional capacities that go far beyond those of any other institution, we must extend, rather than weaken, the universal reach of schooling. Whatever their present-day shortfalls, public schools are still the last, best hope for millions of young people."
"The value of formal schooling for children is so great that simple fairness demands that we provide exemplary versions of it for every child. If we fail in this, our beliefs in sustaining democracy will ring hollow, and our prospects for future social stability will become dismal."
At about this point, his arguments largely lose contact with any reality I've known. He claims that public school methods have remained unchanged over the last century, totally ignoring the remarkable amount of change in public schooling in the 20th century. He waxes enthusiastic over "dynamic new approaches to the craft of teaching", totally ignoring the fact that this phrase has been used with dismaying regularity and diminishing results over the past 60+ years.
At the end, he proposes new goals for the teachers. They should be taught to custom-craft a lesson plan for each student, teach all skills in a project-oriented fashion, and personally guide each student to success.
That this would require teachers to act as individual tutors to an entire classroom, at once, is never addressed - he does not seem to feel that this expectation is unrealistic.
This may be so in some world - maybe I'll see it someday.
All in all, 2 stars - there's some good stuff here, but be ready to deal with a remarkable load of chaff while you're getting the wheat.
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16 of 19 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
A painfully honest study of the deterioration of our youth., November 4, 1998
This review is from: Greater Expectations: Overcoming the Culture of Indulgence in Our Homes and Schools (Paperback)
Damon brings to light many controversial issues on the subject of child rearing and the deterioration of morals and values in today's young people. This book is a MUST for all parents, parents to be, or anyone else that cares about the future of society as a whole. Sadly, mediocracy has become acceptable, and is considered normal. As a result, our children are in trouble! Worse, what does the future hold for them? I cannot commend William Damon enough for his thorough and honest approach to this frightening challenge we face.
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